Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

Some, totally do! But I'm on about the ones you see where women laboriously climb into jump suits all in one shot. Must say I prefer those as it makes me feel I'm seeing something closer to what I might get if I bought it. Not that I've ever bought anything on the strength of a tiktok review, mind.

Pretty unconvincing reason if you've heard of video editing!

This. It’s supposed to be useful - I have a noticeable tummy (even though I’m slim) and enormous tits when in my underwear but both are hugely minimised with the right clothing. It’s not sexualised at all - it’s about helping women understand how to dress for their body type. And I’m hugely anti porn and anti sexualisation of women in most situations. I don’t think this is one of them (disclaimer that I didn’t see the content so maybe it was sexualised. But I’ve see a lot of “get dressed” content and it’s really not very sexual at all).

Your Sainsbury’s analogy isn’t relevant. If you walked around the supermarket in your bikini you would probably be asked to leave. But it’s fine on the beach. Context is everything.

It’s her TikTok, she can do what she wants. I agree with the other poster, it was incredibly patronising to say anything about it.

Men probably w2nk at the underwear vids so they get more followers.

I had the most amazing experience of my life when I went to Rio. It was completely normalised to go to the shop in your bikini and a pair of flip flops. Every type of body - it made no difference to anyone. No one looked or cared.

It was so relaxing and freeing. And it did no harm to anyone. So morally, I don't think there's anything wrong with being in Sainsbury's in your underwear. It's just a human body! It's not essential to get your knickers in a twist over seeing one.

Also, those adverts are that way so you can see whether the outfit would flatter you.

I hope you get over the shock you've experienced in time...

Why shouldn’t 13 yo boys have an understanding that female bodies look different at different ages?

as for changing rooms meh I walk round in my undies at the gym.

if she’s not bothered you shouldn’t be either. If maybe suggest staying off tik Tol though if u thi k that’s offensive….

@Pantaloons99 - My mind is going to a place regards other videos I've seen so much of.

Well, okay, but what are you watching?? I never see TikToks of women "being sexy" so we must have very different viewing preferences 👀

As for flashing the gash - good god! Your mind is DEFINITELY going places that have nothing to do with trying on Primark's autumn wear.

@PresidentBarklett

They can still be in shape wear

It's edited isnt it. They do a little jump and then cut to a shot of them fully dresses

@Lwrenn love that 🤣

I agree with you OP for the same reason as a PP stated, it isn't the nudity it is the fact that it is attention seeking. No need for it.

@AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe 🤣 blimmin hope not.

When 'Readers Wives' mag was all these kids had at their disposal, possibly the truth. 🤷‍♀️🤮🤣

I might have felt the same but I would never comment like that.

The Internet love a good pile on, I struggle reading the room at times so I get it a fair amount, so I really don't comment on anything unless I want to chatter about it. Just in case I say something massively offensive whilst thinking I'm just being chatty and trying to be friendly. It can backfire massively, I think when you're a faceless name on a forum or something trying to be helpful and nice can seem insincere and condescending. I'm neither of those but I'm someone who is very much, "no strangers, only pals" and people don't want to be my friend, they just want cold hard facts during a discussion. So I'm trying hard nowadays to be less like a labrador 😂

Years ago in a group I was in selling second hand bags some woman was asking for more money than the bag was retailing for in the sales, more than 1 person wanted to buy the overpriced and (badly worn bag) so I linked the bag sale.
Now, I didn't realise at the time that I'd just committed a massive sin, I was trying to be helpful.
Even women wanting to buy the bag piled on me and told me to fuck off 😂
BTW I didn't mention the bag for sale was in shit condition, I literally linked the sale with an emoji or something else innocuous.
Fucking terrored I was 😂😂😂

Well done for missing the obvious point!
You cannot be so idiotic as to not get its about putting yourself on display for every passing predator and AI bot trawling for porn content.

Quite appart from the obvious attention seeking.

I totally support the comment it was kind sensible and protective.
I would have been less diplomatic.
And if you are going to exploit yourself for all the world to see, expect commentary.

Was I being unreasonable to say what I said and am I unreasonable for thinking its fucking weird and unnecessary?

Directly to the poster? Yes, it’s unreasonable to say that. They are obviously comfortable with their body. They wouldn’t have uploaded the video otherwise. You were wasting your time.

A woman in underwear isn’t fucking weird and unnecessary. Do you squirm at women in bikinis? Do you find it weird walking round the lingerie sections in department stores seeing images of women in said underwear on marketing displays?

If a video like that makes you uncomfortable then just scroll past and don’t give it another thought. Commenting on it saying “You don't have to expose yourself like that to show the garment” is patronising and you know it.

The point the op made is not unreasonable and she would like a discussion.

In that context I do not agree with people telling her to walk on by, mind her own business (even though it is her business if it literally appears before her eyes), and the “it is legal” brigade (my list is only in response to them by the way)

She made a valid point. Many agree.

Why shut her down?

@Garlicfest I need to see this video to really say anything valid on this one. My mind is going to a place regards other videos I've seen so much of - possibly nothing like this.

I love seeing anyone on a beach enjoying the experience,dressed or naked, fat, thin, whatever. I don't even care if my son sees half naked ladies bouncing about on the beach if they so wish. Did it myself.

When I really challenge myself as to what it is that bothers me about it - I think honestly, it just makes me cringe seeing ladies grabbing attention all over the place online - and I can't escape it. I can't escape having to see it, I can't control the extent of it online and how normalised it is. I really dislike seeing women who are mums flashing the gash. Yes I'm mum shaming I'm sure. ( I appreciate this video I have not seen- I'm speaking in a wider context).

I can choose to go to the beach. We can choose to walk away. We can kind of escape it. It's not continually thrust in my face, in kids' faces.

Im with you

I find the entire tik tok/insta influencer phenomenon sooo strange

They must spend hours getting dressed,
Filming it, editing, refilming, checking they look good. Prob checking for stray pubes and then filming again

And then people buy the crap they promote

It's a strange old world the internet

She wants to draw more followers to her tictok, and if she is making money from it more followers the better.

Exactly. I was always told to ignore everything before a 'but'.

There’s a reason I’m not on TikTok.

I’m with you OP but I’ve seen how these types of threads go and having your opinion is extremely unpopular.

I saw a woman walking into town in the afternoon wearing lacy, mostly sheer, lingerie tucked into trousers. It’s her choice at the end of the day (or in this case, afternoon) what she wears but I don’t understand it at all.

If we all decided not to talk shite-which-did-not-need-to-be-said on the internet , Mumsnet would not exist

I agree with PP; it allows you to see how flattering the garment is on a particular body shape.