Been in a relationship with DP for almost 4 yrs. There's been high and lows throughout the relationship. It had been fine for quite a while but recently we have been bickering and felt it hasn't been quite right.
Anyway we were sitting on the sofa the other night talking about things.
For background I was in an abusive relationship almost 10 yrs ago. He was emotionally abusive and I ended up in a woman's refuge. This man still continues to be awful as we share a child together. Dp knows all the background.
So when we were talking DP said I had been argumentative and I said I felt I had not I was just stating my feelings. Dp then said "were you like this with you ex, always argumentative and that's why he reacted the way he did"
I looked at him shocked and I said I can't believe you just said that. You're basically saying I asked for the abuse are you?
Dp then did apologise and said sorry that was harsh but now I'm wondering is that what he thinks?
I don't know my head is all confused, was I being argumentative with DP? I don't think I was but I also don't think that comment was called for. AIBU to think this?