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Pregnancy secret

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Nmcl40 · 31/08/2024 09:48

I went to a concert last night with friends. I’m 6 weeks pregnant and obviously haven’t told anyone. I ordered lemonade and pretended it was gin and my friend gave me a glass of wine. When he wasn’t looking I gave it to my husband. Trying to hide it is so hard. What do I do in this situation? I hadn’t been drinking much in a while as we were trying to get pregnant so I was drinking non alcoholic stuff

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x2boys · 31/08/2024 12:36

Nmcl40 · 31/08/2024 09:48

I went to a concert last night with friends. I’m 6 weeks pregnant and obviously haven’t told anyone. I ordered lemonade and pretended it was gin and my friend gave me a glass of wine. When he wasn’t looking I gave it to my husband. Trying to hide it is so hard. What do I do in this situation? I hadn’t been drinking much in a while as we were trying to get pregnant so I was drinking non alcoholic stuff

Are people really going to notice at a concert ?
How often do you go out for this to be a problem?
I assume at some point you will be telling people

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Nmcl40 · 31/08/2024 12:10

I cannot lie for shit. If they straight up asked me ‘are you pregnant?’ I would end up just saying yes and it’s too early to tell anyone. I constantly have anxiety about something going wrong and would rather wait till I know everything is ok. With women it’s different though as everyone just assumes ‘pregnant’ when not drinking

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simpledeer · 31/08/2024 11:01

I don’t understand why you can’t just say you aren’t drinking at the moment or that you have quit alcohol for health reasons?

I know loads of people who don’t drink alcohol. No way would I assume someone was pregnant just because they wanted a lemonade. Unless they were usually a very heavy drinker.

NarnianQueen · 31/08/2024 10:52

Definitely keep doing what you're doing. Nobody watches to see if their friends are actually drinking the drink in their hand, but if you make an excuse they'll start wondering!

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Nmcl40 · 31/08/2024 10:11

I thought if I didn’t make excuses they may not have noticed or it would have made it more obvious. I thought was ok to ‘pretend’ I was drinking. I did bring 0% alcohol gin and tonic cans and poured them in before anyone noticed. I really don’t want to tell anyone yet as it’s so early.

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Tagyoureit · 31/08/2024 10:01

The "omg I'm so hungover, I might vomit if I get a whiff of alcohol" covers you for not drinking and morning sickness!

I told someone I was antibiotics and she said congratulations on your pregnancy!! 🤦‍♀️

SoupDragon · 31/08/2024 09:57

I wouldn't bother with the antibiotics/hungover type excuses. If you are the right kind of age and relationship status to be TTC most people will assume you are pregnant. Plus, you can't keep that up for every evening out.

Deception like you've already done is a better bet. A few sips of wine will be fine so that it looks like you're drinking it. Occasionally throw in the "designated driver" excuse.

Tbskejue · 31/08/2024 09:57

I often think the less fuss the less you draw attention to it; do what you did last night. Say you’re driving as you’re up early if pushed for a reason or that you’re TTC

OMGitsnotgood · 31/08/2024 09:54

I'd go with TTC as this will probably not be a surprise to anyone. 'I'm on antibiotics' no-one ever believes, which is a bit of a pain if you are actually on antibiotics and everyone assumes you are pregnant.

sesquipedalian · 31/08/2024 09:52

If you don’t want to tell people, make an excuse - I had a heavy night last night; I’m on antibiotics; I’m TTC; I’m having a few AFDs, I just don’t fancy wine today, thanks - even I’ve got a bit of a headache and I’ve just taken painkillers. Don’t overthink it - others want to be convivial and offer drinks, but they won’t think anything of an excuse so long as you don’t make a big deal of it.