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WIBU to take one DC but not the other?

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RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 28/08/2024 16:55

14yo DS is going into year 10 and is studying rainforests as part of his upcoming Geography GCSE. I'd really like to take him on a trip to Borneo next summer so he can see the effects of deforestation, palm plantations etc.

However, I don't want to take 11yo DD. 1) It's expensive and a study tour more than a holiday. 2) It would be nice to do something with just DS before he heads off into independence.

We're going on a nice family holiday next year so she won't be going without. I'll also explain to her that this is for DS's GCSEs and I will do an equivalent trip with her when she's the same age. By the time she gets to that stage, DS will hopefully be at university and so wouldn't be coming on a study trip with his little sister.

Is this a reasonable plan or am I being unfair?

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commonground · 28/08/2024 17:00

Ha, I doubt there are many year 10s who will be undertaking a field trip to Borneo in prep for their Geography GCSE, so I think 'study trip' is probably stretching it a bit.
I mean, if you are already having to justify it that way, it might be that you are anticipating DD to feel left out.

It's OK not to do exactly the same things with your kids, but be prepared for 'Borneo-gate' to be brought up as a stick to beat you with when she's 14 and stroppy and everything is unfair.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 28/08/2024 16:57

Is dd staying at home with her dad? I assume that he’s a good caregiver.

I don’t think you are being unreasonable as long as your h isn’t the one who’d rather take ds. Have you considered having dd take a trip with dh to somewhere that matches her interests ?

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