Can't be bothered to cook for son

I was thinking the same, it all sounds very cold and miserable. To me, family meals are such an integral part of life, not to mention the importance of having home cooked from scratch food at least a decent proportion of the time. Outside of holidays if I go even a few days without a proper home cooked hot meal, I feel kind of crappy and a bit disconnected or something. If I never had it I'd feel I may as well be living in an institution..

He is an adult, you don’t have to cook for him. You do have to let him cook for himself. That includes allocating him fridge and freezer space.

what exactly do you expect him to do for food if he isn’t allowed to keep any on the kitchen? It is not reasonable for him to have to buy his food daily and it is not reasonable to have to eat out every meal.

Can I tentatively suggest that if OP is only eating a salad (even if it is "massive") at lunchtime and nothing in the evening, this is probably not helping her energy levels?

It's also potentially not great for the baby, if she is pregnant.

Well If you can’t store food for him use some of his money to get another fridge or make him pay much less rent and get him to buy his own ingredients?
You are being incredibly selfish and unfair

I'd be pretty fed up if someone expected me to go shopping EVERY DAY. The whole reason fridges exist is so that isn't necessary.

Or you could split the packs of meat in your conservatory freezer, chicken breasts in to individual bags or sausages into packs of three. Then all he needs to do is take a bag out in the morning before he leaves for work, tuck it in the fridge and it'll be ready to cook when he gets home. Easy.

This sounds more like restless, late pregnancy irritation than a real problem. When are you due? 🙂

You are going to have to change this set up anyway if you're having a baby as they are going to need regular fresh food quite soon,
So you might as well change it now.
Your son needs space to store food, you will need space to store food for the baby.
Beer is going to have to take second place to food.

I am trying to imagine this fridge that only holds a few beers and snacks.

Make space in the fridge or get a bigger or second fridge.

If you don't want to do a weekly shop and he doesn't want to do a weekly shop, each of you get 3 days of food in once a week. So Monday your DS picks up 3 days worth and then Thursday, you do it. And GET EACH OTHER'S FOOD whilst you're doing it. You're a family - live like one.

This. YABU, I'm afraid.

I have a small under the counter fridge I got from Free to Collect in the conservatory with pop and wine etc in it.

Kitchen fridge is for food - maybe do that

also yes why not mention your are 34 weeks pregnant?

YABU

This. What a weird OP.

Outrageous. Start doing a weekly shop, online so it’s not physically taxing. And find somewhere to store the food. Can’t believe you expect someone, who is paying you for food, to go out everyday to shop. What a waste of time and energy.

Sounds like a really weird set up.
could you get a fridge for beer and use your fridge for food (and massive salads) like everyone else.

How pregnant are you OP?

So you charge him for food but don’t buy food, so you are pocketing that? It’s not fair to charge him and then not shop. And it’s absolutely not fair to deny him space in the fridge. You don’t need a fridge full of beer, keep them in a cupboard and put 4 in as needed.

You don’t have to cook for him OP but if you’re not going to let him buy his own food then you do have to make sure you have stuff in the house for him to make a meal!

You don't say how old your son is. That is relevant.

Why not buy a small fridge that he can keep in his room, maybe a small freezer to go on top,or another room if you have one, even in the hall or on the landing, They aren't expensive, have a look on Amazon and Argos.

Then he can buy his own food and store it.

However you can't expect him to do that and continue paying you £400 a month.

What on earth do you expect him to do if you won't allow him to store his own food in the house but also don't want to make food for him?

Just clear a shelf in the fridge and freezer and let him use that.

We're thinking the same 🤣

Not that it's on you but honestly sounds like you and your family could do with some healthier eating habits. Eating one meal a day, mostly outside of the house and no room for meat and vegetables in your fridge just doesn't sound like a healthy lifestyle. If you're heavily pregnant you'll be wanting to get ahead of this for the baby. But chin off the son. He can sort himself out.

Op, it's really not hard. Tell your dh or son to buy themselves one of those little beer fridges, then clear out your fridge of their beer and anything longtime lurking.

How difficult is it to buy eggs, cheese, a couple of chicken breasts at the weekend and then pork chops, and some burgers on a Thursday? Veggies will keep for three days out of the fridge. Make some space and tell your ds to shop & cook for himself.