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Moral dilemma. What would you do?

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Halftheworldawayy · 26/08/2024 10:03

On the train back from London I overheard the conversation of the woman sat next to me.

It was her birthday and her and two friends (friend A and E) had gone to Magic Mike. Friend E had got so drunk that she fell asleep in the bar at Magic Mike and had almost got them kicked out. They went out for more drinks after the show and both friends were hammered.

They got on the underground to go home, Friend E jumped off at a random stop to be sick, Friend A jumped off at a next stop to find her. Birthday girl (not hammered) stayed on the tube all the way to the train station.

When birthday girl got to the station neither friend was there so she gets on the train to go home. Friend A keeps ringing her in tears saying she can’t find Friend E and birthday girl tells her to leave her and get the train as Friend E will eventually sober up and get the train herself.

They also both kept trying to call Friend E and it was going to voicemail.

Birthday girl felt no guilt at all about leaving her friends and repeatedly said “they needed to man up” “handle their drink better”. I do agree to a point as these women were easily late 30s/early 40s and I get how frustrating it is as a grown adult to babysit drunk adults. But I’m not sure I would have abandoned both friends.

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NatalieIsFreezing · 26/08/2024 10:09

I would have been pissed off but if I knew they were both smashed I would've gone with friend A to help sort out E. Then bollocked them later.

Also depends how late it was, how easy it is to get on and off train with tickets, how well I/they know the area etc.

SevenSummer · 26/08/2024 10:09

I would no longer be friends with birthday girl or give her a wide berth in future. She has shown her true colours. Friend A did all she could and should be allowed to have a drink, couldn’t have foreseen friend E’s behaviour. Friend E would also be given a wide berth as they are a liability and are responsible for themselves, if drinking that heavily makes them ill they should know their limits and not put their friends or others in that situation after what should have been a good night.

Sethera · 26/08/2024 10:09

I think all three should have stuck together.

HolyPeaches · 26/08/2024 10:08

Im not a big drinker, but I would never leave my friends in a state alone.

I would have jumped out at the first stop where friend E got off to be sick and dragged friend A with me.

MiddleParking · 26/08/2024 10:08

Unless you’re actually one of the friends and this is just a variation on the ‘person A/person B’ style of post, posting this is an incredibly weird thing to do.

NatalieIsFreezing · 26/08/2024 10:08

MamaNell · 26/08/2024 10:06

I would stop ear-wigging on other people's conversations and then judging them. You don't know them or any of the back story.

What was OP's judgement?

MamaNell · 26/08/2024 10:06

I would stop ear-wigging on other people's conversations and then judging them. You don't know them or any of the back story.