To find DH working out unattractive

That's so sad to hear. I hope you are OK.

This!

Tell him to watch out - my dad gave himself a hernia when he had his.

Is he doing the 75 hard challenge? That is 2 workouts per day

I hardly ever workout, and im 50, but then i have a high metabolism (i know, im cursed), honestly im most probably obese on the inside, id much prefer a conversation with a little red wine any day.

Agreed. OP came across quite judgemental to me.

This is exactly what it’ll be. Groups of male friends are (in my experience) brutal to one another via “banter”

There are many posters on here who are simply DESPERATE to insinuate cheating. Plenty on this thread and they know who they are. I think they get off on it.

Of course sometimes it is the case but just don't let the doom mongers affect you without evidence. Especially the mad one who has decided your husband is gay. She needs a hobby

It's just one more week to go, leave him to it. If this carries on after the trip then fair enough it's annoying.

OP, read back over your message and imagine it was a husband posting about his wife and she wanted to get in shape before a girl's weekend (perhaps with friends that are far more gym fit and bikini ready than her). If the man was complaining that she wanted to do a workout rather than hang out with him on one evening, he would be called insecure and controlling.

You could always join him work out together.

They could also be one of these tedious groups where insulting each other passes for wit. They seem to be quite common amongst the 'lads' holiday cohort. Perhaps he doesn't want to be a targeted for the hilarious banter.

Im like you husband op ive really started to put work outs and healthy eating in place no more junk and take outs.
I have done in the past but failed this time for some reason its sticking and i like it.
I dont go to the gym but i work out at home im not doing it for anyone other than my self.
My belly as gotten flatter in 3 weeks i feel better my chin is going now.
My skin is glowing.
Im not obsessed but im not going to stop ill soon be in my 40s and i want to look good when i get there.

My OH is getting increasingly into cycling to stay fit. It’s definitely a sense of mortality as older thing. I think it’s fab as long as it doesn’t impede him doing a fair share of house/family jobs. When it does it irritates me immensely and I say so. It’s totally fair to use your free time for building fitness. It’s totally not fair to use your partners (regardless of what they plan to use their free time for and whether or not you think it’s a good use of time).

He does sound insecure and as though he's panicking about being 'beach body ready'.

sounds to me its about how he looks to these friends he sees rarely. he doesnt want them thinking he's let himself go! maybe he was always the sporty on of the group when they were younger and wants to keep that dream alive?
I think this is right.
I'm going away with 7 other women in October, some I haven't seen in a long time. I'm already hitting the gym because I don't want to be the ' fat one' of the group when I used to be so in shape.

She's just explained why it's annoying? He's prioritising it over everything. So stop being a goady twat

Are you jealous because he’s in better shape than you ?

How many women on here are obsessed with looks and trying everything to look younger and spending heaps on make-up, botox etc. Going to the gym making themselves look good so they can get a man

Why does it have to be about you? He is not asking your permission and you don't need to provide it

I have noticed a number of my male friends becoming quite obsessive about their fitness in their 40’s. As pp have mentioned I think it’s often tied to a sense of mortality & health issues becoming more common in middle age. It would annoy me too!

In this instance I think I'd be cross that he's getting a child-free, wife-free week next week, but he's also ditching childcare duties on you, plus not prioritising spending time with you before he goes.

I do understand that men have the same insecurities about their bodies as women and he may well want to "buff up" before his trip, but he should do that in his own time, not when he's supposed to be parenting.

I must admit that was my first thought…

OP, if your H flirted and was interested in women, as his wife you'd be the last person to know. He got together with you didn't he? So he's clearly capable of instigating or responding to approaches from women.
However, if he's a bit of a hero worshipper of this group of men, sees them as aspirational, or has insecurities, he could be genuinely trying to get in shape for them. After all, women diet because they don't want to be the 'fattest on the beach' with their group of friends on holiday, so its not inconceivable.

Sounds like he's trying (unrealistically) to get beach bod ready like some women do when going on a girls trip in the last week.

Leave him to it. He's probably comparing himself to his mates, especially if any of them have maintained a better physique than himself or if any aren't dads.

If it continues when comes back, that would be a bigger issue.