Was I being unkind? Women filming themselves in their pants

Phew, were it not for your substituting ‘2’ for ‘a’, I might have realised that that said ‘wank’.

Oh, hang on. I did. And you intended me to.

So what was the f9cking point?

Some women like other people looking at their bodies

@ForestForever you're smart, am in absolute agreement.

Wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't have commented.

Oh look OP she/he came back when they said they wouldn't.. think you've touched a nerve with this one 😂

If I’d have embarrassed myself as much as the OP has by putting out a thread then tragically trying to backtrack on it and claim it was someone else’s fault when I got caught by the person I’d posted about then I’d probably pretend I hadn’t read it either. Cringe. 😂😅🤦🏻‍♀️

Yes! I'm no prude at all but agree the desperation to get attention trying to outdo each other is sad! Xx

This.

Sure you did. 😂

Many of these girls/women are promoting themselves for the sites that they use for their income.

It’s attention seeking and wanting validation for being “brave” from strangers. I am depressed that normal women being in their underwear is promoted as some courageous act. It’s still a vapid obsession with appearance under the guise of empowerment. I couldn’t give a shit about what people think I look like in my underwear but I don’t need to show everyone to prove that. This behaviour is strange and people need to realise that.

I understand where you are coming from and I agree with your observations. I personally feel concerned that different forms of absurd and dysfunctional behavior have become acceptable on social media because “everyone does it”. Social media is a trap, It taps into our most basic emotional needs (see the irony around calling it social media) and someone makes money out of them!
People must get undressed to get the likes or the followers so that they feel validated and some money can be made…go figure…

You're not very knowledgeable of the kind of things teenage boys wank about. I am surprised you think they DON'T wank over women in their 40s pulling up a pair of normal jeans, especially if they can see them in their underwear beforehand.

In fact there are very few things teenage boys don't wank about.

If you intended for your thread to be about the “general GRWM trend” as you are all of a sudden claiming then you would have discussed it without giving any details about one specific person and would have said people in general. You also would have fairly pointed out the fact that men are just as guilty for doing it as women. Your thread was “Was I being unreasonable to comment about this woman” with enough details to out yourself.

Don’t apportion blame to the wrong person, you’re culpable for this. The poll says you weren’t being unreasonable, but people’s actual comments show a different story entirely and I would absolutely say speaks for itself as it’s people who comment and put the effort in that shows real consensus instead of just clicking one button. The majority of the comments read that in 2024 misogyny and shame has no place amongst women towards women and no-one has the right to police other peoples bodies. Thankfully we have come a long way since views like yours were common place. So I would imagine that she will be feeling quite validated as there has been an enormous show of support for her choice to upload her video on this thread, whether you and some others agree with it or not. On the other hand, If she does feel bad then that’s wholeheartedly your fault.

The fact you’ve even created this thread in the first place, much less tried to blame someone else for drawing attention to your post and for you to talk to people in such a condescending fashion is frankly awful on your part. “Off you pop” really? I almost died of second-hand embarrassment for you ‘hun’. This might be your post but it’s a public forum and you also don’t get to decide when people should stop commenting because you don’t like the deserved backlash you’ve received. You appear to have a poor understanding of how the internet works in general but that’s how it works on Mumsnet.

You’re back tracking now you’ve been discovered but it’s not down to the “little shit stirrer”, it’s down to you for posting enough details for it to become identifiable. You can claim it was vague, unidentifiable blah, blah but it wasn’t vague enough and it was identifiable and therefore it has been. Those are the facts. That’s 100% on you and claiming otherwise won’t make it any less the truth. This is what’s known in real life as a consequence to your actions. Next time you want to be “twatty” on social media as you so aptly put it, at least have the courage to own it when you get caught up in the web of your own making. May this be a lesson to you. Don’t worry love, I’m popping off now and I won’t be back. I’m feeling pretty smug you’ve been shown up your poor behaviour. Laters.

I think self-conscious is exactly what people who do this are. They’re self-consciously showing themselves in their underwear. I’m not judging whether they should or shouldn’t, but there’s nothing unself-conscious about it.

I don't have an issue with the woman's body. I just don't think it's necessary for me or anybody else to see her in her underwear.

She’s in underwear, no different than someone on a beach.

There are kids on the app. Should 13yo boys be watching 35-40yo women getting dressed?

Should the parents of 13 year olds know what their children are viewing and maybe they would benefit from seeing the body of a non airbrushed perfect body. I’d rather they watched her getting dressed than undressed.
Talking to DH about this and he and his brother used to look at the lingerie section of their mum’s Freemans catalogue. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

I have a daughter and I'd be upset If she posted something like that.

Have a chat with your daughter then.

I don't think it should be normalised. What next?

It should be normalised, could you be more insulting. It’s a regular woman in underwear, it’s not abnormal, she’s just comfortable with her body.

There's a reason changing rooms are enclosed.

I remember communal changing rooms and they never bothered me.

There are many reasons for me and none of them are to do with her personally.

You might elaborate further on, I haven’t read everything. You did however make it personal to her when you commented about her on her post.

It must have been identifying in some way though, given someone has...identified it and linked to the thread?

it's no more than you'd see at the swimming pool. exposed skin isn't automatically sexual.

I disagree with the 'scroll on by' and 'don't say anything'

Why?

If someone has a problem with the way something is, or is done, why shouldn't they say?

At what point/situation are you allowed to say?

I agree - there’s loads of this going on online. I think they are just exhibitionists ! There is no need to start off in their underwear - in (just) my opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️

x amount of women seem happy to display and monetise their bodies and appearance and I would hazard a guess that a greater number of women would rather they didn't in that way, but feel they shouldn't say so nowadays as it might be deemed "shaming" or "hating" or "disempowering" or some such. It's a conundrum but one I'm sure many men are happily reaping the monetary and other benefits of.