Can't be bothered to cook for son

How old is he now? You haven't said.

That's only £100 per week. Presumably he doesn't pay any bills - that would cost him a lot more than £100 per week.

Can’t you batch cook things that freeze well like chillis, Bolognese’s, stews etc or just meal prep things like chicken, rice, veg, salmon etc

The husband and son have the whole fridge full of beer apparently.

Surely the husband and son are equally or even more ludicrous? They fill the fridge with beer and so it's the OP's problem that there's nowhere for them to store food?

I think you (all) need to prioritise your son's evening meal. He's happy to cook himself so you being in a pickle about that is a non-issue.
You all need to discuss what he'll cook, what ingredients he needs and who will buy it. He's living there so is entitled to fridge and freezer space.
It just sounds like none of you can be bothered with each other.

What age is he?
Take the beers out of the fridge and put the food in there. And if they refuse to allow you to do that then the food issue is their problem. Give him back whatever amount was supposed to be for food and tell him to pick up his own food on the way back from work.

The OP is being ludicrous. The son is working all day and not able to get a meal at home as he’s not permitted to store food so he can cook when he comes in, the OP doesn’t buy food (for him?) or cook in the evening. The son is left with no option except shop on way home then cook on arrival, get a takeaway, Go out to dinner.

A bit crap really. What does the OP consider a realistic course of action?

I'd get a load of microwave dinners and pizzas, for him. Make sure there is bread, ham/cheese and crisps for him to make for lunches.

Did you miss the part where he’s not allowed to buy his own food as they have nowhere to store it? 😂 what is he meant to do!

This is such a non problem?! Youve made it a problem by charging him for food. Just reduce the amount he pays you and ask him to plan, buy and cook his own meals from now on. Problem solved! If there's not enough room in the fridge you obviously need a new one. If Dh and Ds use all the space to store beer and snacks explain the issue to them and tell them to find a solution amongst themselves.

The set up seems odd? I don’t know anyone who never has an evening meal because they eat at work. I think you should get a bigger fridge so he can store his own food. It’s fine if you don’t want to cook, but it’s not fair that he can’t store food and if you’re pregnant, will you not need a bigger fridge eventually anyway? The colder months are around the corner, perhaps invest in a slow cooker and do some family meals in there so they are ready for when you finish work?

PS. Why is your DH not involved in this. He is a massive twat if he thinks this is ok.

MN really is an odd place. Some threads will have masses of people telling the OP that their adult children MUST pay rent while others will have masses of people saying the opposite!!

Of course, each family will do what works for them, but it’s such a shame when someone is putting up with something that doesn’t work for them.

I also don’t think it does much good for the adult children that are being infantilised forever. Families should be supporting each other and that includes all adults pulling their weight however that works.

you way sounds fairly balanced

£400 is much less than he would pay in rent elsewhere. And he would be 100% responsible for making sure there was food there for him to prepare and eat. Time for him to grow up. Stop getting him food, making him food, going out. Explain if he does not like it he can move out. Tell him he is paying far less than he would elsewhere and needs to understand that.

Much hotter than 20c where do you live @pearvines ? OP is pregnant as well! Why does her son sound pathetic?

Midlands, I've just been googling some historical weather data and couldn't find a single town in Kent or Cornwall that was over 23C last week. Although it was a spot check, think some people are exaggerating that it's been consistently hot. It hasn't been overly warm, it's been a nice mild week as most of August has been. But it's warmer today.

Well if I was the son I'd be taking out the beer out of the fridge, reducing the £400 monthly spend and buying some fresh food. If anything about this thread is real though I'm going to assume he wouldn't know what or how to cook.

Honestly you all just have to get your act together, there isn't another option is there? Buy a bigger fridge or a beer fridge. You can do it online and it will get delivered to your door, it'll take 5 mins to order it.

Once you have the fridge reduce your son's rent and tell him to do his own weekly shop. Or another option is schedule a delivery once a week, everyone has the password, you add your salad bits, he adds whatever he wants to eat for the week, it gets delivered to your door. Job done.

The baby will have to survive off the Very Big Salad and beer

The fridge is apparently filled with his beer. If she tells him he (a working adult) is now responsible for his own food, I am sure he will be able to rejig the fridge to remove a few beers to store food. Beers do survive outside of a fridge.

Why are we assuming he (again, a working adult) is so incapable that he needs to have everything solved for him including how to make space in the fridge for food?

OP what will you do when your baby arrives, is weaned and needs a daily evening meal?

Live on takeaways, obviously.

Much hotter than 20c where do you live @pearvines ? OP is pregnant as well! Why does her son sound pathetic?

I also charge my working adult son £400 a month and half of MN was up in arms that I was charging my child anything.

It includes his food and he takes his share of cooking family meals along with myself, his dad and his sister.
It also includes laundry but he does his own sheets and towels and also puts the odd load of family laundry on (it doesn't really make sense for him just to do his own).

I would have said my arrangement was fairly normal for someone who is a family member living in the family home.

I was also thinking this. It’s 20 degrees, grey and raining where I am so feels colder. Hardly sweltering!