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Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

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LivingInStrangeTimes · 27/08/2024 20:16

I was scrolling through tiktok and came across a video of a woman showing a jumpsuit outfit which she is reccomending people buy.

The strange part to me is that the video begins with her standing there in tiny knickers and a bra then she gets dressed into the jumpsuit.

I perhaps shouldn't have said anything at all but left the following comment

"You look lovely. I'm not being unkind but why has it become so normalised to upload videos of ourselves in our underwear? You don't have to expose yourself like that to show the garment x"

Cue a pile on and her getting pissed off because apparently I'm only saying it because of her body type - which had absolutely nothing to do with it for me. We actually look quite similar in the buff!

I'm seeing more and more of these videos and it has become the new normal and done thing on social media for people who want to show clothes, to stand their in their pants beforehand and have you watch them get dressed.

Was I being unreasonable to say what I said and am I unreasonable for thinking its fucking weird and unnecessary?

"I want to show you this dress, but first here's my knickers!"

Edited to add - I mention women specifically because I'm not seeing any of these videos from men.. and nor do I want to 😐

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Doggymummar · 27/08/2024 20:22

Isn't it called get dressed with me? So they start off in underwear?

KreedKafer · 27/08/2024 20:22

Christ, how incredibly patronising of you.

Why the hell shouldn’t they be in their bra and knickers, if they’re comfortable with it? It’s their body, and none of your business whether they choose to show it. They’re just in bra and knickers. It’s no different from anything you’d see on a beach or in a catalogue. Good on them for not being self-conscious or ashamed of their body, I say.

Mum2jenny · 27/08/2024 20:21

A very good reason to not buy said jumpsuit imo.

persisted · 27/08/2024 20:21

Unnecessary skin on show on the internet? Who knew?

I think that ship has sailed....

Pantaloons99 · 27/08/2024 20:20

I'm having this same dialogue in my head alot these days. Just put some clothes on for the love of god.
I'm a chilled, reformed wild child so by no means a prude but this stuff is becoming insane. The social media Tiktok half naked air head explosion is just infuriating me. I don't know why I get so bothered. It's not jealousy at all - I think it's more feeling so separate from society when so many are just absolute brain dead zombies flashing their everything for likes.

So that was a rant 🤣.I try avoid comments on these things as rarely goes down well and no one wants to feel they're being preached at.

But yes you're right! I don't know why people don't think about the impact this may have down the line on family, parents, future kids.

sugarbyebye · 27/08/2024 20:20

It's just attention seeking. This is the internet now.

LemonyCoughSyrup · 27/08/2024 20:20

So many do it, so might feel like you are picking on this particular women. It’s currently a trend and will pass. I don’t mind seeing women in their underwear. Doesn’t cause any offence imo

Winrus · 27/08/2024 20:20

Yabu because it’s none of your business what she does. It doesn’t really take a genuine to figure out why she’s doing this does it? Just move on if you don’t like it.

Celticliving · 27/08/2024 20:18

I think your comment was unnecessary at best. Why do you have an issue with a woman's body? It's not like she was naked.

Jennyathemall · 27/08/2024 20:17

Ah bless you