Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

there are 13 year old boys in real life as well.
Should they not be watching ads on tv, on buses, tube/train platforms, tv shows, films, or god forbid going to the beach, all of which feature....30-40 y/o women (and, shock horror EVEN OLDER) in their underwear or swimwear? Have you not seen the dove body ads? I haven't seen teenage boys cower and shield their eyes in disgust at the sight of them...

You are of course entitled to "think its fucking weird and unnecessary?" You can think whatever you like. But there was no reason for you to comment when you could just skip past it. Are YABVU to be shocked that people who disagreed with you then responded to you...that is the internet...

@ForestForever And you're totally missing the point too.
This is one of those subjects people are very divided on. I think opinions like yours are dangerous, to not acknowledge what effect a barely clothed woman has on men like that. You only have to look at all the sad pathetic men commenting on the almost nude thirst traps on facebook.
We will never agree with each other.

I think you were being unkind. She was expressing herself in a way she felt comfortable and you were critical of her confidence. It's not a if this young generation are the first to show off their bodies either, it's been done since the year dot. And I've done similar myself.

“Sleazy men” will be sleazy men regardless of how many clothes a person is wearing. It’s not about the woman and what she’s wearing. It’s all to do with some men and women’s misogynistic, self-entitled attitudes. You’ve totally missed this point and in fact it’s just not men but it’s women as well just like the OP and yourself so your argument really isn’t as good as you believe it to be. In fact it’s poor. She’s posted a video in her own home for people who want to see the content of her videos which is the “GRWM” trend. She’s not walking around naked in Tescos whilst doing her shopping and to try and claim it’s anything similar is absurd. Context is everything. We shouldn’t indulge prejudices towards women full stop, regardless of who’s perpetrating it.

Because I work for quite a conservative company, I may not share their views on many things but I have a mortgage to pay and need to keep the job (for now).

My friends and family are fine with me putting a bikini picture as Facebook photo, thankfully I have quite a liberal family and I chose open minded people as friends. I don’t choose to put a bikini photo of me because it wouldn’t go down well with my line of work, because it attract creeps and because I believe I look prettier with a formal dress (but that’s just me), if I decided to make a random tik tok video of me in a bikini I would have a problem with people slut shaming me and would tell them to f-uck off.

@samanthablues Not liking people in barely any clothes = wanting to be covered up head to toe. Nice argument 😂

Nah.
It's just refusing to give in to mens sleazy pleasures.

As myself and others have suggested, if you don’t interact with the video as you have then your algorithm won’t come up with videos of similar content. I don’t even have TikTok to know that these sorts of videos exist on there. I have Facebook and you can choose to not see videos of a certain nature by clicking it and selecting the “show less” or “hide video option”. If TikTok doesn’t have that option and it bothers you this much then it really isn’t the app for you. It doesn’t mean as you’ve suggested that people are telling you to “stay off the internet”, just from apps that don’t have viewer audience control because you’re clearly much more upset by it than the general consensus seems you should be.

That’s exactly the crux of issues like these, target audience is huge and has to cater to the majority not the minority. By actively interacting with the video by comment you have shown what is perceived as “interest” and more videos may come up like it.

The fact of the matter is that there are many people as you can see by your post who won’t have a problem or will be neutral reading these types of video so based on the fact that money can be made from it then they will continue to show it. Unfortunately no matter what your thoughts on the matter are, they’re not going to stop showing these videos due to a small group of people’s preferences. These platforms assume if you won’t want to watch them then you just will scroll by and not comment. If people weren’t interested in them they wouldn’t garner the views in the first place. The social media platforms then generate money themselves through placing ads on videos that are popular and thus as long as they fall within a legal context they won’t remove them because they will be shooting themselves in the foot too.

The majority of women are progressive enough and have enough common sense to indeed just scroll by without feeling the need to make a negative comment. You need to use your own agency to do the same or you are literally part of the same problem you’re complaining about.

Its interesting how you’ve pointed out that posters can’t/shouldn’t be policing your thoughts or what you post when in reality that’s exactly what you tried to do to that woman in the video with your comment. How is this any different? Just like the woman in the video you have posted your thread publicly and openly asked for the opinions of others. You seem to be annoyed that people are doing exactly that and that they’re in the wrong for doing so. That woman didn’t ask for your opinion on her body, she made a video for her target audience who like viewing those sorts of videos. I’d take a moment to reflect on this because it’s important for you to understand how you words can have an affect on other people just as people have on here have on yours. You can of course post exactly what you like, but I would strongly advise against asking questions that you don’t really want the answer to if it’s likely to be different in opinion to your own. The world/ internet is bigger than just your opinion and that’s your problem to deal with, not the women who made the video.

Yeah… because a woman’s respect is based on the amount of clothes she wears alright? Hence the reason very religious patriarchal cultures they cover us in long black robes and burkas as that’s how we look the “most respectful”. basically I deserved to be disrespected if I post a picture of myself in a bikini.

Seriously… the internalised misoginy on MN is appalling at times.

I mentioned up thread an acquaintance who had used a boudoir shot as a profile pic. She's a young woman early-mid 20s. Shot showed her in a black bra or cami top with the straps down and a good deal of boob. I think she thinks it looks arty, but it looks tacky. .Empowered my arse. I'd be horrified if I were her mum. I'm not dissing women who get boudoir shots done, they can be tremendously confidence enhancing, but keep them for your bedroom not for public consumption.

I don't want to see it either.

It feels like those people who say it's a feminist stance to be able to walk around naked, in underwear, do onlyfans and be a lap dancer etc. "empowered, taking control"

No you're just losing all respect for yourself and giving sleazy men exactly what they want.

Don’t watch it then. Go and do literally anything else. Why do you care?

Is this a wind up?

Yes he thinks it is strange as well!

Total twat, he must've said "my bulge" around 8 times in his post. Dick...literally

This annoys me too. It’s something I don’t really want or need to see, I just want to see the jumpsuit. The video doesn’t need to start with them in their knickers! This is the same with morning routines, getting ready routines you name it.

My partner is on the men’s bodybuilders protein side of TikTok and he says it’s the same for men, they’ll start a getting ready video in their boxers and then start getting dressed. Or ‘styling this item of clothing’ videos.

This is probably not an unbiased source, but gives some idea of why the dark web might be useful. A lot of it is to do with communication when people live somewhere where open communication isn’t encouraged.

https://www.darkreading.com/cyber-risk/the-bright-side-of-the-dark-web

It's not Tic Toc any more is flog shop. They started by showing you how it covered up a wobbly tummy ect then became normal.