Alone on holiday

OH not waking you to say "going to dinner soon, do you want to get up" is poor, and on him - I would expect this unless I had particularly said "don't wake me, I don't mind missing dinner". If he has done this, the rest is on you. We all should be responsible for our own needs, factoring in the environment we are in. Unfair to join the group late at your will, and put your own demands over others.

I travelled for 6 months around the world on my own in my twenties, I know the world is different now 10 years later but every night I had to go find food on my own.

Unless you are in skid row or something then I think just put your big girl boots on and get some food.

It's just a bit gross. Especially the expectation. How would you feel if your husband was in a strop with you because you didn't go and get him something to eat as soon as he woke fra 4 hour nap?

During the day, yes. In the dark/night? No. Luckily, I'm a bit boring, so I'm never really in the situation where I'm out in the dark or late on my own. If I go out with friends, we usually get lifts back together from someone's husband or relative, or drive. I'm never out on my own in the nights, really. I can't say I've particularly gone out of my way, I just don't really have a need to.

Your husband is horrid op. I would feel uncomfortable with going out in an area I was unfamiliar with after dark.

The fact he didn't wake you, the fact he didn't go out with you to get something to eat just shows his priorities.

My husband tonight wouldn't pull over so I could take a picture of the moon. This might be a small thing, but they build up. When your significant other can't be arsed to do the small things to put you first at times just shows a lack of respect and priorities.

Tonight my husband wasn't interested in a red moon so therefore would not help, your husband is interested in drinking more than helping you out.

As I said earlier it's these small things that in isolation are not big deals but when they happen time and time again they become habits and a way of life. It's rubbish

You are not alone on holiday.

You are hungry on holiday.

Blimey, don't husbands and wives do little things for each other? All these comments about her being a grown woman and being able to source her own food, of course she can.

But wouldn't have been nice if her husband had said ok darling I'll get you something to eat? What would be wrong with that?

I would love to see some of these posters walk through my high street after dark. Wouldn't last 5 minutes. It wouldn't even be safe to walk during the day.

That's horrendous!

Nothing like that where I live.

Did you ask him to go with you?

it was supposed to be a nap, but I woke up 4 hours later

That's your body telling you you need that rest.

Up to you to sort your food out then. When you wake up. You're an adult woman.
Uber do food deliveries if you don't want to go wandering around. Just google restaurants where you are staying.

Too many women on MN blame husbands when they in fact don't want to become independent by themselves.

Trust me, your future self will thank you for it.

Men leave, die off, become sick. (Women in general live longer than men).

Get in touch with your inner warrior woman.

TBH if my partner overslept and missed dinner on a group holiday I'd be hurt and embarrassed by their behaviour.

I don't think it's reasonable to expect him to leave a sociable evening to bring you food, when you can to go to dinner. Couldn't you have gone to join him in three bar and got food there?

And he got it so, so wrong clearly! And that’s what I find to be the worst part of the situation.

Id be annoyed if while on holiday my dh had a four hour afternoon nap, unless he was ill.

do you think he didn't wake you up out of spite?

Where did you get food in the end OP?

But this is why this whole attitude is so bizarre. Are you never going to go anywhere unchaperomed? I don't mean to be facetious, awful things have happened in my local area too. But I still don't get wanting to be infantalised as a response.

Blimey, it must be bad.

Or are you in Copenhagen? Still not going to be duffed up, but perhaps go for a pastry instead

Where are you OP?

I must admit I wouldn't expect my DH to go out in the evening without waking me up . I would be really annoyed . And I don't think it's reasonable that your partner did this.

I agree, I’d be irritated at the suggestion I wasn’t capable of walking down the road by myself.

Op assuming it’s the typical kinda town where people go on holiday, then you aren’t in any danger.

If this is genuine anxiety, sort it out.

It is odd he didn’t wake you. Given what appears to be a Grazia level appetite for drama, it may be you have had enough of each other. So have a chat about that when you get home.

But I doubt you are going to be duffed up on the mean streets of Lisbon, sadly for your memoir. Buy and icecream on the way home, it’s always cheering.

Why did you go on holiday to somewhere so dangerous? I wouldn't go on holiday somewhere I couldn't walk for ten minutes without feeling safe. Is it the Bronx?