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Overwhelmed with never ending list

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Stickytoffeepudding6 · 28/08/2024 20:37

Hello

Totally feeling sorry for myself and overwhelmed.

My house is a mess and I'm itching to do a deep clean. My washing basket is bottomless.

My partner might as well be a teenager (please no comments about leaving him) because I have to pick up after him.

Everywhere needs painting. My job is so busy.

I've completely neglected the way I look and it shows.

I'm constantly exhausted so TTC is out of the window.

I just look at my list and leave it so my anxiety is bad.

Saturday I said I would do it all but I just want to go out and do some shopping and meet my friend. But I feel guilty.

Shake me please.

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Stickytoffeepudding6 · 28/08/2024 21:20

MichaelAndEagle · 28/08/2024 21:10

Look up The Organised Mum Method. I'm out of the small kids phase now, but at the time it was so useful.
I also had a useless husband....note had.

Thank you xxx

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Stickytoffeepudding6 · 28/08/2024 21:20

I want to have a baby because I love him. He's kind and caring and makes me laugh. He loves me.

He's just messy. Not enough to make me pack my bags, swear off men and move back with my parents! Godsake.

It's not a drama. I just need him to go away for few days so can get on top of everything.

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Aquamarine1029 · 28/08/2024 21:12

Why the fuck you would ever try to have a baby with this man is beyond me. If you think any of this will get better with a baby thrown in, you're delusional. Your life will feel like you're constantly treading water so you don't drown, and you'll have a baby you have to keep out of the water at the same time, too.

MichaelAndEagle · 28/08/2024 21:10

Look up The Organised Mum Method. I'm out of the small kids phase now, but at the time it was so useful.
I also had a useless husband....note had.

orangeskys · 28/08/2024 21:09

MiddleParking · 28/08/2024 21:07

The good news is if you have a baby with him he’ll change and become totally responsible and equitable!

Unnecessary comment 🙄

orangeskys · 28/08/2024 21:09

Stickytoffeepudding6 · 28/08/2024 20:37

Hello

Totally feeling sorry for myself and overwhelmed.

My house is a mess and I'm itching to do a deep clean. My washing basket is bottomless.

My partner might as well be a teenager (please no comments about leaving him) because I have to pick up after him.

Everywhere needs painting. My job is so busy.

I've completely neglected the way I look and it shows.

I'm constantly exhausted so TTC is out of the window.

I just look at my list and leave it so my anxiety is bad.

Saturday I said I would do it all but I just want to go out and do some shopping and meet my friend. But I feel guilty.

Shake me please.

Sorry just another thing when it comes to painting maybe set one day a week and a few hours in that day too get some painting done, also speak to your other half about helping out more and cleaning up after himself maybe he doesn't realise how it's affecting you. Sometimes you just got to communicate. 😊

MiddleParking · 28/08/2024 21:07

The good news is if you have a baby with him he’ll change and become totally responsible and equitable!

orangeskys · 28/08/2024 21:07

Stickytoffeepudding6 · 28/08/2024 20:37

Hello

Totally feeling sorry for myself and overwhelmed.

My house is a mess and I'm itching to do a deep clean. My washing basket is bottomless.

My partner might as well be a teenager (please no comments about leaving him) because I have to pick up after him.

Everywhere needs painting. My job is so busy.

I've completely neglected the way I look and it shows.

I'm constantly exhausted so TTC is out of the window.

I just look at my list and leave it so my anxiety is bad.

Saturday I said I would do it all but I just want to go out and do some shopping and meet my friend. But I feel guilty.

Shake me please.

Best way to tackle this is to do a chores list.

Soo Monday you strip the kitchen and deep clean it.

Tuesday: you strip the lounge and deep clean.

Wednesday: you deep clean bathrooms/bathroom.

Thursday: you deep clean your bedroom.

Friday: you deep clean another bedroom.

Saturday: if you have a third bedroom you deep clean that.

Sunday you chill.

Then all the house is deep cleaned you can then tackle the washing or even inbetween this put a load of washing on a day just the one?

Small steps help because it becomes extremely overwhelming!

I'm a single mum of 4 children with a 4 bed house and two bathrooms I totally get and understand where you are coming from. I do a lot of my cleaning at night time when they are in bed too soo then I wake up and it's not soo messy and I'm not completely overwhelmed with the mess. I do the rooms like this every week, (not deep clean) once the deep clean is done the rest is easier to keep up with. I hoover every day, I wash up what's used as it's used, I dust once a week, I clean the toilets 3 times a week, I mop floors twice a week (this is just me though) It's just how I keep up with my housework otherwise it would get out of hand and I'm the same I get over whelmed and just go out all day everyday so I don't have to see it lol.

Small steps are the best steps, set up a plan of the day but don't over do it just do what you can when you can. I hope this helps 😊

P.s working and tidying up and looking after the home is hard work don't feel too bad it will get done 😊

hellodolly1 · 28/08/2024 20:58

I hear you . House difficult to manage - stressful job and in down time just want to enjoy time off not do stuff in house .
DH so so messy ,leaves stuff out - I just go around clearing up ! Hate it - have you tried to talk about that ? I have tried and he tries but it's not great .. and it takes me ALOT of time!