Would you have children if you knew they may never move out?

@Lentilweaver I don't think that is that unusual tbh. I don't live with my own very elderly parents but have done all those things plus others in times of illness when visiting to look after one of them.

Mine can stay as long as they want. We have plenty of room so it wouldn't be a problem.

I don't believe in multigenerational living btw, because it usually means women end up doing even more work. As happens in most cultures that encourage it.

@ChannelyourinnerElsa , but people don't have the same daily care requirements as adults. My late teen DC are generally lovely to have around, pitch in, good fun and generous natured. It is no hardship having them here and I can't imagine that changing significantly.

I look likely to be in this sitution with at least one of my DC. I think I would still have had them but made different housing decisions, and may have to move out of London ( which I will hate). Currently we are very cramped.

I come from a culture where multigenerational living is common, but I should point out that in those cultures, kids take care of their parents. By which I mean, do everything for them from changing adult diapers to cooking for them and taking them to the doctors. I think most people who praise other cultures have never actually lived like other cultures.

Yep. I fully expect both my kids to be here with us until they're late 20s/early 30s as a minimum. The housing market is abysmal and it probably won't get any easier. I'll do what I can to get them set up in their own places but there won't be any pressure. Even though they drive me potty at the moment (they're 6 and 18 months), they'll always be my kids and it'll always be my job to look after them

A friend of mine lives at home with her parents. They will stay with her older brother (he's now the head of the house), his wife, their baby and any future children until they die. My friend will go and live with her husband's parents if he is the eldest boy in their family. It's part of their culture. A lot of countries already do multigenerational living, it wouldn't surprise me if we ended up having to do the same

Mine will always have a home where I live, whether they live elsewhere or not. So, for me, it would be fine. I suspect one is unlikely to move out anyway due to additional needs.

Yes, I would have. I firmly believe in multi generational living and having a pretty much open house for my adult children, their partners and their friends.

Unlike many mumsnet women who seem to feel sad and tearful when children leave nursery, primary, secondary etc, I’ve always been pretty positive about those stages.

i adore my dc, and I adore my life- both the elements we do together and the parts of my life that are mine alone.

hard to answer whether I would not have them if it meant never moving out… but possibly I wouldn’t. I both enjoy this stage of my life and am looking forward to the next stages without the children in my house, without the same daily care requirements.

Yes, I would still have children if I thought they would live at home for the rest of my life. Just what @Newsenmum said, multigenerational living is common worldwide.

We’ve got a big house I would actually love it if they didn’t move out but know they will!

In lots of cultures it’s common anyway

I mean it’s not ideal, but it’s always a risk. I assume my kids will be with us for a while, especially as one has additional needs. I wanted children more than anything so for me, yes.