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Am I unreasonable to be annoyed with partner?!

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annoyedatpartner · 28/08/2024 18:21

DP, teen DD and I have life 360 app on our phones. For various reasons but it's practical and useful for us as a family to know where each other is. Everyone js happy with it, everyone is an adult and has consented to location being tracked - before anyone asks about that.

Anyway - to the point, DP left for night shift half an hour ago and I have just received a notification on the app that he had a "dangerous drive" - never seen that pop up before, so clicked on it. It tells me his top speed going to work was 104mph!? I'm annoyed about this as I think this is unnecessarily reckless. He was clearly late and rushing but still, surely there's no need to do that sort of speed! Am I overreacting?

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annoyedatpartner · 28/08/2024 18:54

@Heedthaball

The app benefits us ALL and we all are happy to be on it, for different reasons and benefits. As I'd already clarified in my OP. Hope that helps 👍🏻

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Heedthaball · 28/08/2024 18:44

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annoyedatpartner · 28/08/2024 18:43

I've messaged him, he admitted he clocked he was doing 100 at one point and immediately slowed down. Said he hadn't realised. So it does sound pretty accurate.

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Bazinga007 · 28/08/2024 18:40

My life 360 told me that I did 229 mph the other day, so I am not sure how accurate and reliable it is.

I doubt my car could even do half of that speed downhill with the wind behind us.

PolePrince55 · 28/08/2024 18:37

What if he killed a young family on their way home!
But sure as long as he got to work on time.
That's disgusting!

CoffeeCup14 · 28/08/2024 18:34

I had that pop up on my phone once telling me I'd been doing a speed I absolutely hadn't been doing. So I'd be sceptical if I were you.

Howdull · 28/08/2024 18:32

I dunno. People are allowed to make their own choices, even if they are not wise choices.

AsYouWiiiiiiiiiiiiish · 28/08/2024 18:31

It's not just about what would happen to him either... could kill someone else. A car full of kids!!!

Not to mention if he got banned from driving and lost his job.

How reckless and stupid is he!?

annoyedatpartner · 28/08/2024 18:30

@Rory17384949
Yes on a motorway; but still!

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Pineappleprep · 28/08/2024 18:26

Given how inaccurate the speed rating can be, I'd be sure to ask him if he was speeding before I got mad about it.

Rory17384949 · 28/08/2024 18:25

That's so dangerous! I would be annoyed too.
Assuming this was on a motorway/dual carriageway because if it wasn't it's even worse!

annoyedatpartner · 28/08/2024 18:24

Thanks @BCBird for confirming what I felt. Honestly I'm stunned that he would drive so recklessly.

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BCBird · 28/08/2024 18:23

Wtaf
That shocking