Alone on holiday

If you wanted DH to accompany you this is absolutely reasonable. Does he have form for being selfish?

Just so odd. WHERE were you ?

DH not waking you up for dinner ?

but then you can’t manage to
feed yourself.

so maybe your DH was having a night off from the fuss.

he should have woken you up
but you should Be able to find food or wait till breakfast

If they're in a resort where food is readily available, which it seems like they are, I don't think it's completely stupid to leave her sleeping (presumably she was really, really tired!) and think she can pick something up later. It seems she could have sourced food by walking five minutes up the road.

I wouldn't let my DH go alone, not because he's a prince or helpless but because he's the most important person in my life and I love him.
That said I wouldn't have let him miss dinner or failing that, he'd have woken up to some beside snacks at the very least. Marriage is all about taking care of each other IMHO.

The fact he didn't wake you is the issue here, what kind of fucking idiot would leave someone sleeping & just fuck off for dinner with the other couples -amazingly on this holiday there were two such twats.
The accompanying you for food thing is in all honesty a bit pathetic, how do you suppose single people cope? Nothing to do with being a 'cool girl' , it's a simple fact the literally thousands of women manage this.

My husband would have woken me.

If he hadn't because I was exhausted or sick he would have brought me home food.

If the above two hadn't happened, he would have gone and got me food when I woke up OR walked with me to get some.

I know this because it has happened many, many times in our relationship.

All the "cool girls" on Mumsnet like to hammer anyone who likes chivalry and consideration from husbands, but personally I do think that kindness and acts of service are a huge part of a happy relationship.

I also do believe that walking anywhere at night poses a much higher risk for women than men and my husband acts accordingly.

No. One too many is when you go from having a good time to being a bit stumbly when you walk. To go from having a good time to significant risk of sleep-vomiting is way more than just one.

Do you often drink to the point where you vomiting in your sleep is a legitimate concern for your husband? If so, you may want to reconsider your relationship with alcohol.

Really, a few drinks and he would stay with in case you were sick? Does he have anxiety issues? If not, that is not normal.

@Bitchette I'm surprised you get chance to do anything in between sleep vomit watch and avoiding the drive by shootings and 24/7 pimpin' outside your local Costa Coffee

In all my holidaying and drinking years I have never been concerned my partner may vomit in their sleep after a couple of drinks with lunch.

It really depends on the location but for your average holiday destination, I wouldn't expect my husband to come with me. Have you never lived on your own?

Normal levels of self-care would be not being in the habit of drinking so many cocktails that other people have to watch you because there's a significant risk you're going to vomit in your sleep.

I know. I am lucky. I was in an abusive, shit, horrible relationship, where my self-worth was in tatters, before I met my husband. I was constantly called names, belittled in public, and put down day after day. My ex would have acted like the ops partner. Actually, one holiday, I remember him pulling my plate away to say I'd eaten enough. My husband showed me there are men out there who are kind and will do anything to make you happy. So yes, I am lucky I have the husband I have now.

@Bitchette mate you have a Costa Coffee - it's hardly Canada Real.

Perhaps you were jet lagged or had done a lot of walking / tired from the journey?

Ask someone where the nearest shop is if you don't know the area, so you're not roaming around in an aimless way. Then just nip out and get something. You'll be fine.

Where are you @RecoveringMillennial ?
This would be the deciding factor in whether you are being unreasonable being cross with your husband for not accompanying you to get food.

It might be just the straw that broke the camel's back as in he is generally not bothered in helping you out.

I would be really pissed off if my husband "napped" through dinner and then expected me to go looking for food for him at 10.30pm.

It's your own fault you missed dinner. It's his holiday too. Why should he have to break off from enjoying his evening now you have deigned to get yourself out of bed?

This! If I didn't go alone, I'd never leave the flat.

So I guess because I don't have a husband or partner I should never travel or if I do, remain in my hotel room between the hours of 6p.m and morning. Whi needs anyone to control us when we can do it to ourselves?

He should have woken you, and if he decided you needed to sleep longer, then he should have offered to go with you later. Maybe he thought one of the female friends would, but he shouldn’t be prepared to let you go late at night on your own. That’s not considerate or a good husband.

He's selfish because you overslept and you want him to go and get you food, that you're more than capable of doing yourself. The "it's late" won't wash with me unfortunately as I lived overseas working in tourist resorts, where we had to walk back to apartments alone in the early hours after an airport arrival. Tourist areas are busy and well lit when restaurants are still open.

You're the entitled one thinking cos you're the woman you get to be waited on. JFC.