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Studies vary quite a bit. One paper states that trans identified males surveyed in the US reported that 5% had undergone "bottom surgery" but that other studies had placed it as high as 13%.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6626314/

I haven't been able to find the stats for Scotland or the UK, but surgeries among predatory men who claim to be trans are vanishingly low - as one might expect.

That's the problem: as soon as various bodies went down the line of "Acceptance without exception" - which in Scotland means that transvestites have been included in the trans umbrella - we basically finished up with a predators' charter.

Before anyone says it - yes, there's a problem with predators everywhere, including churches and schools. That's why (in schools at least) we're supposed to have safeguarding procedures in place.

I feel sorry for men who genuinely suffer from a form of body dysmorphia. I feel sorrier for the women and girls who have suffered because of the Scottish authorities' safeguarding failures.

My eldest or second eldest son was in the buggy with a chocolate bar. (I know, perfect parenting). A dog comes running over and takes a snap at it. Dog starts eating it. Owner runs over and tells me off for allowing my son to feed her dog chocolate. u was trying to comfort my son, who had just lost his chocolate bar to a massive (to him) dog. All I wish was the dog did a dump on her carpet when they got home.

Next one was a bus one. My youngest was walking at the age of 11 months, so by the time she was about 15 months she was tiny but fully walking and stable. Her dad takes her on the bus, and she toddles in front, and finds a seat. Her dad is about 30 seconds behind. Man jumps on the seat next to her. Her dad was a bit shocked at that and stared. “Oh sorry mate did you want to sit down”.

Then a McDonald’s one. 3 kids with me, I get up to grab the order. Someone is sitting in my seat. “Oh I thought this table was free”.

I would love to see proof of your (wildly made up) stats.

No one on earth is cutting off their dick to listen to you fart through a cubical wall. well, about 97% of (trans)men don't have any surgery, - most don't even cut their beard off, (while maintaining that they are 'women') so what are the odds of them cutting off anything more valuable to them?

And don't tell me that they have to be in the women's toilet, as it's so unsafe for them in the gents. They don't get to feel 'safe' at the expense of women's safety. Men - Sort the Gents out.

Women's toilets should be for women. Single sex spaces should be single SEX!

No confusion.

I would has replied "it smelt fine before came in. You should may be go and have a wash" 😂

I assume race was mentioned because the poster was accused of being racist. If anything it was their dog that was racist!

@Rosscameasdoody Interesting that you both think this and I can totally see where you're coming from, but I'm almost certain he wasn't. The "deaths" were very pronounced and spouted so randomly during the conversation. I'm fairly convinced it was his tic.

I live near a big forest, lots of lovely walks, unfortunately over holidays there can be a bit of extra rubbish so every now and again me and DH talk a litter picker and a bin bag when we do our walks. Some people say thank-you and we have actually noticed that other families have started doing this which is lovely!
Anyway walking down woodland path and a well attired lady ( think babour jacket etc) walks up to us with dog and say ' oh thank goodness your here can I give you this' and presents us with a leg from deer which presumably her dog has just found ( hope it didn't kill the poor deer). We try and decline the deer leg by explaining we don't what to take it home to our bin. She says we have to take it because she keeps trying to throw it away but her dog fetches it back 😂. We were somehow forced to take the dead deer leg in that way that some middle/ upper class people can be soo persuasive. The interaction was like our only reason for being in the woods that day was to collect her deer leg!
She didn't even say thank you!!

Exactly there is no equivalence.

You often get posters trying to use the 'oh you wouldn't say that if it was a woman doing/saying it"

Well no, there's a massive power imbalance between men and women and also the motivations behind their behaviour. Women are deeply unlikely to sexually assault you.

With regard to the squatting comment, I do find that creepy because it shows exactly where the man's mind was. If I see a woman rooting round in her clothing, my first thought would be that she was looking for something or perhaps had an itch. Whereas the man in question went straight to urinating in a squatting position. But my life experience involves over 30 years of working in completely male dominated industries and in my experience there's not many good ones who aren't either misogynists or perverts.

I've had plenty of odd encounters.

One that springs to mind was when I was working on a building site in my professional role as a QS. I stepped out of the office and a subcontractor's joiner who I had not met before looked at me and said 'I'd love to see a big girl like you lap dance".

I was a size 12 so I'm assuming he was talking about my FFs.

I won’t, thanks. And I don’t know many women who would use your terminology to describe bodily functions, so I’ll assume you’re a man. Your argument makes no sense either. It’s not about being attacked, it’s about the invasion of womens’ spaces, not to mention sports, by men who think that dressing as a female actually makes them one.

Through out the history of the world men have been beaten and killed for wearing dresses. No straight man is risking his 'precious alpha masculinity' and even safety just to hear you blow out a public toilet either.

If a man wanted to abuse you trust me he wouldn't need or bother to put on a dress to do it. You are FAR more likely to get attacked by a man you know in your own home thats just statistical fact but don't let reality get in the way of being hateful.

Totally agree, they were cool! Unusual, but friendly. Not even bothersome, I bet that man laughed afterwards about this park encounter.

You win!! 🤣🤣🤣.

@HangingOver My goodness; so so weird! You've reminded me of a bus station encounter I once had. I was sitting waiting for a bus and must have been about twenty- two. A man came and sat down next to me. He suddenly said to me, "You've got nice arms. Can you put them on mine?" I said No and then we sat there in an awkward silence until the bus arrived. Guess who sat next to me on the bus. Yes, the weirdo man.

If a man had said the fish one, most would be frothing at the mouth about how he wanted to fuck her, how dare he, hope ypu got him fired etc. As it was a woman, oh yes, just a joke. 🥱

Personally I wouldn’t be that bothered by the street peeing one, but my life experiences could be different to that poster, so I’m not going to weigh in on their experience of it.

However, to your last point, male and female behaviour can’t equally be compared in this way. You just have to look through this thread and see how many instances men have been sexually threatening to women and girls, in ways no one is going to argue about. We don’t need to worry, for the most part, about our sexual safety around other women. So while I find the fish thing to be weird, inappropriate, and also creepy, we can laugh about it because it’s so wtf but not actually posing potential danger to us.

@Toenailz 😆 of course you got a load of thanks, the worst side of MN love nothing more than a pile-on! I'm sure if you went through and counted the number of comments which unnecessarily called out @HeySummerWhereAreYou for 'overreacting' you'd find it exceeds by many factors the number of comments she's made in response.

But let's face it, there's nothing the likes of you enjoy more than the pile-on victim hitting back, it gives you more fuel to belittle them and get a load of backslaps from your compadres. Reminds me of schoolyard fights.

@Thurien Oh God that's made me cry with laughter. "Two weak roars". 😂

They sound like MY KIND of weirdos 😁

I don’t normally do this but I did want to say that I think what he said was vulgar. I understand many people may not have thought that but you did and it was your experience not theirs. Sometimes it depends on who is saying something but some random strange man stopping to remark that is to me distasteful.

@VivienneDelacroix Me again....you've just reminded me of some other weird child related know alls who feel the need to point things out! I was walking along the street with my double buggy with my two sons in - one of those ones where the seats are one in front of the other rather than side by side. A lady we passed on the pavement felt the need to say to me, "The one at the front's asleep; the one at the back is awake." ?!!!! 🤔😂

Another time, when I was pregnant with my second, just walking along the street, a random man who was walking towards me called out, "Pregnant woman.....on the move!" He said it really slowly and deliberately as if it was part of a rap. 😅

One more....I was frantically trying to get my sons into the car to take them to school. It had been one hell of a morning and nothing had gone to plan; husband was seriously ill in hospital, scooter had hit me in the ankle, kids were fighting....usual hell. As this was all occurring, a man walking past said to me in a condescending tone whilst tutting, "These Mums.....why don't you just get out of bed five minutes earlier?" I just felt lucky we don't have America's gun laws here. 😂

And that’s rather the point isn’t it ? No-one appears to be in any hurry to cut off their dicks, because all they have to do is put on a dress, and hey presto, they’re a woman !!

@woolysnail It's almost like some people can't comprehend that bad stuff does happen, and it isn't some innocent bloke making a peeing comment just because they've never had a bad experience!

It's also good to recognise some men make jokes without it being sexual.
He might have thought wtf is she doing, then vocalised it without thinking.
Like some F posters have said, they've said weird stuff without thinking or experienced it from other F's.

If a man had said the fish one, most would be frothing at the mouth about how he wanted to fuck her, how dare he, hope ypu got him fired etc. As it was a woman, oh yes, just a joke. 🥱

@HeySummerWhereAreYou @VivienneDelacroix I couldn't agree more....what an unbelievable c*t! I bet you couldn't believe your ears! Did you respond? I remember being in Marks and Spencers cafe when my eldest was two. We were sitting quietly together enjoying our lunch. Suddenly a woman at the next table turned to me and said, "I bet he's your only child, isn't he? I doubt you have any others at your age". I was thirty-eight at the time. Incredulous, I got up to leave. I was heavily pregnant with my second at the time but she hadn't noticed until I stood up. She looked embarrassed and just said, "Oh". Honestly, people are bloody weird sometimes. You had too many children according to that nutter you encountered; I seemingly didn't have enough. There ain't no pleasing these fruitloops!

Gordon Murray, the creator, was interviewed on BBC some years ago and asked that same question. He said that they were making up the names of the firemen so that they could do the roll call thing in the programme to a particular flowing rhythm. He explained that to maintain the flow they needed to create another crew member with a two syllable surname. It didn’t work for various reasons, so they decided it was easier to give McGrew a two syllable Christian name and use it in full.

Yes no one understands it so no one ever watches Ant & Dec, Big Brother, Geordie Shore or acts like Chris Ramsey because the accents are utter gibberish.

Geordie is also in fact a really rare accent in real life, most people mistaken by southerners as Geordie are actually from Durham or Northumberland which is an entirely different accent/dialect. Shows like Big Brother even put on a deliberately over the top fake accent and where still top running shows country wide.