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AIBU?

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Am I in the wrong here?

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ConfusedWriter08 · 28/08/2024 11:00

Regular MNer, but I’ve name changed to stay anonymous. I know not everyone will ‘get’ it, but I write fan fiction using a website specifically for that purpose. I do it completely anonymously, and in real life not a soul knows about it bar DH. I, specialise, I suppose you could say, in ‘literotica’. I know it’s not for everyone, but there’s a huge following for it, and not to blow my own horn, but I’m good at it. I’m told I’m good at it. I like being good at it. I’m just developing the sort of following I’d need to move some work to Patreon and start to charge for it.
This morning, DH has told me he hates it because it feels like I’m being intimate with other people. I’m baffled by this, because it’s not like anybody knows, it’s fictional stories about fictional characters, posted to an open website, it’s not like I’m sending them to a specific person I know.
He’s adamant that anyone would feel the same way about their spouse writing porn. I’ve said personally I couldn’t care less if he was writing erotica.
AIBU?

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RhaenysRocks · 28/08/2024 11:15

I mean, yanbu and he is bu. Is it because he imagines you writing this stuff involves you thinking of it and therefore you're thinking about sex outside of the context of him? No real advice I'm afraid but I'd suggest he doesn't read it!

startstopengine · 28/08/2024 11:08

Is he getting jealous of your success? Because otherwise that's weird.

It's just stories, if you wrote murder mystery would he think you were going to murder someone!

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