Shrieking child next door ALL DAY LONG! WWYD

@tribalmango he's just turned 3, I have appointments made, luckily the HV seen so much when visiting me last year after having my third and final. And she flagged his behaviour up. We have an appointment finally to get to the bottom of it.

I've had private brain scans just to check if something sinister was happening.

I have a child that shrieks, and we've been to the GP. Who are beyond useless. We have a paediatrician. Useless. Community nurse, lovely but she deals with other issues. Specialist HV, who deals with it but sends us on numerous parenting and behaviour courses for Sen children and we've yet to find anything that helps.
We have so much involvement and support but there's nothing that can stop him, he just has to stop himself.
We've spoken to our neighbours and they couldn't care less. No sympathy, just their own thoughts and feelings matter. We even swapped the house so we are no longer next to one of their bedrooms and are downstairs. We're as considerate as were able to be.

Yet nothing will change this issue. Unless he stops doing it with time. There's no simple fix.

You don't say how old your son is, but I hope you are getting some support day to day and also to find the cause of his unhappiness. It sounds exhausting.

@Taytoface

I live in a town with "h" I do my upmost hardest to keep my son from not whining and crying all day but unless I physically hold his arms and tell him enough is enough, NOTHING works. I'm at the end of my tether and I cry every single day.

But if you are my neighbour, you will also know I stop said activities and if it gets too much, I move them back inside.

Parents will be annoyed too

Practice mindfulness

For all of those saying nothing can be done, suck it up and wear headphones would you be happy to suck it up when you had a newborn, can you imagine a newborn being woken by screeching all day every day?
Why should anyone have to put up with a screaming child hour after hour. I don't know what the solution is but it is really inacceptable to ask anyone to deal with that type of noise.

Could be SEN but could also be a bit spoiled. Yanbu

Keep a noise record and inform landlord

Cue a diagnosis of the shrieker being neuro-whatsit....

I have this with my neighbours - although thankfully not every day. It’s only really bad in summer but they appear to look after pre-school age grandchildren and they seem to think that the conifers that give us privacy are also some sort of soundproofing - they have a young girl who screams, shrieks, cries and whinges almost constantly and quite often I have to close my doors. I’be never said anything because on occasion in the summer we have friends round on an evening and we sit in the garden and have music on (not loud) and are chatting. I work on the basis that if they ever come to complain about the noise then that’s when I’ll tell them why I don’t wish to keep it down. Given the racket they make during the working day 3 times a week they don’t have a leg to stand on. And no, I don’t want to go in to the office or move my desk, I just have to close my door and turn the radio up.

Hmm that's a no then. I think you'll have to look into sound proofing

Again: she hasn’t even spoken to them!

If you don’t want to go and knock nothings going to ever change or attempt to.

I guess you could always start blasting some Eminem or Juice wrld everytime they go outside till they get the message 😅

Earplugs.

Because this way they can push all responsibility to find a solution back to you instead of accepting that some parents might just inconsiderate and selfish people.

It is the family that has a problem they need to fix it not shrug their shoulders and expect the the neighbours to put up with it. Get treatment. Solve their own problem.
No, I don't know what precisely. I am not specialised in that subject. I would be mighty pissed if a noisy brat hindered my life for 50 hours a week.
Doing nothing can never be the correct answer to any problem. That is what many of you are advocating.
That cannot be a good life for that child either. Doing something to fix his life is probably the most important factor.

Probably because it's the bit with the easiest fix? Headphones, moving location or going to the office are all easily within your control and can have immediate impacts.

This thread gives me flashbacks.

I had this in my old flat. The terraced houses across the road had gardens backing onto our complex. In the one house, there was a girl. For three years she would shriek scream, really high-pitched long undulating ones, all day every day. It was enough to make you go cross-eyed. It was so bad it used to sometimes, and quite literally, upset my stomach. Don't know if anyone will get it but real sphincter puckering sound. The screaming used to set their next door neighbour's dog off, big mastiff looking beast, so it would start barking and clamouring to get over the wall. The parents never intervened. Quite how that dog never got to that child I will never know, nor how the parents couldn't see the danger. The walls were not even that high as it's paws and head were atop that wall and the wall was quite flimsy. If that dog had been of a slightly different weight, that child may well have been in serious trouble. A relative visited me with her newborn the once and exclaimed, "WTF, my milk just curdled in my breasts".

I moved. Blissful silence. Then lockdown one came along and two families with lots of kids started spending their days on rugs outside the window of my new home on a patch of public grass. They treated it like their own private park. Screaming, shrieking, shouting, throwing stuff at the walls and windows of surrounding properties and at cars. All the while the mums sat there on their thick rugs with big pillows loudly gabbing away at warp speed and never getting up to deal with their kids. It was like I had died and gone to hell. Every lockdown they did this, seven days a week, from 9am to 7pm or later. It made my health worse due to the stress of the constant noise and sudden loud outbursts of high pitch screeching. Couldn't block it out by shutting windows and doors. Couldn't leave the house as shielding. Couldn't move as lockdown and no money to do it again so soon. I'd spot them waddling over and my heart would sink. Earplugs, nor industrial ear defenders didn't even block it out.

OP you have my sympathy.

Also, just because it's noise from a child and/or ND person, doesn't make that noise any more pleasant nor easier to live with. Unfortunately, a kind or tolerant heart won't protect your ears nor your nerves.

I don't think my neighbour's son has special needs but even if he does, his parents can't blame us for doing what we need to do to deal with his extended noisy moments. I'll drown them out with music or something. In fact I accidentally found out that the neighbour's son doesn't like the sound of the leaf blower and will stop and go inside if I run it, so I have my management technique down. It gets too much, leaf blower. He goes inside and stays there. I'm quite tolerant and patient about it, but sometimes it's too much.

YANBU @Mydietstartstomorrow , and PMSL at 'noise cancelling headphones' being the 4th post in! 😆

Not everyone wants to have to go about their business at home wearing noise cancelling bastard headphones, purely because someone is incapable of parenting their own child(ren.) I work from home, and would lose my fucking shit if I had kids next door screaming blue fucking murder all day. No advice sorry @Mydietstartstomorrow except move, or wait til next week - the little shits go back to school then. HOORAY!' 😏

There are obviously children who do have special needs who are in a special category because they simply can't understand and there is very little help for parents in such cases. In my earlier post I wasn't referring to children who I thought were stimming. My own ASD son is very sensitive to noise although this might be because he has much more acute hearing than normal according to the ENT specialist.

I wear noise cancelling headphones in my office because we have a woman who shrieks all day. I don't think anyone ever taught her an indoor voice or to just be quiet for 20 minutes! I couldn't bear child shrieking at home. It causes me physical pain. Regardless of any underlying condition, you don't get to disturb the peace. I would talk to the neighbour and explain the problem. She's probably become immune to the noise and its impact on others and might not have realised. If that doesn't work or if she's the child-centric type who won't parent, then complain to the landlord, with recordings. In the meantime, noise-cancelling headphones that play white noise can really help.
The man next door to me has a little girl. When she gets screechy he just says 'we don't shout in the garden' and if it persists, he takes her in. So she's learned. I wish more people would do that.

Dont you love the posts that go "But my child is also autistic and sleeps very well /insert any orther thing they don't struggle with but your child does), so maybe it's your parenting?". Or "just because they are autistic it does not mean that... "
I just laugh, because what else can you do.👁👄👁