Shrieking child next door ALL DAY LONG! WWYD

Some children <eyes DS(3)> are liable to get louder and louder the more you tell them to cut it out. My own DS regularly shrieks a ‘wah wah wah wah’ noise (he’s being a fire engine.) Telling him to be less noisy doesn’t work; it actually exacerbates the situation and makes him louder. He doesn’t do it all day though.

I do think it’s one of those ‘living next door to people’ things: barking dogs and children shrieking is a pain but it happens. I think wfh all you like but it isn’t an office and others shouldn’t be expected to treat it as such 🤷‍♀️

Why does your need for quiet trump the child’s need for play?

And police/social services? For a playing child? I’ve heard it all now 🙄

Why is everyone assuming he has ASD? This is getting out of control now. It’s reached the point now we just assume everyone involved has autism unless proved otherwise.

In more recent months other neighbours arrived and their 2 year old shrieks non stop as well. What’s most irritating is that the dreadful child is being encouraged or further animated instead of being calmed down. I try to ignore it but went over when the shrieking and non stop shrieking in the garden started at 7am on a Sunday, and had not stopped by 8am. The parents apologised and the child was takes inside but it’s been pretty much unchanged since.
I suspect that they simply don’t care about others as they also decided to schedule noisy works to commence at 8am on a bank holiday. It takes a special kind of selfishness to put your own needs over everyone else around you.

She can request but doesn’t mean they have to comply especially if the child does have ASD then she doesn’t have a leg to stand on.

Do you work?

Some parents do just let their kids scream. I can bare it- especially as my working life with kids is noisy. My two learned early that we need to be considerate if others when we live in a cul de sac. Dd tried some screaming when she started primary, but we nipped it in the bud.

What I'd really like is for next door to teach their fucking dogs to stop barking.

Op said the child is verbal, so they clearly have communication and therefore understanding. No reason to believe they have SEN, unless the mum informs her otherwise.

I don't see why the OP has to adapt her surroundings around screaming kid! Surely she is entitled to a quiet environment in her own house?!
Whilst I get we all have to accommodate around the SEN it surely doesn't trump her need for a peaceful home?!
Also, who said screaming kid was an SEN anyway?? Might just be annoying nt kid for all we know!

"Whatever you did, didn't change it"

SEN aside, I fail to believe this. Children can learn not to behave that doesn't impact all the other people around them.

Well then they should parent properly. Why should OP have to weat headphones in her own home ffs

I live in a town beginning with H and I nearly screamed at that kid to stfu ... all bastard day it is now .

Then I suggest you move somewhere remote then.

This validates selfishness on the part of the screaming child’s parents. Perhaps there is a problem that needs the police/social services to check up on? No person should be outside screaming for hours on end.

Then don’t work from home then. Personally I’m fed up of people moaning about children playing in their gardens because they apparently need quiet to work. If you choose to work from home then you don’t get to impose silence control on others in THEIR own homes. The little boy next door to me has been squealing high pitched for the past two days but he has additional needs and up until recently was non verbal so it’s great to hear him enjoying himself. Yes, the noise does occasionally go through me but I just suck it up because I don’t expect the world to revolve around me.

@Blueybanditbingochilli with respect you don’t know that unless you’ve spoken to each and every one of your neighbours at any time. Plus kids are hugely different- I taught for a while and some kids just had a much higher natural volume level and were more excitable- they were always the ones you could hear first from 2 corridors away! Whatever I did it didn’t really change it. Totally agree that the parents should try their best anyway, but maybe you were just lucky and got relatively quiet kids 🤷

But it isn’t. I’ve never allowed my kids to scream continuously to the extent my neighbours find it hard to work. They’re 5 and nearly 2, so I understand, but it’s up to you as the parent to intervene, redirect or whatever. Excitable chatter and normal play sounds are fine, endless shrieking and screaming isn’t.

Yes I agree. I would be a bit ‘I hate to do this, and I really wouldn’t unless I really had to, but unfortunately the noise is really impacting my ability to work. Totally understand this may not have occurred to you as you look very busy, but is there any way of limiting the shrieking?’

Agree that everyone should try to be considerate, but thumping music is different. Kids playing, even noisily is normal family life, not someone being deliberately antisocial. Any council I’ve come across would see it this way too.

I've lived in a terrace for over 25 years. In all that time any immediate neighbours and I have always checked with each other now and again if we are disturbing each other.
One side is a rental and some times their massive telly was on the party wall. A quick discussion and they sorted it out.
One time my neighbour told me he could hear chairs scraping on the kitchen floor. I put pads on legs.
Another neighbour said she liked hearing my son play his guitar when I checked with her.
We are aware of each other and respect that we all want to live peacefully.
I've always made sure my boys don't storm up and down the stairs or shout in the garden etc.

I think going round and being friendly, understanding and non-confrontational is the way forward. It will be very difficult to stop but certainly efforts can be made to encourage him to tone it down

when my ds was a screaming baby my neighbour came around to very gently complain- I mean obviously we knew she could hear him but we didn’t quite understand the impact it had on her. She was very nice about it Tbf and ds grew out of the screaming phase

ultimately this kid will grow out of it too

Ring the police and say you suspect some sort of abuse.
If they get enough visits they might start to parent.
Some parents are low lifes.

Would you say that if next door was playing thumping music all day? The reason is immaterial and the impact is the same. It’s up to the producer of the noise to stop (or try to), not for everyone else to put up with it ‘because it’s they who have the problem’

Sounds hellish, sadly not sure there's much you can do. You could speak to the parents, maybe they don't realise how much it carries.

People telling op to wear headphones or even move house!! Why should she?

I guess because it’s her that has the issue and needs to have a quieter environment?

Totally appreciate that it’s annoying but homes, especially in family areas are not offices. It’s this child and his mother’s home, not a workplace. Of course everyone should try to be considerate but if the woman is trying, has other stuff going on or there are SN involved I don’t think it’s fair to stop the very young child playing/ singing etc at home just because someone next door is working.