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To be shocked this isn't getting more coverage?

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Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 08:51

Women in Afghanistan are now forbidden from speaking when not inside their homes. A simple "hello" to someone in a shop is now against the law. https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/article/2024/aug/26/taliban-bar-on-afghan-women-speaking-in-public-un-afghanistan

AIBU to think this is some of the most horrific news I've heard in months? I can't wrap my head around it and I can't help thinking - activists/newspapers/politicians are loud when campaigning about the gender pay gap or the state of child care or a woman's rights to her own body but somehow on this topic no one wants to criticise too often or too loudly.

Is it because religion is mixed in? Or guilt over the war? Or do politicians in particular only care about women's rights when it's a vote-winner in their constituency? Or is it just that it's so terrible and we all feel so powerless to prevent it that we just prefer to ignore the situation?

I'm feeling v v shaken.

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DramaLlamaBangBang · 28/08/2024 10:17

EI12 · 28/08/2024 10:11

Not our business. Actually, why are you not vocal on the part of Saudi women? Is it because the Saudis are our allies? Or is there anything in particular about the plight of the women in Afghanistan? Or is it because Saudi women are better off financially and are allowed an occasional trip to Selfridges in the UK?

Agree Saudi Arabia should have had more heat on it, but them being our allies has forced them to be more open and relax their rules a bit more. It was this that has caused Iran to dial up their funding of Hamas and Hezbollah, because they didn't want SA to be closer to the West. They are funding this shit and are funding Idlamist extremism in Mosques in the UK. They are there becsuse of the West interfering in Iran yes, but that's done now. We can't go back in time and undo the interfering the US and USSR did in the ME.

CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 10:16

EI12 · 28/08/2024 10:11

Not our business. Actually, why are you not vocal on the part of Saudi women? Is it because the Saudis are our allies? Or is there anything in particular about the plight of the women in Afghanistan? Or is it because Saudi women are better off financially and are allowed an occasional trip to Selfridges in the UK?

Some of us ARE talking about Saudi women and women from many other countries.

Making a thread on one topic doesn't mean we don't care about others.

Some of us are screaming about this from the rooftops, but very few people listen or care.

And it IS our business.
What is happening to women across the world is the business of every other woman. No man is coming to save any of us. They never have when we are the only ones suffering from something.

Gedoverit · 28/08/2024 10:15

taliban are terrorists and you can not negotiate with terrorists. They are extremists and have zero value of human lives, human rights, the west, Christianity, jews, law and order. Condemning them publicly has zero effect, almost impossible to defeat in a war as they are fighting for their sovereignty and what they see as what they want. They take no notice of anybody or anything. Someone said here change has to come from within - 100%. This isn't the fault of Trump/Biden/Boris/Rishi or anyone else. No amount of protests will make any difference even.

Emptyandsad · 28/08/2024 10:14

This is just another form of slavery. The close link between Islam and misogyny is really worrying

ladsladzladse · 28/08/2024 10:14

EI12 · 28/08/2024 10:11

Not our business. Actually, why are you not vocal on the part of Saudi women? Is it because the Saudis are our allies? Or is there anything in particular about the plight of the women in Afghanistan? Or is it because Saudi women are better off financially and are allowed an occasional trip to Selfridges in the UK?

When did the UK - or whatever country you're from - invade and occupy Saudi Arabia?

CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 10:12

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/08/2024 10:00

If the UK government were in partnership with the Taliban providing with arms, you'd have a point. But they're not.

The very sad fact is we have no leverage. There is nothing the UK can do to help Afgan women.Sad

We can use our voices for the women who cant. Their rights to a voice have been taken away.

To bring awareness. We can shout about the plight of women.

I am looking at the countries I have lived and grew up in and they are changing before my eyes.

The rights of women is a global issue and topics like what is happening in Afganistan should be spoken about. It should be acknowledged and it isn't (or at least not to the scale it should be).

This news should horrify every woman outside of Afganistan.

We should be holding space for them instead of pretending they don't exist.

If we all bury our heads in the sand we will end up like them, or our daughters, or our granddaughters.

People think the white men sitting in government care what happens to us and that "this will never happen here", and they're deluded.

And if people aren't concerned about the conservative Muslim politicians in the UK and their values about women then they will be in for a shock.

This could be us.

ladsladzladse · 28/08/2024 10:12

I can't help thinking - activists/newspapers/politicians are loud when campaigning about the gender pay gap or the state of child care or a woman's rights to her own body but somehow on this topic no one wants to criticise too often or too loudly.

ARE activists, newspapers, and politicians "loud" about these issues? I would say nowhere near loud enough, and certainly not loud enough to make any kind of sustained improvement to any of these issues. In fact, globally, we are going back on all of these.

Unfortunately, PPs are correct - when something only or mainly negatively impacts women, society just does not care. "The West", led by the USA, got "our people" out and left everyone else to their fates.

If the taliban cannot feed their people there will be a refugee crisis similar to the Syrian one with millions in the move. When Kabul fell, there was very little refuge for fleeing Afghans. Some people had connections to the countries which had had a presence there and were able to leverage that to get out, and some could leverage other personal connections, but very far from all. Iran eventually did relax its requirements in response to the crisis, but I think it was the only neighbouring country to do so. There was a very strong sense of Afghanistan closing, of a very short window to find a way to go and then - trapped. How can there be a refugee crisis if no one can leave?

EI12 · 28/08/2024 10:11

Not our business. Actually, why are you not vocal on the part of Saudi women? Is it because the Saudis are our allies? Or is there anything in particular about the plight of the women in Afghanistan? Or is it because Saudi women are better off financially and are allowed an occasional trip to Selfridges in the UK?

Grumpy12345 · 28/08/2024 10:11

CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 09:54

If we can all be up in arms over the Palestine genocide then we can all care about the vile and terrifying treatment of women in Afganistan.

But oh wait, it's not a popular or trendy topic to virtue signal with... so crickets.

If we turn a blind eye to this it will keep on creeping through other places and we will be in a very scary place soon.

The rights of women are being eroded across the Western world.
Violence against women is at crisis levels.

This is a warning for all of us and I think we will deeply regret ignoring this problem and pretending it doesn't exist.

This.

PolitePearlMoose · 28/08/2024 10:09

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Zebedee999 · 28/08/2024 10:08

It's strange how some countries in the world are regressing. Lebanon in the 70's was very westernised with developing women's rights, just look at it now. The same was true of Iran and many other places that are now hardcore Islamic horror shows where women's rights are non-existent.
Wherever hardcore Islam gets a grip the rights of everyone bar men dive to next to nothing.
Even in Bradford recently 3 women were assaulted by a man for not wearing traditional dress (i.e. Pakistani dress)... these attacks on women's rights happen very close to home on our own doorsteps (Andrew Tate via the Internet, extreme Muslim men on the streets).
Much of this regression is caused by Iran who are stoking trouble wherever they can to divide and make the West unstable... and they are succeeding.
The 7th October Hamas raping/murdering incursion into Israel was funded etc by Iran deliberately to destabilise the region and stop the numerous peace treaties that were being put into place over there including Trump's Abraham Peace Accords.
The only MENA country with meaningful womens/gay/human rights is Israel, whereas Iran undermines these rights wherever it can and will cause conflict instead of peace. Yet no one protests against Iran at all but happily protest in the UK regularly "river to the sea" advocating the eradication of Israel exactly as Iran wants.
IMO the sooner Afghanis and Iranians ris up against their givernments the better. I'm involved with a UK based Iranian women's group who want that exact end.

Grumpy12345 · 28/08/2024 10:05

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 09:39

Yes, that's my first reaction as well. Helping the Taliban feed their people with no concessions by them is just propping up their government, surely? Leading to longer term suffering.

I agree.

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 28/08/2024 10:04

The world is missing out on the great impact, the great minds, the great importance of these women … a mighty contribution to humanity is utterly lost inside oppressive medieval, misogynistic, violent, totalitarian regimes. The loss of these women’s voices and their incredible influence is our collective loss.

lemonpepperlady · 28/08/2024 10:03

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UmbrellaEllaEllaElla · 28/08/2024 10:03

Anything to do with women never gets much press. If you notice outrage over race and religion trumps women every time.

Tulipvase · 28/08/2024 10:02

Takoneko · 28/08/2024 09:42

I think it’s really important to say that this isn’t a traditional, medieval way of life that the west has tried valiantly to save Afghanistan from.

In the 70s women in Afghanistan had better equality than women in the U.K.. 15% of their legislative body was women (the figure in the U.K. did not get above 10% until 1997). 40% of doctors were women back in the 70s.

The Taliban emerged from the mujahideen which was backed by the US and U.K. during the Soviet Afghan War. They didn’t come to power in Afghanistan until the 90s. This isn’t some traditional way of life that the west has tried to save Afghanistan from. It’s an historical aberration forced onto Afghan women by militia groups that were armed and funded by western powers to undermine the Soviets.

I didn’t realise this. Thank you.

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/08/2024 10:00

CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 09:54

If we can all be up in arms over the Palestine genocide then we can all care about the vile and terrifying treatment of women in Afganistan.

But oh wait, it's not a popular or trendy topic to virtue signal with... so crickets.

If we turn a blind eye to this it will keep on creeping through other places and we will be in a very scary place soon.

The rights of women are being eroded across the Western world.
Violence against women is at crisis levels.

This is a warning for all of us and I think we will deeply regret ignoring this problem and pretending it doesn't exist.

If the UK government were in partnership with the Taliban providing with arms, you'd have a point. But they're not.

The very sad fact is we have no leverage. There is nothing the UK can do to help Afgan women.Sad

ilovesooty · 28/08/2024 09:59

Blondiebeachbabe · 28/08/2024 09:53

Until 1972, women in this region dressed exactly like we do today. Can you imagine the horror, of being there at the time that these new laws came in?

It is predicted, that the UK could be majority Muslim, by 2050.

Let that sink in.

Who has predicted that?

AlisonDonut · 28/08/2024 09:59

Blondiebeachbabe · 28/08/2024 09:53

Until 1972, women in this region dressed exactly like we do today. Can you imagine the horror, of being there at the time that these new laws came in?

It is predicted, that the UK could be majority Muslim, by 2050.

Let that sink in.

In Australia they have already removed women's rights to single sex anything so this WILL be coming - make no bones about it.

Zarah Sultana just this week was saying how much she loves it when men tell women what to wear. Yes, she is an MP in Coventry.

Just look at what happened in Iran. The moment the Left were no longer useful they were all slaughtered. They are fucking idiots if they cannot see what is coming but it is now illegal in the UK to critisise Islam.

This is what the Left want.

AInightingale · 28/08/2024 09:55

My friend taught girls in Afghanistan about 15 years ago and spoke about how eager they were to learn, how brilliant some of them were, how eager they were to be taught and improve their English. It's a tragedy of wasted human potential as well as everything else, to think of them being silenced by stone age savages in this way. I do think there is an element of fear & cowardice in the way it is being reported, we mustn't appear Islamophobic, even when it's the most deranged and brutal variant of Islam. Look at Angela Rayner ingratiating herself with that large group of Muslim men weeks before the election, for instance.

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 09:55

Crystallizedring · 28/08/2024 09:53

But what do you really think that will achieve? Holding government to account and condemning the Taliban isn't going to help those women?
To make a difference it will mean going to war but I'm not sure that is going to happen and will mean so many innocent people dying.

But it might at least help other women. It might stop other countries (including our own) from backsliding on women's rights.

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SerenityNowInsanityLater · 28/08/2024 09:54

My father in law was a Russian Bulgarian student (Sanskrit linguist) who travelled from London to Kabul in a VW Kombi. He and his Cambridge buddies took this massive road trip in 1961. I’ve attached what was written about their observations of women/girls in Kabul at the time: Snapshots of time-worn female oppression and the resistance to it those women maintained, against the odds.

Afghan and Iranian women are my heroes because so many of them will, with everything they’ve got, and while facing insurmountable risks, carve their rights in their own blood if necessary. They will die on that noble hill. And for those who go about their daily lives dutifully, they do so to survive. Their silent resistance lives within them and it must be what gives them the courage to survive under such fearsome brutal regimes. Those women show the world that you can hold courage and fear in one hand. They must live a life of knowing when to rise and when to fall back; this constant dance with duality that is, to most of us, an inconceivable existence.

I remember the Soviet-Afghan war raging on in the background of my American childhood. When my son was born, just after 9/11, I remember thinking ‘and so it continues in his childhood’. His father did 2 tours in Afghanistan (British military). My first husband sat, in wartime, with the ghosts of Kabul his father knew in the flesh 40+ years before, when the geopolitical rumblings were gathering strength.

To be shocked this isn't getting more coverage?
To be shocked this isn't getting more coverage?
CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 09:54

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If we can all be up in arms over the Palestine genocide then we can all care about the vile and terrifying treatment of women in Afganistan.

But oh wait, it's not a popular or trendy topic to virtue signal with... so crickets.

If we turn a blind eye to this it will keep on creeping through other places and we will be in a very scary place soon.

The rights of women are being eroded across the Western world.
Violence against women is at crisis levels.

This is a warning for all of us and I think we will deeply regret ignoring this problem and pretending it doesn't exist.

DodoTired · 28/08/2024 09:54

Re Afghanistan, unfortunately there is nothing to be done there at the moment.

And by the way Taliban was originally sponsored by the USA to counter Soviet Union influence, so it is there thanks to the Western meddling to begin with. Google Operation Cyclone. They were called “insurgency” then. If the Western governments minded their own business, Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq and Libya wouldn’t have been in such a terrible state now. Syria too.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 28/08/2024 09:53

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 09:26

But for example when the US rowed back on abortion rights, there were loads of articles about it in other countries, loads of discussions here in Europe, and UK politicians made their positions clear.

We didn't just shrug and say we can't do anything about the US and change has to come from within. I mean, I agree that it has to be American voters pushing for change but that doesn't stop the rest of the world from having an opinion.

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The US care about their position in the world and their relationship with other countries. The US voters were also the ones that forced state governments from towing back on rights. The Taliban don't care about any of those things. The West has tried interfering in the Middle East. It's a shit show partly as a result. Same with Syria.