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To be so over my tight, selfish DH every birthday

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IAmMyUtterLackOfSurprise · 30/08/2024 22:15

I turned 57 yesterday. Birthday was a text from husband saying sorry for using last of milk, whoops happy birthday, kids up late, a card eventually. No card from DH, bottle of Lidl wine and a bunch of flowers. Booked dinner out for tonight but cancelled because DH work, rebooked for tomorrow, having had ‘well, I’m not bothered, but if YOU REALLY WANT TO’.

FB scrolling tonight I see a string quartet Coldplay concert by candlelight, not too far away, in an old priory, say ‘ooh, I’ve found a birthday pressy’ and his response was ‘hmph, not my sort of thing’..then ‘what, instead of dinner? What did you get me?’ (30 yr old scotch, dinner out with wine and a book actually’.

I fucking love Coldplay but will ever be able to afford to see them live, I thought this would be a lovely evening and cheapest tickets are £21 each.

Am I being stupid and unreasonable to just fucking want to be spoilt for one fucking birthday? My family have always been hard up so I’ve not had one birthday where it feels like a celebration.

I know this is first world problems, but am I being unreasonable to want to feel the centre of the world for ONE day?

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LostTheMarble · 30/08/2024 22:22

Book a single ticket to go. Hope you have a wild passionate affair with the cellist (I’m joking. Mostly.). In all seriousness, you’re 57 years old, how many more birthdays do you want with a miser who evidently doesn’t show you appreciation or respect for the things you enjoy?

doneandone · 30/08/2024 22:21

LuckysDadsHat · 30/08/2024 22:17

Book 1 ticket and take yourself and have a lovely evening. Fuck the rest of them.

Also his next birthday do fuck all. He doesn't deserve it.

Yep, I'd do this too!
He's a selfish prick

Createausername1970 · 30/08/2024 22:20

Go by yourself or take a friend.

Rethink what you do for his birthday next year.

CC222 · 30/08/2024 22:20

LuckysDadsHat · 30/08/2024 22:17

Book 1 ticket and take yourself and have a lovely evening. Fuck the rest of them.

Also his next birthday do fuck all. He doesn't deserve it.

THIS!!

KreedKafer · 30/08/2024 22:19

He sounds absolutely fucking unbearable.

Dotto · 30/08/2024 22:18

Selfish, selfish fucker (him)

LuckysDadsHat · 30/08/2024 22:17

Book 1 ticket and take yourself and have a lovely evening. Fuck the rest of them.

Also his next birthday do fuck all. He doesn't deserve it.