Can't be bothered to cook for son

I got the impression op would be annoyed if he turned up at home with bags of shopping. Maybe I'm wrong. Beers could be taken out a fridge and put back in when needed.

Exactly. Mean spirited. He should move out asap.

Lower his contribution. Tell him to buy his food. And if there isn’t enough room in the fridge, tell him to take the beer out.

Stop letting DH and DS look to you for a solution while they just do what they want. If they can’t play nicely, assign everyone a shelf in the fridge and leave it at that. Throw out anything they put on your shelf and ignore the rest.

Why is this your problem OP? He's a grown adult, why can't he cook his own tea? And if he can't fit any food in the fridge because it's full of his/his dad's beers, then again, why is this your problem?

For Heaven's sake, if he's old enough to be out working full time then he's old enough to think about his own dinner. The Op and her DH make other arrangements for eating so why should she still be making dinner just for one person?
That poor boy a lot of you feel sorry for now with morph into someone's DP/DH who expects to find his dinner on the table when he comes home, then you'll be telling his DW he's unreasonable.

I know right?

£400 gets you very little. Wouldn’t even get a room where l live, never mind bills as well

How old is he and why can't your husband cook for him? Or why can't he cook for himself?

Why does OP have to work it out? Her partner and his son can work out they need to less beer filling up the fridge, means food can be put in it. Then what food he wants and can cook. In OP’s shoes l wouldn’t give it any thought

The term "picky tea" makes me want to slam that overstocked salad fridge on someone's head

But like I said, it’s not just the DS who’s stocking it up with beer it’s also the DH too but DH is allowed to eat! The suggestion to stop buying beer - yes great suggestion but both have to stop buying it. If she’s met with contempt by the DH for being asked not to buy any beer then why is she only focussing on the ds?? I would probably think differently and have less sympathy if it was only the DS filling the fridge up with beer but it isn’t. It just seems at the moment like op wants to complain about the DS being around the house to me.

I think it’s clear the son will cook but OP for some reason has no room for his food in the fridge or freezer despite no one else really eating at home 🙄

She didn't say that she's happy that he does that, she just said that that is what he does!!! Perhaps any suggestion to stop buying so much beer was met with contempt, who knows?.

Sounds very like they just took over the fridge and decided it was the OP's problem.

No she didn't say that he's "not allowed".

She said that storage space is limited so buying food isn't an option.
The fridge space is limited because the dad and son have it full of beer!

HUGE difference.

I would have more sympathy if it was only the DS that was filling it with beer, but it’s not. How is it that op is happy for him to put beer in the fridge but not food?

As other people have said, they can just remove the beer and put more food in the fridge. It just seems to me that op is making excuses that DS can’t have his own food in the fridge because of the beer. It’s not just beer for the DS, it’s also for the DH but she doesn’t stop him from eating. I mean, her DH can also go out and buy a beer fridge for his own beer - however, his beer doesn’t seem to be as much as an issue.

Unless op updates and states that the DS spends all his remaining money on drugs or gambles it away or some other reason or that he can’t be arsed to cook his own meals then I do have to say I feel somewhat sorry for him.

The guy just wants hot dinners, nowhere has op said he's refusing to cook for himself. She has said he's not allowed space in the fridge and therefore can't store food to cook for himself.
The justification for this is because he pays £400 which is supposed to include food for him, so he doesn't need a space in the fridge, but op hasn't been buying food to cook because she wants to live on massive salads ?

Bizarre.

I'd take less money from him and stop doing his meals, but buy him a small cheap fridge to keep his food and/or beer in. There's no way I'd cook for him if I wasn't cooking for myself.

He's perfectly prepared to cook. He's even prepared to shop (though if he does this he should get a reduction on this keep money). The OP isn't prepared to let him store food in the fridge in his own home. If I were this son I'd be buying a fridge for me room and keeping my food in there.

You sound very worn out OP but this is not a good way to continue.

Let him buy his own ingredients and between you all, make space in the fridge/ freezer.

If him and the dad stopped filling the fridge with beer then he'd be able to put food in it no problem.

I’ve read your up dates and some of the PPs.

The obvious answer is you charge him a bit less board, and clear a space in the fridge for him to keep his food - that he buys and cooks himself. If that means less beer can be kept cold at any one time then so be it. They can always top it up when needed.

Youre not U not to want to cook meals that your aren’t eating, or go out to the shops day by day, but you are U to stop him storing or cooking food.

As OP is pregnant, her partner and her need to consider how they are going to cope on maternity leave and when the baby needs weaning. They will need to make space for food whether it’s in fridges, cupboards or freezers.

Maybe it was, but at this point surely one of them would have a bit of sense and say actually let's just do a shop and put the food in the fridge instead of the beer.

Instead the OP is getting called all sorts of names on here like it's all her problem, the 3 of them are adults FGS. It's not all on the OP.

Maybe because it’s always empty. I don’t not know lol, the whole thing sounds weird.

He wants to cook. The issue is that OP won't let him use the fridge/freezer to store food TO cook. She also doesn't want to buy any food to cook for him!

No, I don't understand it either...

He is going to need space in the fridge if you don't want to cook for him. Him cooking for himself is fair enough but your setup doesn't facilitate that, so either you carry on as you are, or make space in the fridge.

It certainly hasn't been too hot to cook here, and I couldn't live off salad so a teenage boy definitely can't!