So have been separated for many years and dd and ds didn't really see their paternal grandparents very much. Their paternal grandmother is near the end and dd is taking it very badly. In that anything I say to her she says she can't think about anything except her nan. Like when I asked her to do the dishes this morn she said I was to stop nagging her and that housework wasn't important at this time. I'm kinda surprised she is taking it so badly as she didn't really have a relationship with her and hasn't seen her for a good few years. Obvs am trying to be understanding but am finding it a bit tricky . There's a lot of history with my ex and her and our break up. Anyone else any advice navigating this