Called a c*nt by fellow train passenger - AIBU

What threatening behaviour? He didn't go near the OP. He rode away after she "verbally abused" him first. It was her husband who approached the man after that.

I would be reporting this verbal abuse and threatening behaviour to the police. The train station will have it all on CCTV. It's about time men were held responsible for their behaviour! Don't be afraid to defend yourself.

If I'd been there I would have backed you up OP. Fancy using those words Infront of infants. What an absolute tool. You were a good role model to your children by standing up for yourself in what sounds to be an assertive but non confrontational way. Just be glad you're not a sad man like that.

I would have had it out with him on the instant, not left it and then escalated it - but that's me.

Anyway - there was only one cunt and it wasn't you.

Be careful. With all the stabbings and violance on trains and in public recently it isn't worth it. Unfortunately women are extra vulnerable with small children.
I would as others have said ignored it and pretended not to hear it. As now your chips has heard an inmapropriate word being used a ciuple times and seen a potential confrontation.

lol. When you can’t think of an original response..😂

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Cyclist. Says it all. They're normally utter entitled c*nts themselves.

I hope you weren't trying to cope with a bike while that was going on.

Any apology that has the word but after it isn't a proper apology
And people don't always acknowledge that you've apologised. I'm amazed you've got this far in life without having someone ignore an apology you've made.

But you’ve no idea what was going on with that man, he could have been completely at the end of his tether with stress or something. (Not excusing his vile language)
It unexpectedly took me 8 hours and 6 packed trains to get somewhere that’s usually a three hour direct journey a couple of weeks ago, by the end of that I was in no fit state to deal with things particularly rationally.

God forbid a child talks in public!

Makes you wonder how they cope with a really stressful situation like breaking a nail or something.

Where?

Nothing to do with being nice, just don't be nasty.

I wouldn't have even confronted him you never know what people are capable of and it just got worse because you did
The bloke in question was out of order completely

Haha are you serious? ‘Not controlling your child’ - a toddler pressed a door button on a train, oh no!!!!!!

It's implied in the OP.

What the OP expected was the equivalent of expecting niceness which is both unrealistic and unreasonable.

Nobody got caught in the door on that occasion, which I've acknowledged. I'm saying that the reason people might be annoyed by this is because they will automatically think of what could happen. If it's you that's in front of the doors when the button is pressed and they beep, you're going to think the door is about to close and you won't be able to get off the train. It isn't rocket science to understand why it would piss someone off and they don't owe you nice in response.

But if no one ever calls people out on rude behaviour, then what? Do we just accept it?

Better that than potentially getting a smack in the mouth, or worse a knife in your guts.

None of us know who the fucking nutters are, but there are plenty around.

The tragic death of Lee Pomeroy in 2019 should be a warning to all about violence on trains - the safest thing to do is walk away.

Lee Pomeroy was murdered by Darren Pencille in an altercation on a train, over the very minor matter of Pencille accusing Lee Pomeroy of blocking his way in the aisle. Less than five minutes later, Lee Pomeroy died in his teenaged son's arms, after his carotid artery was stabbed by Pencille.

Pencille was the aggressor, but if you view the CCTV footage (in link) you can see at one point Pencille (hooded) walks away, and Lee Pomeroy follows him into another carriage, continuing the ongoing argument. It was after this that Pencille stabbed Lee Pomeroy, and later tried (unsuccessfully) to claim self-defence as the victim had followed him.

Lee Pomeroy was physically a much bigger man than Pencille, tall and heavy, so possibly this made him feel immune to danger from him, but Pencille suffered from schizophrenia, had a history of violence and was carrying a knife. It's possible that if Lee Pomeroy had let Pencille walk away, he would still be alive today.

Never try to 'win the argument' when someone is aggressive on public transport.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-england-surrey-48771896

Like an episode of Jackanory.

Just to give a positive story I was recently on a 2hr 30 min train ride with a 1 year old. He was fine for an hour and gradually got more and more disgruntedl. I was sitting in an aisle seat and the elderly man sitting next to me was being very nice. There was a woman sitting on the opposite side of the aisle and when the person next to her got off she offered to swap seats with me so I had more space. I thought that was so considerate. Well the wails got louder and eventually I decided to go into the vestibute by the exit/toilets and get him in his buggy and hopefully asleep. The same woman came and unfolded his buggy for me. I stood and rocked him and he did drop off.

Some men, probably late 40s early 50s, came out of the carriage to get off the train and they commented I'd done well to get him to sleep. I said I had to do something as I was worried I'd get lynched. They laughed and said to take no notice we've all been kids and one finished by saying I'd played a blinder. I was getting off as well and they lifted buggy plus baby off the train for me.

There are nice people out there.

You don't know many cyclists.

He was in the wrong, but he was never going to be pleasant.