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Throwing away my friends car seats

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Howtoadressthis · 27/08/2024 11:33

About 2 months ago my friend dropped off some car seats here on the way to a date they car seats are still in my flat although I have asked her to grab them she always says well why don’t I come round for a wine and pick them up but when I say I have stopped drinking so is no longer free to collect am I unfair to text to say I’m putting them outside please collect them. For conte t I have two children in a tiny one bed flat and there’s are two big car seats

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ComtesseDeSpair · 27/08/2024 13:38

This sounds unnecessarily complicated. Surely it would be easier when she suggests dropping in to collect and a drink to say “yes, that sounds great” and then just drink a soft drink when she arrives? What’s she going to do, deliberately leave without her car seats to spite you for not also drinking wine?

Shinyandnew1 · 27/08/2024 13:22

my friend dropped off some car seats here on the way to a date

Why? Why does going on a date mean the car seats had to be at your house? Do you drive and did you drive her to the date? Did she lend you the car seats?

I’d take them back to her house now.

Lurkingandlearning · 27/08/2024 13:19

I may have misunderstood, but as she dropped them off that suggests you borrowed them. Then you should take them to her house to return them. If she did you a favour by lending them to you she shouldn’t have the inconvenience of collecting them

DelphiniumBlue · 27/08/2024 12:52

Do you drive? You’ve said she doesn’t, so I’m wondering if that is why she wants you to take them to hers.
If you do drive and she lives relatively near, it would make sense for you to drop them to her , if what you want is to get them out of the way soonest.

tribalmango · 27/08/2024 12:47

I don't understand why you not drinking is relevant to her not collect the seats, but then she sounds a bit odd altogether.

sadabouti · 27/08/2024 12:40

Crack on, but cover with black bin bags to keep the rain off them.

parlour · 27/08/2024 12:38

She obviously doesn't want or need them

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SwingTheMonkey · 27/08/2024 12:08

It’s really not op’s responsibility to dump these car seats, even if her friend doesn’t want them anymore. The friend needs to come and collect them, regardless of whether she still wants them or not!

TenderChicken · 27/08/2024 12:07

2 months is ridiculous, you are definitely well within your right to tell her your done housing them as of tomorrow.

SadieDadie · 27/08/2024 12:06

Just be blunt and tell her need gone by tomorrow. That's her choice then.

Ps, you can drink non alcoholic drinks even when someone else drinks wine. And also for reference, a coffee for both is also a good option.

LimeQuoter · 27/08/2024 12:05

It sounds like she's not too interested in what happens the car seats.

You could tell her you're doing a clearout and wondered if she still wanted her car seats. You could judge by her answer then. If she doesn't seem that interested or gives a vague answer, you could tell her the following day that you are bringing your unwanted stuff to a charity shop and whether you should bring the car seats too. It should give her a nudge.

If she says no don't, repeat yourself. say ' do you mind picking them up because we're short on space and I need the place in order for' ....visitors/working at home/school year ahead/whatever other reason you come up with!!!

If she still doesn't, then dump away!!!

WigglyVonWaggly · 27/08/2024 12:03

“Sorry friend, but I’ve now had your car seats in my small flat for two months and I’ve tried so many times to get you to take them back home. I can’t take responsibility for looking after them any longer. I’ll be moving them outside at 9am tomorrow because they are in my way constantly. They’ll be in the garden wrapped in plastic bags. Please could you come and get them?

SwingTheMonkey · 27/08/2024 12:00

If you had a garage or storage space it’d be slightly more palatable but she knows you live in a smaller place so this is absolutely unacceptable. You’ve done her a favour and she’s repaying you with CF behaviour. Text to say they’ll be outside tomorrow because you don’t have the space to keep them any longer.

lololulu · 27/08/2024 11:59

Oh cross posted

Theunamedcat · 27/08/2024 11:58

Well she doesn't get to store a set in your flat

lololulu · 27/08/2024 11:58

Does her date know she has kids?

Why did they need the back seat space? 😂😂

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Howtoadressthis · 27/08/2024 11:57

WaltzingWaters · 27/08/2024 11:56

Also, don’t understand how she’s got by for 8 weeks without the car seats 🤔

She has other ones she doesn't drive so she has a set in her dads car and a set in her sisters car

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WaltzingWaters · 27/08/2024 11:56

Also, don’t understand how she’s got by for 8 weeks without the car seats 🤔

WaltzingWaters · 27/08/2024 11:55

So she just dropped them at yours for you to store? Not because you needed to borrow them? (As this would obviously be hugely unreasonable to do if she left them as a favour). But doesn’t sound as though you needed them, so yes, tell her they need to be gone by tomorrow otherwise you’ll put them outside as you really don’t have the space.

Maddy70 · 27/08/2024 11:48

You can have a non alcoholic drink with her surely?

Just say i need the space back pleae xan you come and collect these before Wednesday orgerwise ill have to throw them out

Come for a coffee x

thequickbrowndog · 27/08/2024 11:47

That would piss me right off! Say get them today please as I need the space

GoingRoundInOvals · 27/08/2024 11:43

As above.

"the car seats will be outside at 8.30am as I do not have the space for them"

bet you by 8.35am she's collected them

Pistachiochiochio · 27/08/2024 11:42

Have you said "I'm not drinking but I'll have a lemonade with you"?

Is it possible she's trying to find a way to connect and she thinks you're brushing her off?

FUBAR77 · 27/08/2024 11:41

Why would she drop them to you rather than leave them at her own place and what has she done without car seats for 8 weeks?

Msg again categorically stating you do not have the space and she needs to get them, ending with if you don’t need them I’ll put them outside tomorrow free to a good home, I’m sure someone will make use of them