Alone on holiday

The OP didn't even tall about accompanying her. More running an errand

Well quite. He's her husband, not her maid.

I can imagine cries of LTB if the shoe was on the other foot 😂

You can just imagine can't you! Dear lordy

Imagine this post the other way round.. husband slept for 4 hours and was now expecting wife to go fetch him food... 😂😂😂

🙌🙌

So the husband is expected to drop what he's doing to go with her and/or get food?

Can you really not see that it isn't the same issue?

I often travel alone - if I couldn't go out after dark for food on my own I'd be screwed!!!

You haven't exactly covered yourself in glory with your tone either.

Carry on enjoying your relationship style if you are happy in it.

I am wonderfully happy in my own and would rather be single than live with what I perceive to be incredibly inconsiderate acts.

It doesn't sound like OP is happy with it either and that is what I was addressing.

I go most places without him , as he works away. It's still nice to have company/do things for each other/help out. Otherwise what's the point in being with someone?

I don't think it is about "needing" her husband. It is about feeling pissed off that he didn't wake her up and then couldn't care less that she hadn't eaten. It was his attitude that was wrong.

Unless there is a back story that we don't know about. Did the OP get drunk at lunchtime and sleep it off all afternoon?

I can't imagine sleeping for 4 hours all afternoon unless I am ill.

The amount of threads about the woman needing her man to help her is embarrassing, alone on holiday; clearly not!
Do you never go anywhere without your husband?

Has nothing to do with being a "cool girl" although well don't for the attempt at being a patronising arse!

If I had slept through dinner in a group holiday, I got up 4 hours later and my DP was chilling having drinks with the group, I absolutely would not expect him to come and find food with me, because I'm a grown woman! Mine would undoubtedly offer, but I would never in a million years expect it, because he is on holiday too, not just there to be at my beck and call! Even if he didn't offer, I wouldn't think him selfish, unkind or unbothered, and certainly wouldn't be crying on MN about it, calling him such and saying I was alone on holiday!

That's not how a good relationship works though.

It's all very well being tough and streetwise, but simply accompanying your other half to get some food late at night is just a considerate thing to do.

I would probably call it good old fashioned chivalry, and I'm not afraid of going out after dark when on hoiday in an other country in a well lit area that has lots of people milling around, but I understand why many women don't feel comfortable doing this.

The sneering on this thread is very unpleasant

How the husband being called selfish is beyond me. 😂 heard it all.

I think people are being a bit harsh. I got separated from my friends one night on holiday and was followed by two men. They crossed the street and changed direction to follow me and it was really quiet with big mental people around. I slipped into a pub and then left when a group of people did to stay safe. I would never walk alone at night abroad after that, they could have dragged me into any alleyway as there were a few. This was pre mobile phones and a lot of miscommunication.

There are some spectacularly obtuse people here. Presumably the ones who don't have a pre dinner snooze on holiday.

Anyway, your husband should have wakened you, I don't understand him not doing that at all.

Whether he should have gone with you to find food really depends on where you were staying. Somewhere touristy should be safe enough for you to have gone on your own. Would anywhere have been open if you were too late for dinner?

Op sound like the selfish one of the pair TBH

I’m with you OP, surely someone in the group would be nice enough to say they will walk with you.

Yes I totally get your point- ultimately its what works for them and their relationship and their preferences.
I'm trying to put myself and DP in this situation but all I can think about is how both of us would have prioritised the sleep !!(although I'm viewing life through the lens of having a toddler and a baby so I'm biased 🤣)

I hear what you are saying :)

I've travelled all over the world by myself and have done what I needed to do... but I guess my point is that if my husband is there then I wouldn't have to.

He would be thinking about me, concerned about my safety and doesnt mind a little bit of effort or going for a walk with me if i need something at night etc.

So for me it's not a matter of "can't", but that OP's situation sounds inconsiderate on many different levels and in my opinion one of the perks of being in a relationship is small acts of kindness and consideration (especially as a woman in situations like going out at night).

I'm not being a cool girl. It's literally how I was brought up to go where I needed to go alone in a foreign country. I would have thought nothing of nipping to the shop or takeaway by myself and my parents wouldn't either. Of course this was Spain not Sudan but you catch my drift 😂

You’d go out with your skin full of sweat and sun cream from a day in the sun?

Erm….ok.

Depends where you are. I'd have tried to order food if it's easily available.