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My sister is upset with me for snapping at her son

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FionaHoney · 23/08/2024 21:57

My 6 year old daughter, and 9 months, is being bullied by her cousin. She has a doll which I bought her, the chad baby ava doll from argos, and she loves it very much and plays with it all the time at home.

Recently my sister's child, a boy, 10 years old, has been playing a very mean joke on her. the joke involves him finding the toy and pupeting it whilst doing a voice called "baby dave" which distresses by daughter very much.

I tried to stop my nephew and "baby dave" politely by suggesting he give her the toy back. but he continued across Multiple visits with this cruel joke. Eventually my daughter and I had enough of "baby dave" and i snapped at him. My sister overheard and has berated me on whatsapp for being to harsh with him and hasn't visited since.

Am I being unreasonable? What can I do to make sure my sister feels welcome, but that "baby dave" doesn't make a return??

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Jifmicroliquid · 23/08/2024 22:10

Tell your sister to sort her horrid child out and then maybe you wouldn’t have to tell him off.

Flourpowwer · 23/08/2024 22:09

You will learn that when you live life by your rules others won’t necessarily like them. That doesn’t mean that you are wrong. Stick by saying your DD was upset by your DN behaviour, you asked him multiple times to stop and eventually you snapped. You are sorry if he was shocked but he was upsetting your DD and repeat. Don’t row back.

Bellatrixpure · 23/08/2024 22:03

Does your sister have selective hearing? Why is she not berating her little brat for bullying your daughter?

purpleme12 · 23/08/2024 22:03

If that's all you did then I think that's fine

I'd just text your sister saying I'm sorry but he was upsetting my child and wouldn't put baby down. So I just sternly told him to put baby down

MoonAndStarsAndSky · 23/08/2024 22:02

Your sister is being ridiculous. Tell her you had asked Callum multiple times to stop and it was upsetting your daughter, you don't want to make an issue of it but it needed to stop.

FionaHoney · 23/08/2024 22:00

purpleme12 · 23/08/2024 21:58

What do you mean by 'snapped at him'?

I quite loudly and bluntly said "Put baby Ava down." to him. I nearly slipped up and said "Dave" which I think is encouraging Callum's poor behaviour even more...

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purpleme12 · 23/08/2024 21:58

What do you mean by 'snapped at him'?