To think pregnancy ruined your body?

What's the point of this post, if it's to ask if you're being unreasonable then yes. Well done we've all seen people like you, however the vast majority of parents at baby classes aren't back in their prepregnancy jeans, I've noticed the ones whose bodies suffer the most are those who are exclusively breastfeeding, because most people don't lose weight doing this, they hang onto every ounce of fat no matter how strict they diet and exercise, and they mourn their old body knowing it's not coming back because their baby getting the best nutrition is more important.

So smug. I also swam through my 1st pregnancy and did yoga but unfortunately my large baby did lead to stretch marks. My pelvic floor is damaged significantly by his traumatic back to back birth and will undoubtedly need further surgery at some point irrespective of how many keegals or how much exercise I do. Breastfeeding has ruined my breasts, they are droopy now.

You are of course lucky to have escaped unscathed but please stop smugly imagining it's because of your positive mental attitude or how you continued swimming or anything else. This absolute luck is more likely due to genetics both your own which will impact your own skins ability to stretch, the shape of your pelvis and also that of your baby which will impact the babies size and therefore ease of birth.

I think there is nothing more damaging to the mental health of new mothers than other mothers who are convinced they got it all right and by default the mother who is struggling (to come to terms with her weight gain, difficult birth, inability to be, baby who won't sleep, feed a fussy child etc) then feels she has done something wrong.

Yep. Gave birth on the Monday and by Wednesday lunchtime I had literal crowds surrounding me applauding my toned, sculpted body.

Sorry to all you saddos who weren’t like me. But if it makes you feel any better I looked rough all day Tuesday.

Out bodies are designed to be used, not just looked at.
On a very basic level pregnancy is what your body is for. How can something be destroyed by doing what it is designed for.?

Everyone is different.

Some people experience no discernible changes, some people find they have life-altering changes. Huge spectrum between those two extremes.

'Positivity' is often judgement and smugness rebranded.

DC1 I bounced right back, in fact I got married after and was the slimmest I’d been since college. Baby 2 coincided with lockdown and severe PND so struggled with comfort eating. I’m now a size 12 and healthy BMI but I won’t ever look like I did before kids. Boobs are also a bit sad nowadays. I look fine in clothes though just on the beach I feel more conscious!

3 ( inc two sections) Ruined my belly. But I never had a flat belly in the first place so it wasn’t two much of a loss.
I think if you are an apple shape you don’t have much to lose. Still got good boobs and they aren’t much affected even though I breast fed. Still got good legs.
If you are more of a pear or have a flat stomach you have more to lose. But maybe you can get it back easier?

No stretch marks here either. But having a child totally fucked up my pelvic floor, gave me permanent painful vagina (despite several interventions over the last 15 years) so even getting in and out of a car is wince-inducing. Also gave me saggy tits, despite not breastfeeding.

So....there you have it. I was active in pregnancy (also swimming ) and very few horrible symptoms. The birth totally changed my life for the worst, hence we have one DC.

Unbearably smug stealth boast. Wait until you have another one. 👏

I’m lucky to have returned to pre-pregnancy condition both times and I have no stretch marks.

I was smug when I had one too. Bounced back a few weeks later like nothing had happened. Continued hobbies, work, going out. I put this down to luck and genetics as my mother and grandmother had easy pregnancies and births too.

Despite that, I’ve now got 3 and I’m not so smug. I look and feel like I’m living in a tornado most days. I’m basically just surviving until they get to school! I think one is a completely different thing to having more than one…

The main thing is it made me stop caring.

My body feels the same. A few small stretch marks. I don’t feel ruined and all of my mum friends look great.