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Does my DH want me to look ugly

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BestLeftAnonymous · 27/08/2024 20:28

I had to create an anonymous account for this post. I am by no means a supermodel and have always preferred comfort over style. I do not want to look unattractive, but cannot be bothered waking up earlier every morning just to look perfect. I do not wear much makeup, keep my hair short and avoid spending a fortune on clothes.

My husband has supported how I look and thinks many women spend way too much time on their appearance. He has always preferred my hair short and out of the way and has no issue with my body type (not skinny and has gotten fuller over time). He also tends to complain if I take too long getting ready. I never found this all that unusual.

I recently brought this up to a friend and mentioned how my DH likes my hair better cropped short. She found that odd and sort of implied that she thinks my DH wants me to look less attractive to other. I know she was not saying this to be unkind, but was still put off by it.

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Skyrainlight · 27/08/2024 20:37

Your friend sounds odd. Some guys prefer short hair. My husband preferred my hair short, but I find it easier to deal with when it's long, so I have long hair.

Disturbia81 · 27/08/2024 20:37

user1471538275 · 27/08/2024 20:35

Your friend is jealous that your husband loves you as you are, without you having to conform to specific feminine ideals.

Lucky you, miserable her.

This

How shitty for her to think cropped hair = ugly

user1471538275 · 27/08/2024 20:35

Your friend is jealous that your husband loves you as you are, without you having to conform to specific feminine ideals.

Lucky you, miserable her.

Rocknrollstar · 27/08/2024 20:32

I suspect your DH is like mine. He rarely comments on how I look and really doesn’t care what I wear. He loves me just as much, whatever. However if he ever says he doesn’t like something I get rid of it immediately. It’s happened probably 5 times in 50 years. I don’t think your friend understands your relationship or your DH. She might even be jealous

Springadorable · 27/08/2024 20:30

Not sure which way your vote goes, but I've put yabu for listening to your friend and letting her get in your head when you're happy with how you dress and do your hair.

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