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I'm quitting teaching, I've decided, AIBU?

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thequickbrowndog · 25/08/2024 07:23

That's it, I'm done, I'm leaving! I've spent the whole summer dreading going back. I adore the kids (secondary boys school) but I can't be bullied anymore. I can't stand my work colleagues, I've had to make a formal complaint about bullying. My boss clearly favours other staff over me. Everything always just seems unfair but I just have to get on with it. I work part time but am stressed about it full time because of all the passive aggressive emails while I'm off.
I don't have a job to go to yet, but I'm just done. I can't go back. AIBU?

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PoohBearsBelly · 25/08/2024 07:31

Do it, and don't let yourself be dragged back in a few years later once you've recovered like I did! It's crap, and always will be crap, because teachers know how to manage children not adults. Things will not change until there is proper training for senior teams on how to actually run a team.

Quit, find something you love and don't look back

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thequickbrowndog · 25/08/2024 07:31

noblegiraffe · 25/08/2024 07:26

How are you going to get around the fact you can’t leave till Christmas?

I'm planning to go off sick. I think I need to prioritise my mental health above all

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thequickbrowndog · 25/08/2024 07:30

Mumoftwo1316 · 25/08/2024 07:25

Of course yanbu. But if you enjoy the actual teaching and are just fed up of the toxic management, there might be a different school out there for you.

I never believed I could find a school with non toxic management until my current one.

Why is there this toxic culture in schools? Why are teachers so bloody awful to each other? Everything is a competition and everyone is a tell tale. I just hate it,
I'm glad you have found somewhere nice. It's good to hear.

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Gardendiary · 25/08/2024 07:29

noblegiraffe · 25/08/2024 07:26

How are you going to get around the fact you can’t leave till Christmas?

I was wondering the same. I suppose the positive is that you will know the end is in sight.

Mumoftwo1316 · 25/08/2024 07:28

For example at my current school, you can't send emails before 8am or after 6pm, and only on weekdays.

I've literally had no emails all summer except on Results Days (and very occasionally "just to let you know if you're on site, we're testing the fire alarm".

So, literally about 6 emails in my inbox since term ended.

At my last school it would have been more than 10x that

GrammarTeacher · 25/08/2024 07:27

You'll have to work the autumn term if you give notice now. I'd always recommend trying another school if possible before leaving teaching. Not all schools/departments are the same

noblegiraffe · 25/08/2024 07:26

How are you going to get around the fact you can’t leave till Christmas?

Mumoftwo1316 · 25/08/2024 07:25

Of course yanbu. But if you enjoy the actual teaching and are just fed up of the toxic management, there might be a different school out there for you.

I never believed I could find a school with non toxic management until my current one.

nosleepforme · 25/08/2024 07:25

It’s not unreasonable to quit a job where you’re bullied and receive p/a emails.