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Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 08:51

Women in Afghanistan are now forbidden from speaking when not inside their homes. A simple "hello" to someone in a shop is now against the law. https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/article/2024/aug/26/taliban-bar-on-afghan-women-speaking-in-public-un-afghanistan

AIBU to think this is some of the most horrific news I've heard in months? I can't wrap my head around it and I can't help thinking - activists/newspapers/politicians are loud when campaigning about the gender pay gap or the state of child care or a woman's rights to her own body but somehow on this topic no one wants to criticise too often or too loudly.

Is it because religion is mixed in? Or guilt over the war? Or do politicians in particular only care about women's rights when it's a vote-winner in their constituency? Or is it just that it's so terrible and we all feel so powerless to prevent it that we just prefer to ignore the situation?

I'm feeling v v shaken.

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turbonerd · 02/09/2024 08:44

Tryonemoretime · 01/09/2024 21:32

It's definitely not all Afghan men. But aren't there enough Afghan men to overthrow the Taliban? By not resisting, doesn't that make them complicit in the appalling treatment of their women?

Yes, if the Taliban are only 400 000 and there are 20 million men not happy about it one would hope they eventually would band together and chuck the Taliban out.

Blueybanditbingochilli · 01/09/2024 21:44

Teacherprebaby · 01/09/2024 18:11

People need to stop saying "Afghan men". Afghanistan has a population of 40m, the Taliban make up between 100,000 and 400,000 men, depending on sources so it is not all Afghan men.

I take it you approve of NAMALT as well?

Tryonemoretime · 01/09/2024 21:32

Teacherprebaby · 01/09/2024 18:11

People need to stop saying "Afghan men". Afghanistan has a population of 40m, the Taliban make up between 100,000 and 400,000 men, depending on sources so it is not all Afghan men.

It's definitely not all Afghan men. But aren't there enough Afghan men to overthrow the Taliban? By not resisting, doesn't that make them complicit in the appalling treatment of their women?

AdviceNeeded2024 · 01/09/2024 19:31

Teacherprebaby · 01/09/2024 18:11

People need to stop saying "Afghan men". Afghanistan has a population of 40m, the Taliban make up between 100,000 and 400,000 men, depending on sources so it is not all Afghan men.

Yes this. I highly doubt most Afghan men are happy living under this regime either. Yes I appreciate they aren’t quite as oppressed, but they still are oppressed

Teacherprebaby · 01/09/2024 18:14

Blondiebeachbabe · 28/08/2024 09:53

Until 1972, women in this region dressed exactly like we do today. Can you imagine the horror, of being there at the time that these new laws came in?

It is predicted, that the UK could be majority Muslim, by 2050.

Let that sink in.

Muslim does not equal Taliban 🙄

Teacherprebaby · 01/09/2024 18:11

Octavia64 · 28/08/2024 09:03

There isn't a public outcry because there is very little we can do.

The U.K. has invaded Afghanistan I think three or four times in the last 200 years.

The soviets, the Americans and us have all tried to drag them out of their backward tribal culture which oppresses women.

Ultimately the men in Afghanistan are prepared to fight for their country and their right to do what they want in it which includes treating women terribly.

All of the invasions were fought and ultimately the Afghans won.

So no, unless you want to suggest that a country invades Afghanistan and puts it's soldiers lives on the line (and lots of them will die) to protect the women of Afghanistan then there is nothing to be done.

People need to stop saying "Afghan men". Afghanistan has a population of 40m, the Taliban make up between 100,000 and 400,000 men, depending on sources so it is not all Afghan men.

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Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 19:18

Cyclebabble · 29/08/2024 19:13

And do you hold all Christians accountable for the actions of say Christian Russia or America? No of course you don't. Nice bit of stereotyping and othering holding an entire religion accountable for some rogue nations states.

Well after the riots, there were huge demonstrations by white people to say ‘not in my name’ and register their disapproval. Should they not have bothered?

Edit - obviously the counter protests weren’t solely white, but in terms of registering disapproval of the actions of others you share that characteristic with.

Cyclebabble · 29/08/2024 19:13

coxesorangepippin · 28/08/2024 16:18

I would like to see the Muslim population of U.K to take to the streets and march to the doors of the Afghani Embassy in London or to take to the streets and march against all of the Islamic countries that treat their female population like second class beings but it has never happened yet and never will. When they do i will donate my hard earned cash.

^

This. We've been waiting a while, let's face it.

I'll join you in that donation.

And do you hold all Christians accountable for the actions of say Christian Russia or America? No of course you don't. Nice bit of stereotyping and othering holding an entire religion accountable for some rogue nations states.

Shakeoffyourchains · 29/08/2024 14:54

Menopausalsourpuss · 28/08/2024 21:38

Er I don't "support" Christianity, I am a Christian so of course I care more about Christians being persecuted than other religions (although am concerned about Jews being persecuted which is also happening, not so much in the ME as they have been wiped out apart from Israel). I'm not sure who you think Christians have abused or who they're persecuting your whole post is abit muddled.

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Aren't Christians supposed to care about everybody? Well, at least you admit your bias, I guess.

I see someone else has already covered the historical abuse and persecution, so I'll focus on the present.

If you were to ask the women being denied bodily autonomy in certain states in America, the women forced to stay in abusive marriages in the Philippines, the religious minorities imprisoned and tortured in Eritrea, or the LGBT community facing death in Uganda simply for existing, they'd probably say they feel persecuted by Christianity today.

But no doubt none of the above will be because of Christianity in your eyes.

Shakeoffyourchains · 29/08/2024 14:49

EasternStandard · 28/08/2024 20:57

Where would you rather be?

I know where I'd choose for my dd and me, without doubt.

As I am culturally and ethnically British, and have no religion, I am most comfortable living in secular Britain. If you're asking whether I would choose to live in a Muslim-majority country, probably not, but then I wouldn’t choose to live in any country where religion has a heavy influence and would be equally uncomfortable adapting to the culture of Norway as to the culture of Algeria.

If I were forced to choose, it would depend entirely on the country. For example, I’d prefer the USA to Saudi Arabia, but I’d take Indonesia over the USA any day.

But my preferences are irrelevant to the point I was making. Britain is a secular country (I know there are still some ties to the Church in certain areas, but functionally, we’re secular) and that isn’t going to change in my lifetime.

Even if it did, and Islam became the dominant religion here, I can guarantee that I’d have far more in common with a Muslim born and raised in Britain than I would with a Christian raised in the Philippines or an atheist raised in Serbia, so would probably be fairly comfortable here culturally still.

PaminaMozart · 29/08/2024 13:38

PaminaMozart · 28/08/2024 09:10

Please consider helping Afghan women and girls by donating:

https://lindanorgrovefoundation.org/

Quoting myself here...... but I just wanted to add that one of the young women supported by the Linda Norgrove Foundation - now in Scotland to study medicine!! - was interviewed on yesterday's Woman's Hour:

Wednesday 28 August, about 21 minutes into the programme. You can catch it BBC Sounds or iPlayer.

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 12:58

DogInATent · 29/08/2024 11:06

Because he and his supporters have got so much worse, and in a second term he's likely to go for broke.

  • The Jan 6th Capitol riot wasn't until after he'd lost the last election.
  • First time around many of his plans were constrained, but he was able to sow the seeds for the future. For example, Roe vs. Wade wasn't overturned until after his period in office but this was achieved due to the Supreme Court appointments he made whilst in office.
  • Project 2025 is showing a good indication of the direction those backing him want to take him. Whilst he's maintaining a legal separation from that group, many of it's members are former members of his campaign and administration and are very likely to be brought back by him if he's elected.
Plus, personal circumstances make it so much easier this time around. They're now at a point in their lives where they could move without as much disruption to education or careers.

It seems very shortsighted. It would have made much more sense to leave when an 8 year Trump was a strong possibility, not a definitely 4 year Trump. Tbh I don’t really believe when people threaten to emigrate in protests at politics - they very rarely do and it’s usually hot air.

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 12:56

ChallahPlaiter · 29/08/2024 11:50

How would they do that? Only by some kind of force, bearing in mind that Parliament is not exclusively male and we have various checks and balances. I don’t think this kind of point is useful in the context of the op.

Well, exactly. It won’t happen because over time, authorities (who were primarily men over the years) have tied the knots tight in embedding rights for women into the framework of the country to a point it’s virtually irreversible (thank heavens)

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 12:54

There are some 20 million women/females in Afghanistan. Most Western countries are at capacity as it is. We can’t simply taken in a million refugees every time there is a crisis. I acknowledge the majority of them sadly will be unable to leave, but the point stands.

Ukraine is different - they’re fighting (HARD) to regain control of their country and eventually the refugees will return home. You can’t help a country who won’t help themselves.

angeldelite · 29/08/2024 12:10

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 29/08/2024 12:02

We could coalesce in the west to offer refugee status and full resettlement and education to any female citizen who can get out of Afghanistan.

Can’t see that happening when the UK left behind Afghan translators.

But I totally agree would love to see this happen.

If we can take hundreds of thousands of Ukrainian women and children we can do the same for Afghan women and children.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 29/08/2024 12:02

Octavia64 · 28/08/2024 09:03

There isn't a public outcry because there is very little we can do.

The U.K. has invaded Afghanistan I think three or four times in the last 200 years.

The soviets, the Americans and us have all tried to drag them out of their backward tribal culture which oppresses women.

Ultimately the men in Afghanistan are prepared to fight for their country and their right to do what they want in it which includes treating women terribly.

All of the invasions were fought and ultimately the Afghans won.

So no, unless you want to suggest that a country invades Afghanistan and puts it's soldiers lives on the line (and lots of them will die) to protect the women of Afghanistan then there is nothing to be done.

We could coalesce in the west to offer refugee status and full resettlement and education to any female citizen who can get out of Afghanistan.

ChallahPlaiter · 29/08/2024 11:50

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 10:13

The fact is if men in the UK collectively wanted to keep women under lock and key, they could do it tomorrow. There would be absolutely nothing to stop them, we would be defenceless. So why don’t they?

How would they do that? Only by some kind of force, bearing in mind that Parliament is not exclusively male and we have various checks and balances. I don’t think this kind of point is useful in the context of the op.

inamarina · 29/08/2024 11:38

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 10:46

Yes it’s baffling people are desperately trying to excuse the fanatical religious aspect by going ‘but insert liberal country with equal rights for women aren’t perfect either..’

They’re not just trying to excuse it, they’re pretending it’s not there at all. It’s really mind blowing.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/08/2024 11:25

wickerlady · 29/08/2024 07:05

Whilst I agree with your sentiment, it's terrible behaviour and treatment but that's just to our standards. They more than likely think the west live terribly and in a lot of ways we do.

You can't expect the rest of the world to be westernised, you must let them live how they want to live. The west are so arrogant to think that they can dictate to the rest of the world how they should live.

I’m sure it’s not the way the women want to live though!

EasternStandard · 29/08/2024 11:20

DogInATent · 29/08/2024 11:09

If you'd typed a complete question that made sense there would have been something to understand.

Where would I choose to live? - anywhere in the EU, for the combination of rights and opportunities available to all.

You still got there with the US so I doubt you couldn't understand it, just wasted typing otherwise.

For all your posts re the west you have chosen that after all over the alternative

How come?

Is it due to those rights and opportunities being lower for women and girls?

DogInATent · 29/08/2024 11:09

EasternStandard · 29/08/2024 10:56

There you go not US you are understanding the question

Which top five countries would you choose to live in?

For you and your DDs if you have them

If you'd typed a complete question that made sense there would have been something to understand.

Where would I choose to live? - anywhere in the EU, for the combination of rights and opportunities available to all.

DogInATent · 29/08/2024 11:06

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 10:50

Why didn’t they do it when he was President last time?

Because he and his supporters have got so much worse, and in a second term he's likely to go for broke.

  • The Jan 6th Capitol riot wasn't until after he'd lost the last election.
  • First time around many of his plans were constrained, but he was able to sow the seeds for the future. For example, Roe vs. Wade wasn't overturned until after his period in office but this was achieved due to the Supreme Court appointments he made whilst in office.
  • Project 2025 is showing a good indication of the direction those backing him want to take him. Whilst he's maintaining a legal separation from that group, many of it's members are former members of his campaign and administration and are very likely to be brought back by him if he's elected.
Plus, personal circumstances make it so much easier this time around. They're now at a point in their lives where they could move without as much disruption to education or careers.
EasternStandard · 29/08/2024 10:59

Blueybanditbingochilli · 29/08/2024 10:46

Yes it’s baffling people are desperately trying to excuse the fanatical religious aspect by going ‘but insert liberal country with equal rights for women aren’t perfect either..’

I know it's so far off. What's the motivation?

It is concerning though that a fanatical religious reality is being downplayed, I'm not sure why.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 29/08/2024 10:58

Or is it just that it's so terrible and we all feel so powerless to prevent it that we just prefer to ignore the situation?

This is where my head is right now. There are so many horrific things going on in the world that I feel like I have to just skim-read the news to keep any level of sanity.