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I'm a nanny with my own baby - what should I charge?

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Vizella · 24/08/2024 15:40

Hi all,

I am a single mother of a 1.5 year old DS whom I've committed to looking after until he's 3 - I believe in prioritising his needs above my career, etc etc. I live with my parents at the moment, that's how I can afford it.

However, I am eating into my savings and would like to make some income as an after-school nanny so that I don't deplete all of my savings. Otherwise, I might have to go back to work and I don't want to do that.

My question is, would parents be okay with me looking after their children while I bring my DS along - he is well-behaved and bright, not the type to run around tearing things down - and also, should I charge slightly less or the same hourly rate?

So, in London, nannies charge about £15 net per hour, should I charge £10-12 per hour?

Thanks for your advice (and sorry if any of this offends some of you - no idea how lol, but you never know).

OP posts:
Bunnycat101 · 24/08/2024 17:52

Other thing to think about is whether you’d be happy to only take annual leave during school holiday periods? And What you’d do if your child/their children were sick and whether you’d be happy/able to take a primary aged kid swimming for example with your 1yo in tow.

it obviously can be a model that works as other posters have said they know people doing it but is going to depend on your competition from wrap-around as not everyone would be keen.

RawBloomers · 24/08/2024 17:48

If you’re looking after your own child too, at best I would expect to split the fee with you 50/50. So if the going rate is £15/hr, I wouldn’t expect to pay more than £7.50. And I’d have concerns over that because babies require more concessions so it would not be a great situation for a school age child. Would be much keener on a nanny-share with someone with a similar aged child doing similar activities.

Qanat53 · 24/08/2024 17:42

You should be looking after someone else’s child in your home.
No one wants to be “supporting” your child with use of house, toys, food and what a double buggy required ?

Maybe u get lucky at 1/2 price, it’s a nanny share , right?

Bunnycat101 · 24/08/2024 17:41

In practice was does £10-12 net work out as at a gross rate for you? I think people are reading the £10 and thinking ‘bargain’ but that probably isn’t the case one you add in pension, tax and not sure what the deal with student loan is.

i don’t think it’s viable if you’re only going to want to do 5.30/6- there has to be a good offer over and above wrap-around for the price difference and the added risks of having a toddler around. If you can go to 7 or 8 then I think there would be people who would go for it due to how hard it is to get care beyond 6.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/08/2024 17:41

The Op @Vizella has outlined her childcare experience, but not mentioned her qualifications i.e. what level of childcare she has, pediatric first aid and a dbs

Investinmyself · 24/08/2024 17:40

My dc’s friend at primary had this set up with a nanny any it worked well. Nanny and her baby picked dc up from school, took her to activities and gave her dinner/supervised homework. She was a very well behaved only girl so it was an easy job. She’d also be happy to take mine occasionally too as an extra for cash.

theeyeofdoe · 24/08/2024 17:40

OP you wouldn't be "charging" anything, nannies are employed. £11.74 is the minimum you could be paid.
Have a look at the afterschool nanny jobs on nannyjob and childcare.co.uk and apply for some.

If your mum doesn't mind looking after your son a couple of times a week, you could bear that in mind if there are a couple of difficult days, when it would be easier if a smaller child wasn't there.

I know a few people who have had a NWOC and it's worked. It didn't for us - too many children!

SouthLondonMum22 · 24/08/2024 17:37

I wouldn’t want a nanny who has their own child with them. They are likely to put their own child first and I’d be paying for the focus to be on my child.

creepywoman · 24/08/2024 17:34

Why would someone pay you to babysit your own child ? It’s a waste of their money. They are paying you for exclusive care ie your full attention from you on their child. They’re not running a charity.

CasaBianca · 24/08/2024 17:34

Vizella · 24/08/2024 16:05

I was a nanny for 4 years at some point - 3.5 years with a UK family, 4 weeks with a Qatari royal family and 2 weeks with a mother of a newborn while she rested with the baby I looked after her child with autism, some babysitting for 3 families, after school work for 2 families.

1 year as a kindergarten ESL teacher abroad and 1 year as a primary/middle school ESL teacher abroad.

Its because of my previous work as a nanny that I can now no longer work as a full-time nanny. I don't want my own baby raised by my mum while I go off looking after other people's children. That's why I suggested after school nannying - usually the parent has cooked food beforehand and I just need to heat it up. I help with homework and chat to the kids and then the parents arrive at 5.30-6pm.

Edited

We had a full time nanny when DC were little, and as they were here for the day it was expected that a few hours were low key activities (and she could have looked after a toddle during these). However, if I now were to hire a nanny only for 3:30-6:30 then I would expect these hours to be full-on: back from school, homework, school projects, showers, cooking and serving dinner and I would expect her to tidy as she goes. Honestly, that wouldn’t leave time to look after a baby or even toddler, especially as it would be a time of the day when they often start being fussy. Maybe a family with only one child and you would need to offer a good discount, say £10/h instead of £15.

Wouldhavebeenproficient · 24/08/2024 17:33

PorridgeWobbler · 24/08/2024 17:22

You would be childminding, not nannying. A nanny doesn’t look after other children at the same time.

I thought the distinction was childminders have children at their own house, whereas nannies have them at the children's house.

Wouldhavebeenproficient · 24/08/2024 17:32

My childhood nanny used to do this. She was my nanny from around six months old to age 11. I'm still in touch with her. Her child used to come on holiday with us (she was the same age as my younger sister). It all worked really well for long time, until the girl and my sister started having friendship issues age 9, and I went to private school for secondary and the nanny was ready for something new.

I've no idea what she charged or what qualifications she had, but it worked pretty well. And the kid just did the same clubs as us, so when we had French and ballet her mum just signed her own kid up as well since she was running us around to those places.

exprecis · 24/08/2024 17:31

Goldbar · 24/08/2024 17:26

I agree with this. If we had a NWOC, I wouldn't see an issue with putting up a temp stairgate, whacking on a few cupboard locks and looking out some old toys of my DC - I would view doing the basics to make the house toddler-friendly as being part of the package.

I am really enjoying my house not looking like toddler central so for me this would be a huge downside.

It could be made up for by the rest of the package but what the OP is offering is shorter hours than my school's after school club and I would have to cook dinner (after school club feed them a hot full meal), so it would be hard to see the point when it would also cost me more

PoopedAndScooped · 24/08/2024 17:29

PorridgeWobbler · 24/08/2024 17:22

You would be childminding, not nannying. A nanny doesn’t look after other children at the same time.

Ofcourse they do.
I looked after 4 from 2 families. Its called a ‘Nanny share’ 😂😂

exprecis · 24/08/2024 17:28

Bunnycat101 · 24/08/2024 16:49

I think the expectations of an after school nanny are a bit higher than your suggesting tbh. If I was paying for a nanny over and above school wrap-around I’d want them to be taking the kids to activities, helping with homework sorting dinner and being available beyond 6pm which maybe harder with your toddler re bedtime.

I think you are also going to be better value for someone with more than one child. So, for me, wrap around 3-6 is £16 per kid so £32 for two. A nanny would be more expensive but better value for two or more children but if I was going for a nanny id want 3-7 so I didn’t have to rush home and I’d want my life to be easier for the extra money over and above wrap-around.

Yes this is what I was trying to get at too.

I don't think there are many parents in London - well provided for with after school clubs - who want an after school nanny for one child, who are happy to cook the meal and leave it for the nanny and be back for 5:30.

I don't think that is the market. People go for a nanny because they want long hours, someone who will cook for their child and take some of the mental load, ferrying to activities etc

Goldbar · 24/08/2024 17:26

Lovelysummerdays · 24/08/2024 17:22

I didn’t toddler proof my place. I did dig out a travel cot and we had a stand up kitchen helper thing. I had twin 7yo and they were quite keen on the little one so the eldest would vanish for screens/ homework/ trampoline. Twins would read to toddler and set up tea parties and show her their teddies. It’s not a set up that would work for everyone but I’d assume that people happy to go for a Nwoc have had a think about the practicalities

I agree with this. If we had a NWOC, I wouldn't see an issue with putting up a temp stairgate, whacking on a few cupboard locks and looking out some old toys of my DC - I would view doing the basics to make the house toddler-friendly as being part of the package.

Iwasafool · 24/08/2024 17:25

DaniMontyRae · 24/08/2024 15:56

She said she is 'prioritising his needs over my career' by barely working. Ergo, parents who work and use childcare are not. Some parents have to prioritise their career because without it the children wouldn't have a roof over their heads.

Well she wants to be home with her child till she is 3, after school childcare will preumably wth children over 3 so can't see the issue.

Lovelysummerdays · 24/08/2024 17:24

PorridgeWobbler · 24/08/2024 17:22

You would be childminding, not nannying. A nanny doesn’t look after other children at the same time.

Some nannies do, families sometimes do a nanny share, some nannies bring their own child. Childminding is when you go it from your own home ( willing to be corrected here)

PorridgeWobbler · 24/08/2024 17:22

You would be childminding, not nannying. A nanny doesn’t look after other children at the same time.

Lovelysummerdays · 24/08/2024 17:22

PoopedAndScooped · 24/08/2024 16:26

I know lots too!

This is actually a thing in the Nanny world !

I didn’t toddler proof my place. I did dig out a travel cot and we had a stand up kitchen helper thing. I had twin 7yo and they were quite keen on the little one so the eldest would vanish for screens/ homework/ trampoline. Twins would read to toddler and set up tea parties and show her their teddies. It’s not a set up that would work for everyone but I’d assume that people happy to go for a Nwoc have had a think about the practicalities

Lovelysummerdays · 24/08/2024 17:22

PoopedAndScooped · 24/08/2024 16:26

I know lots too!

This is actually a thing in the Nanny world !

I didn’t toddler proof my place. I did dig out a travel cot and we had a stand up kitchen helper thing. I had twin 7yo and they were quite keen on the little one so the eldest would vanish for screens/ homework/ trampoline. Twins would read to toddler and set up tea parties and show her their teddies. It’s not a set up that would work for everyone but I’d assume that people happy to go for a Nwoc have had a think about the practicalities

gbmom · 24/08/2024 17:21

Would gladly pay for a playmate for my son and there are many others who would do so also around 10-12 is fine.

YellowphantGrey · 24/08/2024 17:21

Vizella · 24/08/2024 15:40

Hi all,

I am a single mother of a 1.5 year old DS whom I've committed to looking after until he's 3 - I believe in prioritising his needs above my career, etc etc. I live with my parents at the moment, that's how I can afford it.

However, I am eating into my savings and would like to make some income as an after-school nanny so that I don't deplete all of my savings. Otherwise, I might have to go back to work and I don't want to do that.

My question is, would parents be okay with me looking after their children while I bring my DS along - he is well-behaved and bright, not the type to run around tearing things down - and also, should I charge slightly less or the same hourly rate?

So, in London, nannies charge about £15 net per hour, should I charge £10-12 per hour?

Thanks for your advice (and sorry if any of this offends some of you - no idea how lol, but you never know).

Will you be ok prioritising the needs of the children you look after over your own child?

Have you any idea what being a Nanny involves re employed and self employed or are you looking for cash in hand work?

Viviennemary · 24/08/2024 17:19

No. I wouldn't be happy with this set up. It seldom works. I think the most you could do would me to charge child -minder rates.

saraclara · 24/08/2024 17:17

One of the mums that I was at antenatal classes with (and post natal get togethers) was a qualified nursery nurse. I needed to go back to work for three months when my our babies were six months old, and was fretting about what to do. My baby had had a trial morning with a childminder near my work, but had screamed the whole morning, and I couldn't bear the thought of her going there again.

Friend tentatively suggested that she look after her at my house, bringing her baby with her. Circumstances meant that she was living with her parents, so working at mine suited her, as well as making my mornings very much easier. I jumped at the chance, and a mutual friend lent us a twin pushchair.

It worked brilliantly. She had looked after multiple babies in her job, so she was calm and together and I encouraged her to host and visit our mutual mum friends. They all said how great she was and confirmed how happy my DD was and how the babies enjoyed each others company.

Obviously only my experience, and somewhat different ages, but I was very happy with the result.