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To think we should all boycott John Lewis until they respect their female employees

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Lovelyview · 29/08/2024 17:26

https://grahamlinehan.substack.com/p/resignation-letter-from-a-john-lewis

This is a letter from a female employee of John Lewis's Cheadle branch. John Lewis told its female employees that they have to share toilets and locker rooms with trans identifying men. The employee says this is having a terrible effect especially on colleagues who have experienced trauma relating to men or who have religious reasons to not want to share a space with someone who is the opposite sex.

Resignation letter from a John Lewis Partner

The John Lewis Partnership is abusing its female staff and customers

https://grahamlinehan.substack.com/p/resignation-letter-from-a-john-lewis

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Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:33

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:31

Errr no one has inferred that @BernardBlacksBreakfastWine is a man. (I personally have no clue as to their gender. I doubt @DadJoke does either.)

I think you’ve misread the discussion.

I think you’ve misread the Equality Act, but hey ho

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:31

Loggialy · 31/08/2024 14:25

Typical man thinks username

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine

Very clearly indicates

that he is a man with man things to say

pathetically sad

Errr no one has inferred that @BernardBlacksBreakfastWine is a man. (I personally have no clue as to their gender. I doubt @DadJoke does either.)

I think you’ve misread the discussion.

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:30

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:28

It may well exclude all men. But we’re talking about whether it could exclude women (be it those assigned female at birth, or those who EA10 recognises as gender reassigned ie trans women).

Hate to break it to you, but the fact that you’ve heard a rumour that a website might use this kind of AI doesn’t mean it would be legal if they did.

Trans women are men.

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:28

Lovelyview · 31/08/2024 14:18

Under the Equality Act you don't have to do it on a case by case basis although you do have to show it's proportionate. There's talk of a lesbian only dating app which would use AI to filter out men including trans identifying men who say they're lesbians. As the definition of a lesbian is a same sex attracted woman this app would be allowed to exclude all men from it's service under the Equality Act.

It may well exclude all men. But we’re talking about whether it could exclude women (be it those assigned female at birth, or those who EA10 recognises as gender reassigned ie trans women).

Hate to break it to you, but the fact that you’ve heard a rumour that a website might use this kind of AI doesn’t mean it would be legal if they did.

Loggialy · 31/08/2024 14:25

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:30

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine your example is absolute drivel. There is no protected category of adult children and you have moved the goalposts from loos to sports. Gender reassignment is a protected category, and trans women can and do use women’s loos because it is their right. You want to change that right.

Of course I am a man as my username makes very clear. I have no interest in being in single sex spaces.

Typical man thinks username

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine

Very clearly indicates

that he is a man with man things to say

pathetically sad

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 14:25

I think what it boils down to is, why can’t men just fucking FUCK OFF occasionally and leave women alone? Why do they have to be there going “Oh actually I have a tenuous right to be here that I’m going to assert against everyone’s wishes” like Alan Fucking Partridge?

I say this as a woman happily married to a good man, surrounded by, for the most part, really decent, intelligent men. But online, my god, they’re out in force.

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 14:25

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 14:14

Ah. Perhaps @DadJoke could come back to you on this one, as he thinks all trans women can be excluded from some organisations on some mysterious grounds that is definitely not because they’re men (though I’m not sure what criteria he’s going to apply here).

The default is a case-by-case basis, but there are examples where all trans women can be excluded eg Beira’s Place.

Lovelyview · 31/08/2024 14:18

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:09

Here’s an example for you:

If a trans woman, we’ll call her Ms A for these purposes, has previously been found to have harassed the other users of a female only organisation, that organisation might be entitled to assert that it is legitimate and proportionate to exclude Ms A from membership.

In that example, the legitimate and proportionate response is to exclude Ms A. It would not be to exclude all trans women from joining the organisation or accessing its space.

Under the Equality Act you don't have to do it on a case by case basis although you do have to show it's proportionate. There's talk of a lesbian only dating app which would use AI to filter out men including trans identifying men who say they're lesbians. As the definition of a lesbian is a same sex attracted woman this app would be allowed to exclude all men from it's service under the Equality Act.

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BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 14:14

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:09

Here’s an example for you:

If a trans woman, we’ll call her Ms A for these purposes, has previously been found to have harassed the other users of a female only organisation, that organisation might be entitled to assert that it is legitimate and proportionate to exclude Ms A from membership.

In that example, the legitimate and proportionate response is to exclude Ms A. It would not be to exclude all trans women from joining the organisation or accessing its space.

Ah. Perhaps @DadJoke could come back to you on this one, as he thinks all trans women can be excluded from some organisations on some mysterious grounds that is definitely not because they’re men (though I’m not sure what criteria he’s going to apply here).

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:12

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:12

Here’s another example, I’m a woman who does not consent to sharing my female-only spaces with men. Any men. Men is dresses. Nice men. Men who bake cakes. Men you know. None of them.
Women are vulnerable to men and we do not need to explain WHY we refuse to hand over our spaces to them.

Men in* dresses

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:12

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:09

Here’s an example for you:

If a trans woman, we’ll call her Ms A for these purposes, has previously been found to have harassed the other users of a female only organisation, that organisation might be entitled to assert that it is legitimate and proportionate to exclude Ms A from membership.

In that example, the legitimate and proportionate response is to exclude Ms A. It would not be to exclude all trans women from joining the organisation or accessing its space.

Here’s another example, I’m a woman who does not consent to sharing my female-only spaces with men. Any men. Men is dresses. Nice men. Men who bake cakes. Men you know. None of them.
Women are vulnerable to men and we do not need to explain WHY we refuse to hand over our spaces to them.

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 14:09

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Here’s an example for you:

If a trans woman, we’ll call her Ms A for these purposes, has previously been found to have harassed the other users of a female only organisation, that organisation might be entitled to assert that it is legitimate and proportionate to exclude Ms A from membership.

In that example, the legitimate and proportionate response is to exclude Ms A. It would not be to exclude all trans women from joining the organisation or accessing its space.

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:09

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:08

Because male feelings always trump women’s safety. Even women have a hardwired revulsion and aversion at prioritising women if it will upset some men.

I think it’s a basic survival instinct.

Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:08

Lovelyview · 31/08/2024 14:06

The Equality Act guidelines I linked to previously suggest third spaces such a gender neutral toilets. I really don't understand why companies like John Lewis alienate their customers and their staff when a perfectly rational solution has been suggested to them. Presumably it's because to be a 'Trans ally' you have to actively chuck women's feelings in the bin. Then accuse women of transphobia for objecting.

Because male feelings always trump women’s safety. Even women have a hardwired revulsion and aversion at prioritising women if it will upset some men.

Lovelyview · 31/08/2024 14:06

The Equality Act guidelines I linked to previously suggest third spaces such a gender neutral toilets. I really don't understand why companies like John Lewis alienate their customers and their staff when a perfectly rational solution has been suggested to them. Presumably it's because to be a 'Trans ally' you have to actively chuck women's feelings in the bin. Then accuse women of transphobia for objecting.

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Elbone · 31/08/2024 14:06

Any male, who thinks his right to use women’s facilities, despite it clearly making at least some women uncomfortable, is more important than women’s rights to have spaces away from males, is the EXACT type of male who should not be anywhere near women or our spaces.

Entitled, deluded misogynists.

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 13:59

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DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:54

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 13:45

Cross-post. Right, so you acknowledge that trans women aren’t women then, so they can’t go to the RCC.

Don’t think your fellow MRAs are going to agree with you…

No, I do not acknowledge that trans women are not women, merely that single sex spaces can, if there is a legitimate reason and it’s proportionate they can be excluded.

MRAs, like all misogynists, hate trans women, but unlike gender critical people don’t make transphobia their whole personality.

Lovelyview · 31/08/2024 13:51

Interestingly while rummaging around on the Equality Act guidelines I found the following:

You will also need to take account of the Workplace (Health, Safety and Welfare) Regulations 1992 which require employers to provide a certain number of toilets and to provide separate toilet and washing facilities for men and women in some circumstances.* *Guidance can be found on the Health and Safety Executive website.

This seems to imply that John Lewis are breaching workplace regulations which say that separate toilet and washing facilities need to be provided. Although our band of TRAs will be happy to assure us that if a man even thinks about being a woman he has started gender reassignment and that over-rides everything. (Clue: it doesn't)

Would anyone like to venture a guess as to why rights to separate sex provision were originally enshrined in law? Could it be because women need separate sex facilities for their safety, dignity and privicy?

HSE: Information about health and safety at work

https://www.hse.gov.uk/index.htm

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BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 13:45

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:42

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine Trans women are already in women’s loos - I am
defending their right to be there from people who want to exclude them - not “shoehorning them in.”

You absolutely did not address the of how single-sex loos would be enforced - you can’t because they are unenforceable.

Single sex loos simply do not make women “more safe.” They don’t stop abusive men, and put GNC women, trans men and trans women in greater danger.

RCC’s are entitled to exclude trans women altogether, have groups for gender critical women without trans women, or always be inclusive. All of those are chouces for the RCC. Providers should not be forced to include or exclude trans women and they are not.

Cross-post. Right, so you acknowledge that trans women aren’t women then, so they can’t go to the RCC.

Don’t think your fellow MRAs are going to agree with you…

Sharptonguedwoman · 31/08/2024 13:42

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:25

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine of course there can and should be single sex spaces as governed by the EA2010. Loos are not in that category.

Your solution does not solve the problem it purports to solve. Your hypothetical male predator could simply say he is a trans man.

it’s just laughable that you think abusive men would be put off by loos being single sex.

And, of course, you’ve ignored the enforcement question.

I think currently they are put off, by simple convention. Now abusive men appear to have not even convention as boundaries.

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 13:42

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:30

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine your example is absolute drivel. There is no protected category of adult children and you have moved the goalposts from loos to sports. Gender reassignment is a protected category, and trans women can and do use women’s loos because it is their right. You want to change that right.

Of course I am a man as my username makes very clear. I have no interest in being in single sex spaces.

Well, age is a protected characteristic, isn’t it? But, as you can see, just because something is on the list, it doesn’t mean it can never be acknowledged or used as a reasonable segregating tool. Sex is also a protected characteristic, isn’t it.

Adult child makes just as much sense as female man, btw.

The trouble is that the EA2010 does allow some interpretation about what’s reasonable and what’s not. That’s because it was written before people like you saw a way to use it to beat women (metaphorically, of course). Most people did not see this coming - this weas weaselly desperation to wilfully twist reasonable legislation until it becomes unreasonable,

So, come on then, who gets to go to your rape crisis centre? I’d be interested for the TWAW posters to say too. Be fun if they disagreed with you!

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:42

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine Trans women are already in women’s loos - I am
defending their right to be there from people who want to exclude them - not “shoehorning them in.”

You absolutely did not address the of how single-sex loos would be enforced - you can’t because they are unenforceable.

Single sex loos simply do not make women “more safe.” They don’t stop abusive men, and put GNC women, trans men and trans women in greater danger.

RCC’s are entitled to exclude trans women altogether, have groups for gender critical women without trans women, or always be inclusive. All of those are chouces for the RCC. Providers should not be forced to include or exclude trans women and they are not.

BernardBlacksBreakfastWine · 31/08/2024 13:32

DadJoke · 31/08/2024 13:25

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine of course there can and should be single sex spaces as governed by the EA2010. Loos are not in that category.

Your solution does not solve the problem it purports to solve. Your hypothetical male predator could simply say he is a trans man.

it’s just laughable that you think abusive men would be put off by loos being single sex.

And, of course, you’ve ignored the enforcement question.

Loos can very much be in that category.

Bit rich of you to suggest I’ve avoided a question. I explained very clearly that the general consensus and the shared understanding of a clear law would generally be sufficient. Did you miss that? Even now, in the world we currently inhabit, with blokes like you hell-bent on forcing men into women’s loos, it doesn’t happen much. So, yes, I think if everyone came back to their senses and there was clear legislation that couldn’t be misinterpreted by the likes of you, the system would work.

Of course it can’t be iron clad though 🙄 But why do you want women to be less safe when they could be safer?

However, you’ve said you go agree with single-sex spaces in some situations, so let’s try another situation then. How about… a rape crisis centre? Is that ok? Can women have that to themselves?

ElleWoods15 · 31/08/2024 13:30

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You’re aware that gender reassignment (for which neither a GRC nor any medical treatment is required) is a protected characteristic under EA10?

While identifying as a child is not a protected characteristic?

So your ‘analogy’ is nonsense?