I've had 5 hours of sleep since Thursday

One more: you are NOT a shit mum at all! It will get better, I promise. Tizzie Hall really helped for us (not everyone's cup of tea but literally saved our marriage) And lots of people have said it but calprofen does work better than calpol with teething. Big hugs, it will get better!!

Glad you're feeling a little better. She's probably driving you mad so this is the best time for both of you to give DD a big cuddle. Sometimes when our kids are driving us mental it's really important to take that time to re connect so that we don't get resentful.
I know what you mean about baby won't settle for Dad- mine won't and God love him he's really really really trying his best!
Also I had to manage with 2 when DP wasn't living with us so it wasn't as simple as get the dad round- he was working shifts. And for various reasons my other family and friends couldn't help more.
Sometimes it's so frustrating when people go "Just get their Dad/your Mum to come and help!" When they genuinely can't and you do just have to manage on your own. It isn't constructive to bash op for not 'making' their Dad help more.

If she's having that she will be fine with the Nurofen. It sounds like the GP was on board with the idea too. They wouldn't have told you it was better for teething if they thought it was dangerous for use.

She's old enough for solids now, so I'd offer her a little supper an hour before bed. A lot of sleep experts recommend banana and almond butter on wholemeal toast to maximise sleep. Then she can have the Nurofen. Even if she just has a bit of fruit or whatever that would be fine for the Nurofen.

I get worrying about the Nurofen, but honestly you functioning on such little sleep is more of a risk to her in terms of tripping whilst carrying her, accidentally falling asleep on the sofa with her etc. It's not forever, just whilst the tooth comes through to get you a little sleep.

Try giving the Nurofen half an hour before bed. That used to buy me four hours initial sleep. Never worked as well given later, and honestly Calpol is a waste of time for teething so if you're going to give something give the most effective thing.

Agreed.

OP, why aren't you answering the questions about the baby's dad?

That's (potentially) the most straightforward answer to this

I really feel for you and remember it well.

I'd be asking your partner to come home and at least get a head start on tonight by going to bed at six or seven.

Asking the bleeding obvious, but where is the dad today? If he's at work that's fair enough BUT he should be enabling you to catch up on some sleep when home and pulling his weight generally

Anbesol liquid is fantastic, try and get some (not the gel).

I used to go to bed super early like 7pm so I could catch up on sleep for a few hours and my partner dealt with the baby then I would take over again when he went to bed at 11pm or whatever. Sometimes he would do much longer than that to give me extra sleep!

I've been there. It's brutal. You aren't a shit Mum. You're a great Mum- have a hug from me!
When things are that bad I wouldn't be having any cuppas- no caffeine whatsoever and every single time baby sleeps you lie down and Put your phone AWAY! Close your eyes and relax. You probably won't sleep. But you might get a minute or 2 microsleep and it will help.
But alternatively getting out in the fresh air is another good one. Just don't overdo it. You'll get through this. I've got a teething baby and he's driving me crazy!!!

If you was a shit mum you'd of ignored your baby and slept anyway. Your an amazing mum, it'll be the lack of sleep making you feel down.

Soon as your husband is home hand him the baby and go catch up on your sleep. Sending you big hugs!

@crispyeggs you poor thing . I wish there was some sort of support for parents in these situations. I have loads of family but zero practical support at all when my dcs were young . Two of mine didn’t sleep well for years and when you have multiple children (I have 3), it goes on for a long, long time .. my eyes were literally hanging out of my head, I’m late 30’s now with much older kids (teens) and I look better now than I did in my late 20’s/early 30’s. I will never understand why some families are like this. I’d help a stranger in this situation.
This will pass for you , in the meantime just try and rest (you won’t be able to sleep) when they nap, don’t think about the lack of sleep too much. Are you breastfeeding? Even if you are you could get your dh (if you have one) to take over for a few hours , maybe take a piriton (if bf check if you can ) as this can really help to make you drozey and put in earplugs and go somewhere else in the house to sleep.

It's miserable, I hear you. I suggest trying Nurofen rather Calpol, it tends to work much better for teething. Also the liquid Ambesol dabbed on (not the gel) can also help.

Where is her dad/your partner in all this?!

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You are not a shit mum.

You’re not a shit mum.

Give some ibuprofen between calpol doses. Anbesol
liquid wipes the floor with teething gel.

Oh OP I remember those days vividly. Where is the baby's father? Can you call him to come home and say you don't feel safe as you're so tired? Sometimes we have to make sacrifices when a baby arrives and this applies to their father too.

How old is the baby? Breast or bottle?

I found it hard because even if DH was available to do the night wakings, I simply couldn’t sleep if I could hear them fussing…. nature I guess.

If DH is able to take over is there somewhere else you can go to rest where you won’t hear them?

or as PP said, perhaps cosleeping? Even if for naps but not overnight if you’re not comfortable with it.

You’ve posted before about your baby’a sleep and seem to have had some success with a sleep consultant. Can’t you get them back?