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To not know how to drive?

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whatawickedgame · 29/08/2024 20:29

That's kind of it really.

I grew up in a city, I live in a city with great transport links and 10 mins away by train to a massive city. DH drives. I have had lots of lessons and got to the point where I 'could' drive but I was crying whilst driving in every lesson, it terrified me, so stopped. AIBU to not get my licence? DH doesn't mind doing the driving.

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Singleandproud · 29/08/2024 20:38

My mum never got on with driving so never got her licence. Dad did all the driving until he developed a medical condition that meant he can't.
She's now developed osteoarthritis, walks everywhere or gets the bus and is in massive amounts of pain and has been for years. Had she driven the wear and tear on her knees wouldhave been less.

NattyBiscuit · 29/08/2024 20:37

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Oreal · 29/08/2024 20:36

To second a previous poster it really is your instructor who can make the difference. I would give it another go. You might find you have lots more freedom. I think if you were comfortable in this decision you maybe wouldn’t post on here? Only you know what you want, but you can do it if it’s something you want to achieve! Good luck.

Oreal · 29/08/2024 20:35

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This isn’t big or clever, nobody’s going to read this and be amused by your comment so I’m not sure why you took the time out of your day to be so unkind to someone. Hope you find something more productive to do soon.

GaspingGekko · 29/08/2024 20:35

My mum can drive, but she slowly let my DF take over doing a lot of things in her life, all the driving included.
When he died a few years back she really struggled to start driving again.

There may well come a point where for some reason DH isn't around to drive for you. Only you know if not driving will be an issue then.

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whatawickedgame · 29/08/2024 20:35

SilenceInside · 29/08/2024 20:33

Obviously you don't have to drive if you'd rather not. Might be an issue if you ever have to or choose to move away from your current urban setting with good transport links. Your DH might not always be able to drive, too.

Were you learning in a manual or an automatic?

In a manual. The thing about doing the automatic only licence is that our car is a manual one.

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bakewellbride · 29/08/2024 20:35

Get a new instructor and persevere imo. I had crippling driving anxiety for 8 years so know exactly how you feel but am SO glad I got over it and can now drive no problem. It's life changing. Dont give up.

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whatawickedgame · 29/08/2024 20:33

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I did until a year ago. I don't have a job as a SAHM.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 29/08/2024 20:33

I think it’s a life skill and wouldn’t marry anyone who couldn’t drive- I’m no one’s taxi. But hey no crime in not learning.

SilenceInside · 29/08/2024 20:33

Obviously you don't have to drive if you'd rather not. Might be an issue if you ever have to or choose to move away from your current urban setting with good transport links. Your DH might not always be able to drive, too.

Were you learning in a manual or an automatic?

NattyBiscuit · 29/08/2024 20:32

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