Shrieking child next door ALL DAY LONG! WWYD

What a little shit. We have a kid like that nearby too but it's not all day. Can't stand her!

You need to talk to them.

Perhaps there are additional needs and he can't stop. My neighbours have an autistic DS who spends hours at a time groaning while bouncing on the trampoline. I wouldn't dream of complaining.
Or he's just a noisy toddler and they haven't realised how annoying it is for other people. Start by having a word. Alternatively, find somewhere else to work. Terraced houses aren't designed to be quiet workplaces.

I don't think OP needs to say she's trying to work. The shrieking impacts her right to enjoy her home. And you can be polite w/o apologising.

However, reading this thread makes me think that in general people don't care anymore, or we all just need to accept that the shrieking children might be ND so we have to wear noise cancelling headphones.

I'm so glad I live where I do (just a regular village in Essex). I live among lots of terrace houses i.e close to each other. There are quite a few children. I love hearing them play. They can be loud, but there's a big difference between excited, happy children and day long shrieking.

Selfish parenting is everywhere now. For example in the past weeks I’ve experienced kids being allowed to make as much noise and disturbance as possible on trains. The neuro diversity argument is just an excuse for many parents. They themselves have their phones stuck in their hands with music/social media on loud and paying no attention to their kids. This didn’t happen even a few years ago. If parents don’t start parenting then society will go even more down the drain.

I find a ten minute blast of music at high volume sends the neighbour kids scuttling inside very quickly. They don't like it.

Ask them to pack it in.

Will help for a bit.

No one should have to but sometimes it’s the only option. You can’t force people to be quiet. Unfortunately 😅

Aw, don't worry, it's OK. Just fed up of people jumping on the bandwagon.

My youngest DC does this, he has Echolalia. There is no way to stop him making noise, but there is these fantastic acoustic squares you can get off Amazon for relatively cheap. I’ve put them all over every adjoining wall and the ceilings. Granted they don’t look overly aesthetic but they have saved my amazing neighbours sanity. Could you suggest them to your neighbour? It won’t solve the garden noise but will absolutely reduce it in your home (but they need to be on the neighbours side of the wall, not yours. They prevent noise escaping, not noise entering).

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To be honest ASD or not, if he’s two then … he’s two. I might be able to reason a bit with my three year old now and bribe him a bit (not guaranteed though) but no chance at two.

Id absolutely love for my child not to be autistic, sorry our lives are so boring and tedious for you to read about...

That is good advice. I was working at a house for two days a few weeks back and a lad (12 ish) a few doors down schrieked all day long. It drove me potty in that short time, anyone working nights or just wanting to enjoy their garden would have been driven mad. I have misophonia though so am intolerant of such noises, maybe they don't bother others as much.

My son has very, very little understanding of speech and if I told him it's not OK not to make sounds (which is the way he stims) he would understand exatly zero of it, it just makes him more distressed. And we have been trying different things for years. I no longer 'calm him down' in public.

This argument 'my kids are also ND and therefore I know everything there is about it and they dont do this..." is so shit when it comes from other parents of ND children, if YOU dont understand that neurodiversity can present differently in other kids than yours, how can we expect peopel with NT kids to get it.

Get some headphones. You can't ask someone to make their toddler be quiet,

So people just have to live with it and their lives be miserable?

No, they don't.

Because people are a lot more aware of ASD and different way it can present. And many more kids actually have ASD than you'd think/like to know. The amount of adults I know that only got the diagnosis as adults but were labelled as lazy/loud/disorganised/antisocial etc when young is pretty amazing.

It's hugely annoying. I hate the sound of children yowling and keening in public places. I can't understand why their parents don't tell them to shut up. For what its worth, I do have two non-neurotypical sons and, if they had ever carried on like this, I would have taken them inside or explained to them that it was unpleasant for other people.

@Mydietstartstomorrow have you actually tried talking to them about it?

If the child is ND and stims that way there is absolutely nothing the parents can do.

Yup I think my neighbours are sadly of the "it's just kids!!" and "some are louder than others!" mentality.

My kids knew if they shrieked they came in so we taught them it wasn't okay. Some parents aren't teaching them that....

OP actually hasn’t suggested anything. I don’t get the impression that she has even spoken to the neighbours. So all of this talk of “selfishness” is based on assumption.

There are noise regulations and the parents have to comply with noise only in certain hours. It’s one of the reasons you can’t do building work overnight. As soon as the parents step outside of the noise hours then the op can report them.

Because you can play without endless shrieking and screaming? Op isn’t suggesting he is locked up is she? Just to keep the noise down a bit.