Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

Not every half naked female is about "sex" FFS.

Unless a woman is actively being sexual it matters not if she's naked, half naked or fully clothed.

Oh and you do see men undressing in videos or redressing, while advertising things on social media. Also I recently just saw a pic of some attractive young police officer in America who was given some role at a school and all the ladies were sharing it and making comments about how they’d been naughty and needed to be arrested by him etc so much that it went viral.

I don’t get why you would want everyone to see you in your pants either. But her body her choice. But the internet world has gone slightly crazy in literally filming everything in some individuals lives. But maybe if over a certain age we don’t get it!

To be fair, my brother made enthusiastic use of the underwear section of my mum's catalogues 😂

I hardly think a woman choosing to show herself in her underwear before trying something on is comparable to the things you just listed @yesmen If she was coerced or forced into filming herself in her underwear that would already be illegal but there’s no suggestion here that this was the case.

My thoughts on this are layered.

1- You don’t see the men partly because there are less, partly because of your individual algorithm and partly because many of these women are on a mission to show different female body shapes.

2- Does my head in, as does all this GRWM, but I’m a miserable Gen Xer so I kinda just assume it’s not for me.

3- I wouldn’t listen to anyone who told me how I should conduct myself in my own virtual space, so neither should I dictate to others.

Overall I think social media would be a better place if we all just scrolled on by and only said the nice stuff we’re thinking.

And a 13 year old child seeing a woman in knickers is fine.

The ones I report EVERY time are the OF women using fake babies to get their boobs out. Grim.

Any sentence that starts with 'I'm not being able unkind' would give me the hump right away.

Ok so one of the reasons is because viewers often accuse women who do 'try on' videos of wearing shapeware secretly and thus not actually showing a true reflection of the garment. This is particularly true in review style tiktoks as there is thd understandable suspicion that the brands are paying the influencers for the reviews. Hence, women start out in just underwear and then try on the garment in one single shot to head off that accusation.

I can't get wound up about this tbh. Kids see at least as much on the beach.

Your last paragraph made me laugh, @Pantaloons99 But I'm a bit worried by seeing a woman walk down beach in a bikini with a fab body. I've got a crap body. When I finally get to a beach, should I keep my big, baggy dress on, being unqualified to walk in a bikini?

I haven't seen the TikTok either, but these trying-on videos usually entail changing outfits while wearing normal undies. They're not writhing 'provocatively' in scratchy red lace and suspenders. Just getting changed 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you honestly think 13 year old boys are wanking over women in their 40s pulling on a pair of jeans over their sensible pants?!

Get a grip 😁

That's fairly standard on accounts where people show their outfits.

It's not sexual.

You probably came off pretty weird tbh.

I'm with you @yesmen . Your example is a good one. This crap is being THRUST upon us at a terrifying rate.

I have a son. He has a phone ( young teen). We have no social media apps because they are hideous bombarding non stop with half dressed ladies. Then you have to try manage the friends who have free access who are bombarded and showing them. It's getting ridiculous and many of us are sick of it.

OP, you probably hoped you might make a difference. No good ever comes of it. Gone too far. But I totally understand why you wanted to comment.

Owning people did not break the law at one point.

Raping your wife did not break the law at one point.

There are many more examples.

The law often needs a reset for the good of society.

By frolicking I mean simulating sex btw, sorry might be a regional word

The wide eyed people accusing you of pearl clutching remind me of my ex friend.

She used to walk around my flat in front of dh and me, clad only in a thong. When challenged she claimed with wide eyes that it is all she wears on a beech so it was fine!

A modern progressive person or a total boundary pusher?

I mean....don't comment on TikTok videos. Your world will be a better place

It's very, very unusual that anything good comes from commenting a TikTok video. I'd have left well alone.

I watched something on insta earlier - a couple on their page (suggestions for me) frolicking on their sofa. Her wearing nothing but a thong. It was a bit much, even for me and I feel a bit meh but it all these days 🤣

But it is none of your business what that woman chooses to upload as long as it’s not breaking any rules / laws so yabu. If you don’t like what you see, move on.

@Garlicfest just on your point. I'd need to see this video to make a firm statement/ position.

Most of us, probably all of us can determine the intent of another woman's vid. Seeing a woman walk down beach in a bikini with a fab body does not have the same intent as bringing an outfit more sexualised into your living room and space, often against your will! Emg, I stick on YouTube and have to see crap like this I don't want to see. I just want to enjoy YouTube

If in this video,said lady has gigantic skiddy undies up past naval and a bra with holes that covers every single thing and she bends over and farts as she puts the clothes on - I'd feel different about the intent and less bothered 🤣.

This. I agree with you op. Why the need to show your underwear first. Just show the outfit

But there is nothing wrong with a woman “showing herself” in bra and pants, if she chooses to do that. It doesn’t sound as though she’s doing an OnlyFans style video.

If parents have a problem with their children seeing that, then it is up to them to make sure the kids don’t see anything the parents don’t want them to. Unless it’s a specific child-centred space, you can’t expect the world to be PG.

I was at Reading Festival this weekend. Used to go every year before DC, but haven't been in 13 years. I swear I was the only woman there with my arse covered.

Girls tripping round in tiny skirts, cut off shorts that show off both cheeks, gstring bikinis.

It wasn't even warm. I'm too old for that nonsense, but perhaps slightly jealous they had the thighs and confidence for it.

They just want comments tbh, even if they're not all great. I don't enjoy seeing randoms in their pants either so I just scroll on by.