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To think you don’t do this to a friend?

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latetoset · 26/08/2024 19:01

I arranged to see my best friend this weekend weeks ago. We’d been messaging like we normally do and then she didn’t respond to my last message.

Anyway I followed up on Wednesday to say are we still meeting, but don’t worry if you have forgotten as we planned it so long ago.

I’ve heard absolutely nothing from her. Maybe something has happened but she’s looked at my Instagram stories so she’s still active online.

Thing is as much as I would be disappointed if she couldn’t come, I would have understood her rearranging but just not even acknowledging it. I’ve asked her now if everything this ok and she’s not responded to that either.

I just want to cry. There’s been nothing that’s happened between us, so I think not to find one minute to just let me know is actually quite mean.

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farfromideal · 26/08/2024 19:34

Call her. For all we know, her baby could be seriously ill or similar

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 26/08/2024 19:31

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I don't think it is an over reaction. The OP has contacted her twice to confirm & got no response. Now the weekend they were supposed to meet has passed. The friend has time to be on social media but no time to send her supposed best friend a message to say she can't make it? She's ghosting her. Appalling behaviour imo.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/08/2024 19:29

If I received the message that you sent I would suspect you were looking to get out of meeting up but were trying to get me to do the actual cancelling rather than you.

I wonder what she would have done if you had just asked if she was still ok to meet up without the whole thing about it being ok if she couldn't.

Dery · 26/08/2024 19:27

She’s one of your best friends. There’s absolutely no harm in calling. There is harm in calling this ghosting. At the same time, disappointing as it is to be let down socially, it seems fair to assume that it’s something she’s going through right now rather than because she doesn’t like you any more. Secure friendships can survive a bit of drift. Blocking and deleting is just petulant, childish and self-absorbed behaviour in these circumstances.

Coconutter24 · 26/08/2024 19:23

We don’t always know what’s going on in people’s lives. If she does this often then I’d stop trying but if this is out of the ordinary a quick phone call would not of hurt

ManhattanPopcorn · 26/08/2024 19:23

Why would you assume that she's ghosted you for no reason?

Unless your friendship usually thrives on drama yabu and overreacting.

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latetoset · 26/08/2024 19:20

Aligirlbear · 26/08/2024 19:15

You could phone ?

We used to talk on the phone a lot but now she has a baby it’s rare.

Baby is 1 now. And honestly if she couldn’t get a babysitter then absolutely fine, my issue isn’t her not going. My issue is the ghosting.

But anyway my point is that I don’t feel comfortable randomly calling her anymore because she’ll be busy with her baby, or I’d worry I’m interrupting family time.

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CrazyCubicZirconia · 26/08/2024 19:18

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Dillydollydingdong · 26/08/2024 19:18

You'll just have to write this one off. She's no kind of friend if she can treat you like this.

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latetoset · 26/08/2024 19:15

BarbaraHoward · 26/08/2024 19:14

Weekend past or weekend coming?

The one gone.

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Aligirlbear · 26/08/2024 19:15

You could phone ?

BarbaraHoward · 26/08/2024 19:14

Weekend past or weekend coming?

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 26/08/2024 19:13

Honestly, this type of shitty immature behaviour just makes me so angry. I'm sorry this has happened to you OP, it's so hurtful. If she hasn't been in touch by the weekend, my advice would be to block her number and remove her from your social media. You'll never get to know her reasons why, unfortunately.

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