Did your parents hug you and tell you they loved you as a child?

My family isn't especially demonstrative compared to some I've seen, but I know I was hugged, and my parents often told us they loved us. Even as adults (we 'kids' are in our 30s and 40s), we usually greet and part from my parents with a hug and occasionally say 'love you' or something similar. My siblings and I never hug one another, though, come to think of it, though my mother hugs my aunts when they meet, I believe.

As an adult, I'm not the most naturally demonstrative person, but if I had a child I would most definitely express love verbally and with hugs.

I am so so very sorry. Have you felt love since from any source? A partner, child, friends, a faith if you have one, even a pet? You ARE worthy of love, despite how they made you feel.

No, never
My mum only recently started to say “love you” on the phone if I say it first - she’s 84 🥴

No, I don’t remember being hugged or kissed but I do remember my little sister being cuddled, so perhaps I was when I was very small.
They didn’t say they loved me, but people didn’t so much then. They always said they had wanted a boy.
Yes, it has definitely negatively affected me.

Nope, never. Tbh looking back we were very poor and I think they were just trying to survive day by day at the time, make sure we were fed, clothed, etc. They are much more comfortable now and my mum in particular goes out of the way to spoil her DGC's and always tells them she loves them. She has alluded to regretting that she wasn't affectionate towards us as kids but still doesn't say 'I love you' to us now and vice versa - just feels a bit awkward as it's never really been the done thing for us I guess?

I don't think it has affected us tho, me and my sister both have kids and we are very affectionate towards all of them, tell them we love them, etc. I do love my mum and dad and we have a great relationship but I do try to parent my kids differently to how they did.

Mum used to give me a hug and kiss at bedtime but was not particularly demonstrative of affection at other points during the day. In fact I recall often trying to make the bedtime hug last longer and her always pulling away saying ‘ow’ as if it hurt. Around age 12 I went through a stage of saying ‘I love you’ at bedtime to make her say it back to me. It was definitely a struggle for her. She only just started to volunteer ‘I love you’ without prompting in the last five years (I am in my thirties) because I pointed out how uncared for I felt as a child when she got upset that visiting her is not high on my list of priorities. Needless to say, I always hug and kiss my own children.

I can remember my parents telling me they loved me and hugging me as a child once when I was really upset about something. I felt quite uncomfortable with it as they never ever did it! I always knew very much that they loved me, they would do anything for me and my siblings.
DH’s parents are very huggy and always say they love him, but there doesn’t seem to be any substance behind it. They are never there for him if he needs them.

Never! No touching, no I love you's - nothing at all.

I'm in my 60s and still don't want to be touched by anyone ever. It's like an electrical shock I am so not used to it.

Similar age to you OP. My mum was pretty affectionate and would often say she loved me and hug me. My dad rarely, but he was very kind and caring in other ways.
I’m always hugging DD 14 and sometimes hug DS 17 as he is shy and she is not and I get the feeling he is uncomfortable with too much emotion. He sometimes gruffly says he loves me. DD says it back often and is very tactile.
I’m not much of a hugger outside of family but I couldn’t imagine not hugging my kids or at least saying I love them often. I think it is more common now to express your love with hugs for kids now than in our parents’ generation.

It wasn't about being told if I was loved or not or being showed signs of affection - neither of which happened.. it was more a feeling of being safe and wanted and secure... which I never had that showed me the lack of love. This is not a 'poor me' post but has helped me to decipher how they did (or didn't as it turned out) show love

I'm an 80's child. My parent's never hugged me, never kissed me, never told me I was loved. Ever. My mother died of cancer when I was in my early twenties. Even in those last few weeks when she knew her time was coming to an end she still never hugged me or told me she loved me.
It definitely affected me in a negative way.

I'm the same and no not at all... tell him this is not a helpful comment he's saying it like it's your fault

My mother was overly demonstrative and I, as a result, am not a particularly affectionate adult. However, I am with my daughters, in that we hug one another a lot and say "I love you" throughout the day (they're 6). We're all AuDHD.

I don't think kissing, hugging and saying "I love you" was a thing years ago. I have no doubt my parents loved me, but they didn't ever say so, and they didn't hug either. My mum hugged me a couple of times when she was dying from cancer.

I have always made a point of kissing and hugging my children and telling I love them.

Interesting post! I remember thinking when I was about 9 'I don't think my parents love me and they never show it or say it, but I read in books that parents love their children so I suppose they most do'

Rubbish. Of course it wouldn’t mess you up. My parent never said they loved us but we knew they did. You can create a safe loving environment for your children without gushing about your how much you love them all the time.

The closest I came to a hug was my dad tucking me in at night. I remember it stopped at my 7th birthday because I was too old. Nothing from mum ever.
im not damaged by it, and me and dad have said I love you as adults (never In childhood). Mum never said it, because she didn’t (and openly said that from age 7)

No, never. Neither of my parents were demonstrative, my dad openly didn't want to know. He used to tell us that he never wanted children or to get married and that our mother forgot to take her pill. We used to feel sorry for him.

My mum wasn't maternal and wasn't interested. She was short tempered, aggressive and neglectful.

Mine were very cuddly and always said that they loved me. DHs weren’t the same. But I don’t honestly think that they loved him any less than my parents loved me.

I’m not sure if it messed me up. I think probably a little bit, but only cos it was a sign of a wider lack of emotional engagement with any feelings or problems or challenges I had. Emotions, hugging, declarations of love - not something we did. I was left to sort out my own feelings, problems and difficulties which was impossible for a child with no clue and no siblings to confide in. And so it’s taken me a really long time to mature into trusting others with my feelings. I still find it very hard to ask for help or support from anyone at all.

Father a kiss on forehead at bedtime. Never told I was loved but I know I was.
Mother no hugs can't remember if we got a bedtime kiss. She told me when she was in the nursing home that she loved me and always had. But we knew somehow.
Grandparents no. Except one grandmother who I spent quite a bit of time with at weekends as a child I kissed her goodbye when I went home. I find it easy but I don't get it from family. Didn't see much affection between adults either.
I'm happy hugging friends, dont have much family now, so it's not stopped me.

No not once, no hugs, no telling me they loved me.
It still makes me sad. I can't imagine not hugging my kids or telling them I love them numerous times a day.

Late 40's and never hugged - as an adult l hate hugging people - find it awkward and cringey.
But l hug and tell dd every single day l love her so hopefully am breaking the cycle.

No, and remember that mum used to say that they loved me even though they weren't demonstrative. Unwrapping it now I'm older in my fifties it's clear my father had asd and possibly mum too. My dad started hugging me when he got dementia and I found it weird because there hadn't been any affection previously. I also have asd and don't like people touching me , I think it's more normal for people to be affectionate and good for children to experience that. My husband's family are huggers and I fucking hate it lol I physically swerve them, they still do it though bastards😁

Why is he saying this to you and projecting this onto you???