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To ask why you have just one child?

264 replies

WeWillRockEwe · 24/08/2024 21:55

I am asking for some traffic. No judgement. If you have one child - how come you didn’t have more?

Btw before I have to edit - I can imagine many reasons why people might have one child only but I’m here today to ask people rather than guess/assume ❤️

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LeFromage · 24/08/2024 22:07

Ovaries removed due to BRCA gene aged 36 - still got breast cancer before they got round to removing those.

Loveshine · 24/08/2024 22:07

Had my ovaries removed due to cysts. We froze 2 embryos before the second ovary was removed and implanted the first one a few months after the surgery which didn't take and the second one is now nearly 3. No more ovaries, no more eggs, no more babies.

Would love another but the expense of IVF with donor eggs is money spent without a guarantee of being able to grow our family so makes more sense to spend it on the kid and life we already have.

ErrolTheDragon · 24/08/2024 22:05

Started TTC when we were 35, diagnosed with PCOS so I'm pretty lucky to have one. And she's enough.Smile

RockyRogue1001 · 24/08/2024 22:05

6 years and quite a lot of money to conceive

Was just grateful to get my one

violetsparkle · 24/08/2024 22:04

I "just" have one because I was so lucky to even have one.

GamingMum93 · 24/08/2024 22:02

I had a traumatic experience before DD was born (late term stillbirth), then suffered horrendous PND/PNA and in all honesty, I’ve really struggled with parenting, especially as DD has SEN, my own mother was never maternal and even though I’ve forced myself to be better than that and I now have a wonderful relationship with DD, it didn’t come naturally or easily to me. So I don’t have the desire at all for more children, and it would just break me mentally, emotionally and physically I think.

RunSlowTalkFast · 24/08/2024 22:01

Hated the baby bit, it's got better every year. I never got to the point where I could face starting again!

Also expense.

otravezempezamos · 24/08/2024 22:00

I watched what my mum (3 siblings) went through when my gran died. All the work dumped on her (and me), no support, everyone else lived their lives and we are broken.

siblings are not guaranteed to get on.

SeaweedSundress · 24/08/2024 21:59

It never crossed my mind to have more. I had a child to see what it was like. Having two seemed unnecessary. To be honest, I often find it quite strange that so many people have more than one child.

Hoglet70 · 24/08/2024 21:59

Just never got the urge to have a second.

LeontineFrance · 24/08/2024 21:58

One was enough and I could give it a good life and my attention.

LargeJugs · 24/08/2024 21:58

I don't want more.

Flibflobflibflob · 24/08/2024 21:57

Struggled with change plus we don’t have a support network.

OoLaaLaa · 24/08/2024 21:56

Expense