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To not understand this , dp is leaving me

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justhataye · 28/08/2024 04:02

Hi everyone

It's 4am I am tired and livid

Our poor baby who has the cold atm woke up during the night screaming , dp was trying to soothe baby whilst I went downstairs to get baby his medicine & some water etc for him, when I had came upstairs dp was frustrated as baby wouldn't settle & dp raised his voice at me about how I was taking my time downstairs I replied "I don't know who you're speaking to like that lower your voice towards me" his reply was "I'm fed up of the way you speak to me I'm done with you I'm leaving in the morning" which I replied "why are you waiting till the morning? You have a car outside, go now"

He is now sobbing asking why I didn't beg for him and treating me as if I caused this whole situation.

I am sorry but if you don't want to be with me I will walk you to the door . I don't beg , absolutely not.

Am In the wrong here? He's seriously making me feel as if I am.

OP posts:
Poppins21 · 28/08/2024 04:32

Function · 28/08/2024 04:13

4am with an ill baby does not bring out the best in people

This completely.

suburberphobe · 28/08/2024 04:22

He is now sobbing asking why I didn't beg for him and treating me as if I caused this whole situation.

He's a child or an adult?

He's not being honest. He will always bullshit you.

Why the fuck should a grown woman BEG for a man? Pathetic.

You deserve an adult man in your life, not an overgrown child.

Go for it.

CatsandtheBear · 28/08/2024 04:22

He is threatening to leave because he was tired and didn't like you pulling him up on his behaviour.

Any other time I would say LTB, but a sick baby creates devils of us all.
I would have a stern chat and say you don't take kindly to being threatened and if he wants reassurance or to talk about the relationship, he needs to choose an appropriate time.

It sounds like you are both exhausted and he is a dick, but you handled things bloody perfectly and called his bluff.

Well done you!!!
Not in the slightest bit wrong and please hold firm to that. If you let him think that he was in the right, he will trot out the "I'm leaving" any time he is annoyed for the next 50 years (not sure how old you are)

HomeTheatreSystem · 28/08/2024 04:18

You are a mother to your baby, not your DP. Not surprised you reacted the way you did. He needs to grow up.

Function · 28/08/2024 04:13

4am with an ill baby does not bring out the best in people

suburberphobe · 28/08/2024 04:12

Many men cannot deal with a new baby.

Good for you for telling him to 'go now"

He'll be back tomorrow or the next day, but become a single mum.

Never leave him with your baby. He will always be selfish. Divorce and get him to pay his dues for his child.

You've got this. Get your family and friends onboard.

I did it. All worked out fine eventually.

MumChp · 28/08/2024 04:10

Consider couple therapy. Children can be hard on a relationship. It's a stressful time having young children.

coffy11 · 28/08/2024 04:07

I would have said the same thing if my husband said that. There's the door.
Good for you for standing up to him, his manipulation didn't work so now he's changed tact and making himself the victim.

AthenaBasil · 28/08/2024 04:05

You both sound stressed but no you did nothing wrong. It’s rather pathetic threatening to leave and expecting someone to beg but like I said he does sound stressed so if it’s a one off incident said in heat of the moment you hopefully can work things out.

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