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To be shocked this isn't getting more coverage?

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Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 08:51

Women in Afghanistan are now forbidden from speaking when not inside their homes. A simple "hello" to someone in a shop is now against the law. https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/article/2024/aug/26/taliban-bar-on-afghan-women-speaking-in-public-un-afghanistan

AIBU to think this is some of the most horrific news I've heard in months? I can't wrap my head around it and I can't help thinking - activists/newspapers/politicians are loud when campaigning about the gender pay gap or the state of child care or a woman's rights to her own body but somehow on this topic no one wants to criticise too often or too loudly.

Is it because religion is mixed in? Or guilt over the war? Or do politicians in particular only care about women's rights when it's a vote-winner in their constituency? Or is it just that it's so terrible and we all feel so powerless to prevent it that we just prefer to ignore the situation?

I'm feeling v v shaken.

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Newbutoldfather · 28/08/2024 11:40

What I would love to see is the same people marching ‘for Palestine’ coming out in force and marching against the Taliban and for women’s rights to education.

This would really make me respect them more.

79Helene · 28/08/2024 11:40

ChallahPlaiter · 28/08/2024 11:36

Everything that you’ve said about Jewish women is either inaccurate or plain wrong, FYI.

A good example of misinformation slyly slipped in with the hope no one Jewish will notice and everyone else will believe it.

BreatheAndFocus · 28/08/2024 11:40

Tulipvase · 28/08/2024 10:02

I didn’t realise this. Thank you.

Look at this heartbreaking video showing the actual traditional dress of countries including Afghanistan:

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EasternStandard · 28/08/2024 11:40

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/08/2024 11:30

Exactly this

Of course it's heartbreaking, but it's what too many Afghan males wanted and continue to want, which is largely why the Taliban swept back in so quickly

Nobody pretends the way our forces left was ideal, but the result would probably have been the same no matter what we'd done, and unless we're prepared to return to the colonialist approach of running others' countries we just have to accept that they won't always govern themselves in a way the west cconsiders appropriate

This. People didn't want to stay indefinitely and given it's the children of those in the electorate dying it's not unsurprising it became unpopular. I mean would anyone here volunteer for their dc to go in or go in themselves?

There also seems to be a reluctance to acknowledge how dangerous the regime based on their beliefs is and looking to the west for blame. It really is as extreme and oppressive system and regime.

GreyCarpet · 28/08/2024 11:39

whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:30

I come from a small EU country where men tend to be a bit chauvnistic sometimes. My father did all his best possible to educate me and give me a chance to earn my own money, to want a career and be an equal earner, all this being Christian.

now, come and tell me this about your muslim men.

Erm, well one of my closest male friends is Muslim. He has daughters and he is determined that they won't be brought up with the expectations his sisters and mother etc had of them.

Even down to not wanting them to live with their mother is laws when they marry. He wants them to experience the full freedoms that all women should enjoy - education, careers, financial independence, to dress how they wish (no expectations of hijabs etc).

And he is not alone. His friends feel similarly.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 28/08/2024 11:38

There's just been a long discussion about this on Times Radio. Everyone was in agreement that nothing can be done. Very depressing. I've donated to the Linda Norgrove Foundation charity but it seems such a tiny gesture.

Whammyammy · 28/08/2024 11:38

kublacant · 28/08/2024 11:19

Does anyone know if a protest is planned outside the Afghan Embassy in London?

my idea is that women all over the world stand outside the Afghan embassies and sing - raise their voices in a way that the Afghan women can’t .

Yeah, because the Taliban rulers will listen to protectors outside of the London embassy .

Afghanistan is not the UK, the west spend nearly 20 years trying to improve/change it and achieved nothing.

Biden pulled us all out, and I hope we never go back. My husband has served over there and I lived in fear each time.

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:37

whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:30

I come from a small EU country where men tend to be a bit chauvnistic sometimes. My father did all his best possible to educate me and give me a chance to earn my own money, to want a career and be an equal earner, all this being Christian.

now, come and tell me this about your muslim men.

Are you seriously suggesting that all Muslim men prevent women from studying and having a career??

Newbutoldfather · 28/08/2024 11:37

I think the west (especially US and UK) are ashamed about what happened in Afghanistan, and so we should be.

But what can we do? It is a dirt poor country, so sanctioning it would just lead to starvation (and mostly of women, as the Taliban would grab the food), and we can hardly invade again. We know where that leads.

I do think we have double standards in the UK as regards Islam. Yes, the majority of Muslims are decent, law abiding citizens, but many are sexist still and they don’t condemn extreme Islam hard enough.

We need, like France, to take a much stronger line on treating all uk citizens the same, both with regards to rights and sanctions.

BustyCrustacean · 28/08/2024 11:37

@Sugarcoldturkey it certainly isn't racist and it takes guts to openly swim against the media class- guts which I don't have, by the way!!
so much easier just to ignore or even become an apologist- like some of the posters on here
hell, I've even seen prominent feminists defend the burka (pure cowardice)
those posters who are apologising would be bending over backwards to berate any white, working class parent who appeared to treat their boys more favourably than their girls
holding a different religion and culture to lower standards than we would ourselves is actually incredibly patronising and kinda racist when you think about it- how ironic

anon4net · 28/08/2024 11:36

I@Sugarcoldturkeywhen I read it I was horrified and also noted it wasn't being discussed.

I think that there's really nothing outsiders can do except donate and raise awareness, when it comes to change for the country. Everything done seems to end up with the Taliban gaining strength and human lives lost. All those wars and here we are.

Aid is important but I don't see it being able to address this issue.

ChallahPlaiter · 28/08/2024 11:36

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:12

@Zebedee999
Do you know anything about how women in traditional Jewish households are treated? All behind their religion eg no touching anyone during periods, sleeping on the floor, having to wear wigs etc.
@Blondiebeachbabe it is racist to imply the Muslim invasion is coming to the UK by 2050, by implication that their laws will come with them hence stoking the kind of ignorant racists mobs we have been on the streets of the UK in recent times.
@AInightingale I didn't state anything about Islam and race as I was stating that Blondies comments are racist and alarmist in reference to her thinking that UK will be overtaken by Muslims by 2050 not proven by any facts.

Everything that you’ve said about Jewish women is either inaccurate or plain wrong, FYI.

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:34

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:25

Ok, but is it racist to be concerned that the Taliban ideology (that they claim is the one true interpretation of Islam) and others like it might spread?

Even in small ways. I'm a teacher and often see things e.g. some Muslim parents refusing to send their girls on school trips but happy to send their boys. Is it racism if I say that that is anti women and I don't want those views to spread?

Of course, it is perfectly possible to be Muslim and support women's rights. Just like it is possible to be Christian and support women's choice re abortion. Unfortunately, the ideology where religion and women's rights are mutually exclusive seems to be spreading.

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Of course we don't want those awful views to be spread but we also don't want to be alarmist and suggest that this is a 'Muslim problem' inciting islamophobia which the UK already has as seen recently in the UK.

It's sad to hear that girls are not allowed to go on school trips unlike the boys. What as a school are you doing about that?

GinnyPiggie · 28/08/2024 11:34

The majority of our local refugees are Afghan women. This is a big part of the refugee crisis.

Vintago · 28/08/2024 11:34

Bump. Everyone on MN needs to read this.

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:34

DogInATent · 28/08/2024 11:31

Is it unreasonable to be shocked that there's not much coverage of this? - of course not, but sadly most people in the UK don't care about anything that doesn't directly concern them. They've swallowed the anti-foreigner rhetoric that a very large part of UK politics has descended into. If it's happening half-way around the world in someplace ending in -stan, they just don't GAS.

We have an appalling standard of international news coverage in the UK now. If it's not happening in or to a country that has English as a first language, it's not considered newsworthy by the public or the media. You only get any real international news coverage on the Channel 4 evening news now - and even that tends to be over-focussed and thematic.

I do take your point, but isn't there a lot of coverage of Israel/Palestine etc? Or today an article in the guardian about how China doesn't allow same-sex marriage.

So there is coverage of non-UK news but only if it's somehow "trendy"?

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 28/08/2024 11:33

Of course people are appalled, but exactly what do you think we can do about it?

I don’t think the Taliban are going to take much notice of mass demonstrations in Trafalgar Square.

babyproblems · 28/08/2024 11:31

I saw this and thought the same thing. Apparently a female voice is a vice!!! Unbelievable. Dire news in 2024.

DogInATent · 28/08/2024 11:31

Is it unreasonable to be shocked that there's not much coverage of this? - of course not, but sadly most people in the UK don't care about anything that doesn't directly concern them. They've swallowed the anti-foreigner rhetoric that a very large part of UK politics has descended into. If it's happening half-way around the world in someplace ending in -stan, they just don't GAS.

We have an appalling standard of international news coverage in the UK now. If it's not happening in or to a country that has English as a first language, it's not considered newsworthy by the public or the media. You only get any real international news coverage on the Channel 4 evening news now - and even that tends to be over-focussed and thematic.

whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:30

I come from a small EU country where men tend to be a bit chauvnistic sometimes. My father did all his best possible to educate me and give me a chance to earn my own money, to want a career and be an equal earner, all this being Christian.

now, come and tell me this about your muslim men.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/08/2024 11:30

Octavia64 · 28/08/2024 09:03

There isn't a public outcry because there is very little we can do.

The U.K. has invaded Afghanistan I think three or four times in the last 200 years.

The soviets, the Americans and us have all tried to drag them out of their backward tribal culture which oppresses women.

Ultimately the men in Afghanistan are prepared to fight for their country and their right to do what they want in it which includes treating women terribly.

All of the invasions were fought and ultimately the Afghans won.

So no, unless you want to suggest that a country invades Afghanistan and puts it's soldiers lives on the line (and lots of them will die) to protect the women of Afghanistan then there is nothing to be done.

Exactly this

Of course it's heartbreaking, but it's what too many Afghan males wanted and continue to want, which is largely why the Taliban swept back in so quickly

Nobody pretends the way our forces left was ideal, but the result would probably have been the same no matter what we'd done, and unless we're prepared to return to the colonialist approach of running others' countries we just have to accept that they won't always govern themselves in a way the west cconsiders appropriate

EI12 · 28/08/2024 11:30

Fluffyelephant · 28/08/2024 10:48

The Soviets certainly didn't 'try and drag Afghanistan out of 'their backward tribal culture'. That's ridiculous. Afghanistan was quite a progressive country until the Soviet invasion and then the Taliban managed to take over. If you google 'Afghanistan 1970s' you'll see photos of women in mini-skirts going to University.

It was shameful how the UK left Afghanistan, especially after encouraging so many to take on jobs and responsibilities which could put their lives at risk if the Taliban returned to power.

Brilliant piece by David Greig - Miniskirts of Kabul,

David Greig (dramatist) - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Greig_(dramatist)

poppymango · 28/08/2024 11:30

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 09:26

But for example when the US rowed back on abortion rights, there were loads of articles about it in other countries, loads of discussions here in Europe, and UK politicians made their positions clear.

We didn't just shrug and say we can't do anything about the US and change has to come from within. I mean, I agree that it has to be American voters pushing for change but that doesn't stop the rest of the world from having an opinion.

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Agree. It feels like everyone has just given up, It's so upsetting.

Can't talk in public, can't read in public, can't so much as glance at a man in public unless he's a relative. And we know full well that those in charge would run the world like this if they had a chance. It's horrific.

whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:29

eff rubish. Jesus was the first Man to give voice to women and historically christians are the only ones who did anything for the less privileged.

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:28

MorrisZapp · 28/08/2024 11:19

Times Radio currently covering it.

I'm so glad it's at least getting some coverage. It really seemed as if it was just being ignored by all the major news outlets. I hope they continue reporting on it

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