Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

I use a calorie counting app and a guy posted the other day saying he wanted to post a picture in his boxers but he didn't know whether to as his bulge was very prominent. Quite a number of people suggested that he might like to post in a t shirt covering his bulge instead but apparently he couldn't show us his loss if he wasn't shirtless, and kept banging on about his bulge offending people! It was also suggested he might like to keep the photos for his view only if he was worried about offending but lo and behold, he posted his pics, complete with exaggerated bulge, obviously taken to show it off. Just no need

@LivingInStrangeTimes "You look lovely. I'm not being unkind but why has it become so normalised to upload videos of ourselves in our underwear? You don't have to expose yourself like that to show the garment x"

It has a very “shamey” tone.

Besides your usual filth and illegal stuff the dark web is of great use for good purposes, not all is bad.

Men don’t tend to shame each other for seeing a man in his boxers on the internet trying some trousers, they may laugh but shame him? Nah.

And a woman trying a jumpsuit and showing her panties is harmful and disturbing? Really? Mental note to yourself: never go into the dark web.

It’s funny how if the tik toker was a man in his underwear trying some trousers no man would have open a thread complaining about being outraged. As this thread proves sometimes women are our worst enemies.

OP, it really is a valid question. You're evidently scrolling through 'sick shit' your words, and complaining about the content on here.

If you don't want your children to see it perhaps you ought to consider setting an example by not engaging with the cesspit you seek to shield them from.

After all, you're the adult.

I actually love videos like this. I see so many more body types than those I grew up seeing in the nineties.

There's a few people I follow who have a bit of a tummy and it is so refreshing to see people with a body more like mine.

It's not like she was naked.

I could try..?

The fashion vloggers I watch are all wealthy and don't buy fast fashion.

They are much wealthier than me!

It’s usually ‘creators’ trying on ‘hauls’ of fast fashion manufactured in dodgy conditions, destined for landfill after a few wears. I’m longing to see stand up comedians do their best to mock this form of content into oblivion 😂

It's one thing to object to so much flesh being on display generally. It's quite another to target that general objection at a single woman on Tiktok. I fail to see how making personal comments, about just her covering up, will solve the problem you perceive in semi nudity.

She is just one woman, who is comfortable with her body, trying to make a few quid in a world where you have to make your living wherever the opportunity arises. People are making money with influencing, sponsorship deals, making commentary videos and such because the world is changing. How people make a living is changing. If covering oneself from head to toe in a giant burlap sack made money, she would be doing that instead.

YABU because you made it personal. No need for that. There are plenty of men making horrible comments to women on the internet, clothed or less so, without other women joining in.

I would just like to preface what I’m going to say by stating that I am also a 90s baby and turned 31 last week so we are roughly the same age.

I think at this age if you can’t work out that TikTok is poisonous, indoctrinating trash then you are being unreasonable to consider anything on there appropriate or reasonable. I think it should be banned and no one under the age of 18 should be able to access it. Certainly at the very least people should not be allowing their teenagers and children to access it.

I think the very least of societies trouble with social media lie with people putting a video up of themselves getting dressed into a jumpsuit for a GRWM video. It’s not my cup of tea personally but it’s a drop in the ocean by comparison to all the rest of the content that’s on there. Misinformation, conspiracy theories and people’s malicious agendas are spread like wildfire unchecked with so many people (not just the young) soaking it up like sponges and regurgitating it back out like it’s the absolute truth and normal. It’s so harmful and dangerous to people of all ages and TikTok believe is the worst for it. So many people are being brainwashed it makes me feel so sad and I genuinely dread the future because of it. People may believe that’s an overreaction but they are my feelings nonetheless.

People like the woman you describe are more than aware that they are opening themselves up for criticism which they will receive.
Any comment negative or positive generates revenue for them and they won’t care about what anyone has to say about them because being a ‘social media influencer’ regardless of whether we think they make themselves look a prat or not makes them money and that’s what they care about. Attention through views and comments like yours will literally give them money straight into their back pocket. If it’s not something people want to see then they need to stop interacting with them because it only fuels their cause.

At the end of the day you don’t have to look far on here to see people fall over themselves to make derogatory assumptions and comments degrading peoples situations and life choices even when the threads are not of a particularly sensitive or emotionally charged nature. I think it’s important to note as well how this is an anonymous forum and people still believe they have the right to police other people’s business just because it’s on the internet. You didn’t have to comment, you could have just scrolled on. What you said will have absolutely no bearing on their life whatsoever but you have shown your openness to judge an adult for putting a video up of themselves no less dressed than they would be wearing a bikini on the beach.

In my experience the worst people for walking around the most exposed and barely dressed in public are young adults, teens and preteens. You’ll struggle certainly where I live to find many over the age of thirteen appropriately dressed. I honestly don’t know how their parents can allow them out in public the way that they do. They allow their children to be vulnerable to sexual predators and I think it’s absolutely disgraceful on their part.

I’m aware I’ve gone off on a tangent but my point is that if a grown adult who is fully autonomous and informed makes a video like that and plonks it on the internet of their own free will then that’s their choice and other people shouldn’t have the right to police other people’s decisions as long as it’s not hateful, discriminatory or illegal. Yes, the law has a long way to come for certain things but to compare this to slavery, sex trafficking, rape and such the like is a gross false equivalency and horribly undermines the experience that victims of these crimes suffer. It’s ignorance at its finest and just plain wrong.

In short, I do believe adults should adequately parent their children and make the effort to ensure they are aware of what their children are doing and not exposing themselves both in person and online to dangerous, nefarious people. If people did that then the other adults who didn’t want to see such content could just scroll on or hide the video and move on to a better algorithm.

@Josette77 I wonder if there are some who just feel powerless as to what is happening online at the moment and just want to shout out ' go away,stop it'. A knee jerk reaction as such

I don't think OP went into this clutching pearls wearing ankle length pleated skirt, socks and
Sandles hoping to make it a moral crusade.

I find myself telling the TV to bugger off when I'm forced to observe things I just don't want to! ( Yes I know I can get up andswitch the TV off and leave the house but I'm a house bound defective unfortunately).

I need go find an example of this video 😊

Why bother writing something like that?

You knew it wouldn't change her videos? So just to try and shame her?

Oh, thanks. Phew!

You are not able to tell the difference between your opinion and a fact. There are myriad reasons why women enjoy their sexuality. It's not all about men tricking them into enjoying it. For example, burlesque dancers. If you go to a lot of burlesque shows, you'll notice that the crowd is about 90% women. Women enjoy dressing up to feel attractive, myself included. Some women like to take that to a degree that you may not agree with, but no one died and made you captain of the morality police.

You've taken something that should be treasured and celebrated about women and tried to turn into something shameful and dangerous. A woman's body is not a battleground. It's her own to do with what she wants, whatever you think you should be able to dictate to her (- the irony!)

The one who said this causes rape and backed the men who excused rape for this reason.

No idea her name but she supports excusing such criminals.

This type of gormless people have lots of 'followers ' so I'd probably not bother watching them. Whatever you say won't go down well with the followers.