Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

Exposing is different to me than people who just happen to be in underwear to try on clothes

You came across as judgemental and prudish

A women doing something completely innocuous will be described as flaunting etc.

Yes.

And ...? Women should stop doing innocuous things, because men?

Several PPs seem unable to comprehend that women can appear in their underwear for reasons that have nothing to do with men or men's desires. It's almost like they only ever see undressed women in 'adult' content and cannot actually believe normal women wear normal underwear while changing, normally, out of one normal outfit into another. To show other normal women how they fit: not to flash, display, flaunt or any other Daily Mail-inspired prurient verb inviting male judgement.

But isn’t the problem because of how female bodies are so sexualised in media & for the male gaze. A women doing something completely innocuous will be described as flaunting etc.

I get why she's thinking oh just put some clobber on, come on.

That is the entire purpose of these videos. What you're "getting" is something you've made up in your head and are thrashing relentlessly.

Also, your earlier post about "redpill guys" misusing female content is pointless, irrelevant and apparently designed to frighten women into quiet modesty. Are you the Taliban?

Misogynist males will misuse any bloody content, regardless. They probably have whole forums dedicated to women shamelessly showing their fingers out of the sleeves of their burkas 🙄

@Pantaloons99 Ive not heard about that but I can imagine it exists. I think society sends out very conflicting messages to young people re SM.

@sunseaandsoundingoff you don't have to be of that ilk to feel as OP feels. I get why she's thinking oh just put some clobber on, come on.

If SM was around during my younger days I'd be finished - whore of Babylon.

It's also not for the purposes of titillating men

... that, I suspect is what's pissing these people off!

Prancing about
Showing their bodies
Half naked
Flashing the gash

Several PPs seem unable to comprehend that women can appear in their underwear for reasons that have nothing to do with men or men's desires. It's almost like they only ever see undressed women in 'adult' content and cannot actually believe normal women wear normal underwear while changing, normally, out of one normal outfit into another. To show other normal women how they fit: not to flash, display, flaunt or any other Daily Mail-inspired prurient verb inviting male judgement.

Bless them, their tiny, sleazy minds and their sticky, hairy hands 😂

@Gifgaf wow. Thank you. That's so good to know. I really don't know enough as to how this all works.

You've answered OPs question entirely! OP - no more comment ever! We'll come and moan about it on here instead!

There are many reasons for me
Maybe you should not pile your personal preferences on other people social media.
You are free to post your own content in any way you want and instruct your child what to post. But don't patronise other adults.

Should 13yo boys be watching 35-40yo women getting dressed?
Most teen boys watch women getting undressed, sorry to break it to you.

Did you maybe grow up in a strict Christian cult?

Or the 1830s?

You don't need to be half naked to show this tbh. You can already tell once the clothes are on. When I look at online reviews of clothes I am about to buy, it's not of people in their underwear but they are already clothed, unless they are promoting bra and nickers.

@Glitterglitch I think I am interpreting your point in the way intended. (Apologies if not. ) But this makes me think about the onslaught of redpill type podcasts. These online red pill guys are utilising all this online content that young women are posting, including some relatively innocuous, to feed this rather scary narrative that all women are whores and therefore need to be put back in the kitchen by force. The online commentary is off the scale and is actually scary.

They do it because the algorithm promotes videos that show a lot of skin. That’s all there is to it. You saying there is no need to show skin is simply showing your ignorance of how the TikTok content promotion algorithm works.

One more reason why TikTok is utterly pernicious.

Yes, this type of strategy is used so often! Kim Kardashian if you know her, does this a lot where she has a large audience of people who already dislike her but she will post a nude and disappear for days while people sit writing comments under her post and she's at home getting paid for it. Another type of strategy is those videos that don't have a lot of context in the actual video but include it in the bio and then people sit in the comments while the video replays in the background. I've come to learn a lot when it comes to social media, everything is done on purpose.

She is posting a video of her on a public platform in "private" clothes. We expect to see people in their bikinis because the beach isn't a sexual context, but people in their underwear is a different context, which is why you had a reaction.

She wants you to post, it ups her engagment stats, pushes her to the top of the holy algorithm. People are much more likely to post angry things because its the easiest emotion to access. This is why people post things that they know will get people angry or have "feuds" with other creators. Its fast, effective and gets people noticed.

The best thing to do if you think it is unsuitable is to report it. It is inappropriate for people to be in public in their underwear.

Also when you get to the point when you are getting "activated" by rage bait its time to have a break from the social media. They are all just trying to sell anything anyway whether its themselves, a narrative or a product, so you aren't missing out.

Isn’t the purpose of showing her body that she doesn’t have a ‘perfect’ figure but this jumpsuit is very good for hiding lumps and bumps

@Gifgaf I didn't even realise that. Commenting can actually feed the algorithms. Jeez I hate the internet today 🤣. That's why I save my ranting for MN 😊

I actually agree with this. It's quite nice seeing bodies like mine doing normal things like putting on a skirt, rather than fake or unattainable figures being depicted sexually all the time. Lots of the women I have seen have rolls and cellulite etc and are wearing normal big pants and it's quite refreshing .

It's also a way of seeing more clearly which body shapes are like mine so I can tell if the clothes will suit me.

A bra and pants is no different to a bikini and is actually more coverage than some of the things you see on the beach these days.

YABU to comment.

I personally really appreciate women who show what clothes look like and aren't ashamed of their bodies. Especially women who look like me (and even the ones who dont). It has showed me that even slim women have cellulite and wobbly bits and women with seemingly perfect bodies share about their insecurities.

Theres soemthing about it that has made a lot of women feel connected and solidarity with each other.

It's also not for the purposes of titillating men and a lot of these creators have really awesome audiences that are majority women.

It's really helped with my confidence and is such a change from when I was growing up and it was all just models in magazines.

If the content isn't for you, keep scrolling.

@Rewis I agree with this. I think what's happening here is OPs post is initiating a much broader discussion ( as it links to that) regards social media, how it's managed, can it even be managed, the onslaught of things we don't want to see for various reasons and the implication of all those things that tie into this.

I'm beyond horrified learning what is out there and easily accessible to kids. ( That's another thread)

The only people to blame for women being raped, abused, murdered or subjected to domestic violence are the people - mainly men - who carry out those crimes. It is nothing to do with what a woman wears.

But society is to blame for the disgusting low conviction rates because women are judged & held to a higher moral standard & you have to be a perfect victim. No point pretending this isn’t the case.

Who cares, it's none of your business what she does on her own social media account.

Also, YABU going on bloody tick-tock in the first place!

Honestly this is the least worrying thing tgey can come across on TikTok.

You heard about the streamed suicides right?

I think it’s great especially if she is plus size, if she is confident in her body maybe just maybe she can help 1 or 2 other girls feel comfortable in theirs. Also… what you commented generally is something one things in their head, absolutely bitchy of you to comment it publicly.