Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

@HolyPeaches why do you think 30 yr olds wouldn’t be damaged by social media?

I agree. Really one of those trends I wish would go away.

I really think that women getting dressed is far from the worst a teenage boy could be exposed too.

A lot of people supporting this don’t seem to factor in the balance of power in society, or it’s effect on women and girls.

Exactly this.

I'm a chilled, reformed wild child so by no means a prude but this stuff is becoming insane. The social media Tiktok half naked air head explosion is just infuriating me. I don't know why I get so bothered. It's not jealousy at all - I think it's more feeling so separate from society when so many are just absolute brain dead zombies flashing their everything for likes.

I think it's irritating because there seems to be one group of women who are increasingly frustrated by the oversexualisatipn of women for men's entertainment.

And another group of women who are actively subscribing to it and supporting it.

There will be other groups of women. We don't all fit into those two groups. But maybe that's it.

@AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe yes, could be - I think we just have much less control over it these days. It's no lie that we are all bombarded these days with multiple things we probably don't want to see.

At least with readers wives, I could rip out the crusty page then throw it in the bin on discovery 🤷‍♀️😬

YANBU. It’s completely unnecessary to be in bra and knickers to show a clothing item.

I mean I’m sure the Kardashians are nice people on an individual level but I definitely think their SM presence is pretty damaging in a number of ways. It doesn’t impact me but as I have young dc & as I said work with young people I can’t ignore them. Just because something doesn’t affect you directly doesn’t mean you are wrong to have concerns & should ignore it.

What an ignorant comment. Nothing the op said suggests that. A wider conversation about the normalisation of showing women’s bodies in underwear affects us all whether people like it or not. The op is right to raise it as a topic for debate. A lot of people supporting this don’t seem to factor in the balance of power in society, or its effect on women and girls.

If anything, I think your comment reflects more on you than on the op.

Me too. 93’ baby.

We’re young. But we aren’t the “young people” that people are worried about being exposed to content on social media, I was thinking more teenagers, and children.

Exactly.
These people need views / clicks / comments like the rest of us need oxygen.
If your comment got the comments section going… you’re pouring fuel on the fire.
So expect more videos like it, on these sites controversy + comments = revenue.

Eh? What has this got to do with being pro-life anti-abortion?

If it's "Getting dressed with me" logically they should start off naked.

Edit: no, I'm definitely NOT saying anyone actually should do this.

I'm taking this original discussion into a wider context - appreciate that.

I spend alot of time on YouTube watching podcasts I love - every celeb and their mate on Only Fans has come up in the various podcasts I've seen. This I imagine is feeding my personal algorithms.

The issue for OP and myself I'd say - beyond just the look at me in my pants - it's the onslaught of annoying attention seeking behaviour online in multiple guises. I include young annoying Tiktok men in this. I wonder if OP feels the same about that if she's seeing that?

I'm on FB and love watching crappy reels. Mundane and ridiculous mostly which I like, but no shortage of this look at me videos, and yes, I think alot of them are sexualised, ridiculously attention seeking and irritating beyond words. OP is probably thinking 'just stop will you'. She's taken that further and commented. Fair enough, why not.

I'm quite taken by the fabulous magazine pictures I think you posted above. I'll be sure my son never ever sees such abominable filth!

Weird comment. If someone puts this on TikTok, they've made it everyone's business.

Oh well, at least you put a ridiculous kiss after your judgemental comment.

That must've softened the blow 🙄

I’m sure we can all image what can happen to screen grabs of women in their bra and pants, I mean if you’re a billboard model and you’re getting paid a decent whack and modelling is your career then great, but if you’re flogging some cheap-o clothes on tik tok for a few pennies I’m not sure I’d take the risk.

I agree, I find it totally cringe. I also think these women pretend they are doing it for empowerment but really it’s attention.
They want the likes and for people tosay how good they look in the underwear. It’s such a strange grab for attention.

Oh dear.

@HolyPeaches a wider conversation obviously means outside of this thread 😆
I work with young people & there are definitely a lot issues with SM, I don’t think the solution is just to tell them to campaign for better online safety. You can disagree though.

And if someone is against wearing revealing clothes then they don’t have to wear them. They can turn their face away, shut their eyes, or click away from the video if they see something they don’t like.

Not quite sure what pro life has to do with this, but the same applies - if a woman doesn’t want to have an abortion she doesn’t have to have one.

I tend to think we shouldn’t police other women’s choices about their own bodies, regardless of whether we personally agree with their choice.

Bit jealous eh @LivingInStrangeTimes ???

Your Sainsbury’s analogy isn’t relevant. If you walked around the supermarket in your bikini you would probably be asked to leave. But it’s fine on the beach. Context is everything.

But that is her point - she is innocently trying to look at a jumpsuit but has to see a woman in her bra and knickers first. She did not sign up for that.