Can't be bothered to cook for son

This is just ridiculous. You can’t be serious.
Grown arse adult and you’re going out in the evening after work to buy stuff to cook for just his dinner?

1. stop
2. reduce his rent by whatever you’d included for food
3. let him deal with it
4. including moving his beers if needed 😆
5. stop stop stop

You are doing him no favours running around after him. Not even his father is bothering to do that

Oh and 6. Stop doing his laundry cos I bet you’re doing that too!

I still dont understand why OP can't ask the men to remove the beer from the fridge, or at least clear one shelf.

Space to store and cook food is a basic requirement of any lodgings. You’re being seriously odd here and pretty mean.

A roof over his head. A bed to sleep in. Warmth. Beers and snacks with daddy. Up till now a step mother who cooks for him even night because he won't settle for less than his single solitary hot meal when nobody else in the house is wanting to eat hit food. Just because he's been to work and she has tits.

By the way, £400 is fucking peanuts. It's 2024, not 1994.

So, in a nutshell he pays you to provide food and he's happy to cook it if you don't want to. You also don't want to provide it .... just reimburse him the money he pays for food then, ask him to pick it up on the way home.

He's both.

Anyone under 40 is lad to me.

😂

I think it is perfectly reasonable for a young man to want a cooked dinner after a day at work and you sound like you have extremely unusual eating habits. Who the hell only eats a massive salad, that's insane.
You absolutely do not need to cook for him, although in my family, we enjoy taking it in turns to cook for each other. However, you must provide him with adequate space to store his food shopping and the facilities to cook.
If I was him I'd be frantically saving every penny to move out asap.

Not poor lad, working adult

I don't eat rubbish, I eat fruit and yogurt for breakfast and cold meats and salad or sandwiches and wraps for lunch and picky bits during the day fruit, nuts and crackers.

Hot meals don’t equal rubbish.

Your diet doesn’t seem nutritionally balanced OP.

The competitive under-eating on Mumsnet is fucking wild, and depressing.

Do you really need lots of beer in the fridge? You only need to have one evening's worth chilled at a time - they'll soon learn to put one in when they take one out.

What would your DS like? Obviously he wants dinner but would he be happy to cook for himself? Shop for himself or ask you in advance to shop for him? You should reduce his rent a bit in this case.

Pretty much yes, picky tea in the summer. I don't fancy a hot dinner in the summer nor do I fancy cooking one.

Nor do I, and nor do millions of parents. One of the big pros of when DS leaves is that I won't need to think about dinner Every Single Night.

But my responsibility now (or his father's if he was on the scene) is to provide either a meal or the ingredients to do so for my hungry, growing teenager.

I love it when my adult son is home for a bit, as he loves to cook. I tend to get the ingredients and he'll cook for us all.

The fridge is full up with their beer and snacks so I barely have room to put any fruits and vegetables for myself let alone meat and vegetables.

This must be a wind up thread

My son had a beer fridge in his sitting room which doubled as a table.

We went on FB marketplace bought a second hand fridge freezer for the garage, beers, wines, sodas, milk go in there along with spillover fresh foods. We only keep milk and wine in the kitchen fridge. The bottom half is frozen food for making up a meal.

I'd be tipping out all that beer @palmtreesands

Surely he can just pay a bit less and sort out his own meals? He is an adult and would have to be doing that if he lived in his own place anyway.
Does he like things like soup or ramen/pasta?
He could easily make himself a sandwich and some soup, we always keep something like that in the cupboard just incase we get our shopping a bit late and need something quick to cook.

Reduce his board (I hope to god beer isn’t included), tell him to get his own ingredients and he can cook for himself. Food has priority over beer, the people who store beer in the fridge can keep less beer in the fridge and restock the beers more frequently.

You are over thinking this, it isn’t your job to problem solve, so stop doing so. You are doing this boy no favours by acting like his maid.

@palmtreesands

And what heat? It's barely been above 20 this summer. Anyway they eat hot food in India everyday!

It's hard to believe that in this day and age someone is so disorganised that they can't use online deliveries and plan meals.

OP if you want to be like this, fine, but tell your stepson and his Dad that they need to order food and cook it.

OP said he would but she won’t let him store any of his own food in the house whilst charging him to be fed but then not actually wanting to feed him.

Wow. You're being horrible.

Or just keep some of the beer in the fridge. Like a few cans at a time.

Your other thread today says you are 34 weeks pregnant??? Surely you can tell dh and ds to clear the beer from the fridge

Well sort out the fridge so he has a set space for beer and food, perhaps buy a small beer fridge separately.

Reduce rent by £100 a month and he cooks for himself.

Instead of taking to an online forum OP you need to sit down as a family and come up with a solution.

If he's paying you £100 a week you need to use that for his food.
Expecting a growing lad to live off lettuce and 'bits' is just ridiculous.
You surely know that?

What does he eat for lunch?

You don't have to cook.
He can cook or your partner can.

But as a family you need to meal plan for the week, do an online order, batch cook (one of you!) and get organised.

What about his father? Why are you blaming her when she works and is heavily pregnant?