Posting for other opinions on this, because I'm wondering....aibu?
I have two brothers, for the purpose of this I'll call them Bill and Ted (none of them are 'excellent' in my opinion right now!).
Bill was contacted on social media by a woman who claimed to know Ted, (he's changed his name and she couldn't find him directly), from way back. Bill asked who she was, and she said she was an old friend just reaching out. She didn't go by the name she had gone by previously either. Bill contacted Ted and told him a woman was trying to reach him, and Ted (married), said he didn't know who she was (then looked, and he realised she was an ex, who he admittedly had always had a thing for). Ted told Bill that he wasn't going to contact her. Messages got deleted....unsure why (in case my sis in law saw them?) but both sides wiped their WhatsApp.
Ted then of course contacted the woman with a view to see what she wanted, and in his mind, he was interested. My sis found out (after much lying), and the shit hit the fan. I'm upset for her, and furious Ted is such a dickhead, but aibu to also be annoyed at Bill? What good would it do to pass on a message from a woman, regardless of who she said she was? Wouldn't you say he is married and leave it at that? Ultimately Ted is the asshole, but I'm struggling to know why you would pass this on? Or aibu?
YABU - it's Ted who is the dickhead and has the responsibility towards his wife - don't shoot the messenger
YANBU - Bill is stirring the pot, no need to pass the info on.
Curious to know also if anyone else would pass a message on, if so, why?