No one is saying it outright. It’s other parents offering advice when I make a comment like
“oh your DC eats so well” - “we’ve done baby led weaning, have you tried laying out some fruit or veg as finger food”
“it’s great X is sleeping through the night” - “what about trying to get DC to self soothe at nap time first?”
“I wish my DC could put their own shoes on” - “they’ll get there, it’s just having the time and patience to help them practise”
So I guess no judgy comments, it’s more that people are looking at me when they say them even when DH is stood next to me.
And I just have to politely nod, when what I’m really thinking is YES I KNOW BUT I AM NOT THERE AM I !!!
If I said anything it would start an argument.
So perhaps it is my hormonal mind and projecting, or jealousy I haven’t been able to have these experiences because I had to go back to work a few weeks after birth.
It would be nice to be able
to justify myself explain that I haven’t made these choices and I agree with the advice from other parents, as I did these things with eldest DC when I did get a bit longer mat leave / part time hours.
But then it’s why don’t you suggest to DH to do that? Well because he’s the SAHP so it’s his choice how DC is weaned, sleeps etc. Can you imagine the MN response if a Mum said her DH was working f/t, out the house 12 hours a day, 5 days a week, yet was trying to get her to wean and sleep train a certain way?