Husband rude?

I think he's entitled to be tired and not want to socialise on the odd occasion but there's no excuse for rudeness. I know my BIL, for example, is usually pretty social but sometimes is tired or busy and will pop his head out and just say "hi" and manages to do it in a polite way. I would 100% expect him to let you do the same though.

And I'd pull your husband up on the comment that 2 extra people can't fit in the living room. Next time he wants someone around point out that he did say the room wasn't big enough for 4 people.

Yup he’s a selfish prick. Id be having serious words with him even if it ends up in a huge argument and by crystal clear that you are not going to be present for any future family events on his side again until he learns how to behave.

All of the above.
And do NOT under any circumstances have children with this man because if you think life is hard now you have no idea what fresh hell he will unleash once you become the mother of his children.

This. Every word is true.

Much older woman here who is just going to spell it out clearly.

You have married a rude selfish twat.
BIG mistake.
How have you missed that he is such a rude selfish twat will be well worth looking at???
Your parents are nice decent people but he doesn't care about YOU or them to apply even basis kindness.

Unfortunately there are many reasons that you have ended up here???
Low standards?
Passive?
Easily bullied?
Very low self esteem?
No self respect?

You married him and he thinks it is acceptable to treat your parents like this?
Why?

You need to realise that you have made a huge mistake marrying him.
It is so absolutely basic to treat your in laws with respect.

Do not have children with him.
My guess is he has been a right low level prick for a long time and you were so desperate to marry him you have glossed over it?????

If this is true you will so bitterly regret this to a level that you cannot fathom.

Abusive pricks start off by being rude to family, then friends until their victims have no one.

You are that woman.
Do not make the fatal mistake of children with a man who doesn't love, like you, and have no doubt will give you a hard stressful life.

Pack a bag tonight and go stay with you family and really think.

Just read your update.🙄
So he is abusive and a bully, and slways has been.
And YOU know well he is.

YOU would be beyond selfish to have children with this prick, when you know well that he is selfish.

Remember that ....you know EXACTLY who he is....a complete prick, yet you married him.🙄.

Mind yourself. Only misery beckons

It takes two to argue, op. Refuse to argue. Say what you want to say and then walk away.

Your marriage sounds fucking dreadful, honestly. You really don't have to live like that.

And that's why your resentment will grow and grow. Challenge him, FFS. You are not starting an argument. You are telling him how his selfishness and lack of consideration for your feelings hurts you and damages your relationship, and how he would never tolerate this rudeness from you. I would ask him are you and your family really so insignificant to him that he can't spend 10 minutes in their company to be polite?

Tell him you're not starting the argument, you're pointing out how rude his behaviour is, and tell him if he can't see the problem you'll be matching his energy the next time his parents are at yours - and then you can ask him again if it's a problem (if he decides to "start an argument").

It's incredibly rude and dismissive of your parents.

That's so incredibly rude. Is this a pattern?

Have you told him how you feel?

Same here. If it's his family is all happy clappy, if it's mine the house is suddenly too small.